*Sigh*... The lives we live.

[Simply_Tom]

Tell me if this sounds familiar. If you're a girl, replace "girl" with "guy":


1. You Find a girl who's cute and into you (normal step 1 even for vanilla).

2. Go on a few dates.

3. Feel comfortable enough to ask if she's ticklish

----a. She's actually NOT ticklish.. ABORT MISSION!

----b. She's ticklish but hates being tickled. (To some, this is ok. Not to me )

----c. She's ticklish and doesn't mind it. (Not bad. I can handle it)

----d. She's ticklish AND loves being tickled. DING DING, we have a winner! (unfortunately this has never happened to me)

4. ????

5. Profit



Now... Out of 3a, 3b, 3c, and 3d, can you guess which just happened to me?




I hate how this happens, but if one of the unfavorable options occurs, I always seem to look at the girl differently and can't be happy being with her. It's a very big part of dating for me.

 

[rhiannon]

You know, there is so much more about a relationship than tickling....if you reduce it to that, even if you find someone who is into it there is a big chance that it will go wrong!

 

[Simply_Tom]

I know there is more to a relationship than just tickling... they are just more meaningful when a couple shares similar interests obviously. To me, its like being in love or liking someone a lot and not being able to kiss them or show affection.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I understand exactly what you mean. I'm sure there are a million and one vanilla guys out there who would be happy to indulge me in my fetish, but I have come to a pretty solid conclusion that I'll be most happy with someone who not only shares my kinks, but is willing to experiment with me and try new things. I feel like I learn something new about myself so often, that it would unfair to drag a vanilla into a relationship with me not knowing what kind of stuff I'll be into in the years to come. Call it picky - call it unreasonable - call it whatever you want. Compatibility in this area is not something I'm willing to sacrifice.

If a girl not being ticklish or not liking to be tickled is a deal breaker for you, so be it. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about that.

 

[Mephistopheles]

Why ask? Just try her out in a playful manner, can lead to all sorts of fun.

 

[Simply_Tom]

Thanks guys for seeing my point. In my opinion, and correct me if I'm wrong, but being a ler dating a vanilla seems harder than being a lee. A lot of vanillas find being tickled torturous, though if a vanilla is dating a Lee, they can usually indulge in tickling even if it doesn't turn them on like that just because they know you like it.

Why ask? Just try her out in a playful manner, can lead to all sorts of fun.

Asking was just an example. Usually I do try it

 

[cue]

Well, as someone who is married to someone who isn't into it, I can say that as a 'lee, that it's very arousing in the bedroom. 'Lees may have an easier time when married or in a relationship with someone because the vanilla doesn't have to worry about getting tickled. Scott hates being tickled and so I don't even try to tickle him. But he'll tickle me until the cows come home, because it is such a turn-on for me and he always gets sex afterwards.

Maybe I'm in the minority here, but I couldn't ever let anyone that I wasn't in a relationship with just come and tickle me for as long or as much as I want. I just couldn't. Some people do get into threesomes, but I'm not one of them either. Tickling is too personal for me.

However, I don't know if dating someone who wouldn't tickle me would be an issue. I've been with Scott for 17 years and have only been interested in him tickling me for the past 10 years or so.

 

[guitarman]

So what if 3b happens, but you really REALLY like the girl. Do you not think that the more you get to know each other, and if she eventually finds out how much you like tickling that she could be converted??

Obviously if she's not ticklish then yeah, definitely abort mission. I could never be in a relationship with a girl that wasn't ticklish so I'm with you on that.

But isn't it a possibility that she could grow to like it knowing how much you like it?

 

[Simply_Tom]

So what if 3b happens, but you really REALLY like the girl. Do you not think that the more you get to know each other, and if she eventually finds out how much you like tickling that she could be converted??

Obviously if she's not ticklish then yeah, definitely abort mission. I could never be in a relationship with a girl that wasn't ticklish so I'm with you on that.

But isn't it a possibility that she could grow to like it knowing how much you like it?

Yeah I'm down and have tried converting girls. Never had it work in my favor though.

Thank you. Ticklishness, to me, is a physical attraction like beautiful hair, eyes, smile, etc. If a girl isn't ticklish I just can't look at her the same way.

 

[Morning Lorie]

If it's that much of a deal breaker for you then good luck with your life long bachelor status.

 

[Simply_Tom]

If it's that much of a deal breaker for you then good luck with your life long bachelor status.

Id rather have meaningless flings all my life than be unhappy in a marriage.. I'm pretty confident that ticklish girls outnumber the not ticklish ones. My odds are pretty good, just havent the best luck lately.. I don't think its asking for much. Thanks for your concern though...

 

[AmericaRocks]

If it's that much of a deal breaker for you then good luck with your life long bachelor status.

yeahh, I don't think ticklish girls are really that hard to find, actually...

 

[Speedbump]

If it's that much of a deal breaker for you then good luck with your life long bachelor status.

No need to insult the guy just because you don't agree. You have no idea what it's like to be him, and while you may be able to sacrifice the tickling aspect just to be in a relationship; not everyone is willing to do so.

