cutenticklishnc
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Why is it so hard to find a relationship with someone into tickling geez lol
It's hard because vast percentage of tickle lovers in general are males, and vast percentage of females tickle lovers are mostly gay, that is to say lesbian. lol If I had to guess, I would say that (in best case scenario) the ratio between males and females is about 85 % - 15 %. Plus most of those women are lesbian or bisexual. I have nothing against that of course, but I'm just stating the obvious. Tickling fetish is not really the best one for straight males.
Why is it so hard to find a relationship with someone into tickling geez lol
In my experience, I've always placed having the relationship first. I figure I should get to know someone before I share my fetish with her. I want to really know someone before opening up like that. In some cases, we never got that far. In a handful of cases, it caused a break-up; and in some, it was accepted and we enjoyed tickling together. Unfortunately, all those died out due to other circumstances. Bottom line is, don't make tickling the #1 priority. Get to know someone first. If they love you for who you are, they'll love you for being a 'ler or 'lee as well.
Meant so respectfully, and not trying to be dismissive of your obvious frustration--
I think many struggle with this because they look for the tickling first, then the relationship. Speaking as a woman, enjoying tickling is a thin basis on which to start a relationship (I assume you mean you are looking for long-term.) Is it possible to start a relationship and learn about the other person, and let her learn about you? If there's ultimate incompatibility then you might want to end it, but in many cases people who are truly in a relationship will/should try to accommodate each other. That's how you get anal also.
Im not so hung up on my fetish that its all i think about, but i dont think anyone should have to settle for a relationship they are ultimately unsatisfied with. The whole point of dating is to get to know someone enough to determine if something more serious might be worthwhile so to wait until deep feelings are involved before talking about the tickling interest is setting oneself up for an awkward conversation with loads of pressure.
Its possible to find someone that you mesh with on all levels. Lifes too short to waste time. Just my .02. Of course, tickling may be more important to me than some here. I dont need it, but rather not go without.
People would have a lot better luck finding someone who's okay with tickling (or even enjoys, and can grow to really enjoy it) than they would trying to find someone who shares it with the same level of intensity they do. A romantic relationship is about bonding on a number of levels, not just one relatively innocuous sexual fetish. Of course, that means you have to bring something else to the table.