I'm with him when it comes to her not being ticklish and finding the girl unattractive because of it.

However I wouldn't give up on a girl who hates it after only a few dates, 'cause things can change once she realizes how much it means to you. But if she outright refuses to indulge in any way shape or form, then I'd be done with it in a heartbeat.

 

[Naughty Summer]

Maybe you are just trying to hard?? Sometimes when you are not looking for something it falls in your lap. If tickling is an important part of your life then I think you should just take your time and you will find it. You seem like you are still very young so you don't need to settle. If you settle you will regret it for the rest of your life and not have the tickling fun you want and are looking for.

I wouldn't just take a girls word for it though. I never got tickled the right way for years so I didn't enjoy it. I think if you show a girl you are interested in how you tickle she just may enjoy it. Don't get frustrated she is out there for you, she just hasn't knocked on your door yet.

 

[Aimee]

plenty of like minded people find each other! even right on this forum!
it's good to know what you want and not just give up!!!

 

[Simply_Tom]

Thanks speed. Yeah. Also a dramatization about aborting mission if she hates it after 2 dates. Also, love the song in your signature. I'm a sucker for power metal.

Summer. I appreciate it . You know, this thread wasn't supposed to be a sob story. I'm not desperate, though I do tend to try too hard. I was just curious how many of you felt the same way.

 

[Speedbump]

Thanks speed. Yeah. Also a dramatization about aborting mission if she hates it after 2 dates. Also, love the song in your signature. I'm a sucker for power metal.

Summer. I appreciate it . You know, this thread wasn't supposed to be a sob story. I'm not desperate, though I do tend to try too hard. I was just curious how many of you felt the same way.

Awesome bud! I like you more now!

Power Metal is like all I've listened to (almost) for the past 6-7 years or so.. lol

I just switched the video in my sig, to something which you may or may not find sexy as hell.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

Don't sweat it , Simply_Tom. The right girl for you is out there. Somewhere.

You just gotta find her.


... & kidnap her.

 

[Aimee]

Don't sweat it , Simply_Tom. The right girl for you is out there. Somewhere.

You just gotta find her.


... & kidnap her.

 

[Simply_Tom]

Awesome bud! I like you more now!

Power Metal is like all I've listened to (almost) for the past 6-7 years or so.. lol

I just switched the video in my sig, to something which you may or may not find sexy as hell.

Yes sir! I love all sorts of metal : death, melodic, symphonic.

Kamelot is one of my favorites. Ghost opera is a masterpiece. Also really like Shadow of Uther.

Have you heard of Savage circus, Rhapsody, or Sabaton?

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

If it's that much of a deal breaker for you then good luck with your life long bachelor status.

Considering he's on a tickling fetish forum, he doesn't seem to be a creeper from what I've seen, he's attractive, and he seems nice - I don't think his odds are all that bad.

You, on the other hand, may want to consider finding a baggadouche fetish forum.

 

[Simply_Tom]

Don't sweat it , Simply_Tom. The right girl for you is out there. Somewhere.

You just gotta find her.


... & kidnap her.

Best plan I've heard today! And I've been listening to my paranoid boss ramble on about how to get more money all day.


GIRLS: in this thread, leave your address, favorite drink, closest pharmacy that sells sleeping pills, and time of day you're most often alone


Edit: skippy, you might wanna retract that "not a creeper" comment
hehe. Thank you

 

[Speedbump]

Yes sir! I love all sorts of metal : death, melodic, symphonic.

Kamelot is one of my favorites. Ghost opera is a masterpiece. Also really like Shadow of Uther.

Have you heard of Savage circus, Rhapsody, or Sabaton?

I find very few people like Shadow of Uther compared to their newer stuff. Khan was really just getting into the groove of things when it was made, but it's one of my favorite from them as well! Definitely loved Ghost Opera... Forever, Karma and Center of the Universe are more of my top rated songs.

Center of the Universe is my favorite ever from them. It's the song that REALLY got me into them back in the day.

Rhapsody (of Fire... bleh) got me into Power Metal at first. I was lucky enough that my cousin was listening to them, and I kicked him off my computer, and when I put my headphones on, Emerald Sword was playing and it was magic. lol

I've never listened to Savage Circus or Sabaton... I believe I've heard of them in passing on youtube and such, but I've never really paid attention. I'm gonna look them up once I get back from the grocery store in a bit.

Sonata Arctica is another favorite band of mine. Edguy as well. And of course you know Heavenly from my old sig video. etc, etc...

 

[Mephistopheles]

Asking was just an example. Usually I do try it

or my favourite: tickle the living daylights out of her, THEN ask if she's ticklish

 

[Simply_Tom]

Tell you the truth Mephistopheles, I don't think that second part is really necessary. I'd rather do it while wiggling my fingers above her

Oh and Speed, I accepted your request. Yeah check out sabaton (good song is Primo Victoria). Different from most power metal but still good. Savage Circus I like the song Evil Eyes. Both of these can be found on youtube. I'd search for you, but that'd just be too easy wouldn't it?


Could someone please direct me to the baggadouche forum?