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I am fairly certain I will never have a real tickling experience.

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WildLaughter

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Wondering if anybody is in the same boat as me?
I don't mean you're just starting out, or you haven't tried to pursue it yet. I mean is there anybody else who is trying to make this happen, find a tickling partner, or meet someone, or whatever you want to call it, and have nothing but failure?
Tried every website, advice given to me, contacts, etc.
Not to mention certain current life restrictions that are not helping.

I've never even been in the same room with a person who has an average interest in tickling.
Maybe this whole tickling thing is in some other universe I'm not allowed to be a part of.

I think I just needed to vent… :(
 
If you're in NYC then get yourself to one of Rachissahope's munchies. They have a regular attendance and comment more on here so people get to know you...
 
Wondering if anybody is in the same boat as me?
I don't mean you're just starting out, or you haven't tried to pursue it yet. I mean is there anybody else who is trying to make this happen, find a tickling partner, or meet someone, or whatever you want to call it, and have nothing but failure?
Tried every website, advice given to me, contacts, etc.
Not to mention certain current life restrictions that are not helping.

I've never even been in the same room with a person who has an average interest in tickling.
Maybe this whole tickling thing is in some other universe I'm not allowed to be a part of.

I think I just needed to vent… :(

Date casually and sneak in a tickle? Be weary of the idea of trying to meet someone with the fetish (sometimes there's clash?).

Just be happy. I know it sounds silly but I'm happier single and working on myself than I was trying to find the approval of another.
 
In my own, humble opinion, if it is a relationship you are looking for, you are better off finding the right person for you, AND THEN introducing her to your "secret world", not vice versa. You don't wanna be in a relationship with someone absolutely incompatible with you personality-wise who just happens to share your fetish. It is very easy to tickle a girl when you are in the early/flirty stages of a relationship, then find out if she likes it or absolutely hates it. So you know where she stands on the tickling front. In the first case, it is not too hard to then show her how wonderful it can be in the context of sexual games. Most girls I know like to be tied up anyway. In the second case, at least you know if you still want her, or if you should stay away.

In my own, limited experience, this has worked every time. All girls are different, and they all have their limits (I met a girl who LOVED being tickled, but who could really NOT stand it if it lasted to long [in other words: quick tickles okay, torture not okay], another one who, although liked it, far preferred to tickle ME, etc...), but I have yet to meet one who did not warm up to the idea, once I had weeded out the absolutely not ticklish/not interested ones in the very early stages.

Voilà. I hope this helps somehow. I am soon going to marry my longstanding tickling partner; we did not meet through any website, just the old-fashioned way: at a friends' party. Try it, it should work!
 
Gatherings truly are the way to go. I can't WAiT to start attending. :)

So have no fear... you WILL get to have some fun soon. :)
 
Wildlaughter, one wonders why you haven't sought out an escort? This has been at least moderately successful for me, and produced one long-term relationship that was incredibly fulfilling. Many here will doubt that advice, but I'm just sharing my experience.
 
Dude you live in NYC. You're the last person who should be complaining about lack of tickling. There's at least 3 different NY groups that have foot fetish parties w/beautiful women on a regular basis. Plus there's hundreds of escorts in the area, some of whom are fetish friendly, and I know there's at least a few S&M Dungeons who'll fulfill your tickling fetish. Last but not least there are a lot of gatherings listed on this forum, in the NY/NJ area. If you can't find tickling action in NYC, you're not going to find it anywhere.
 
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In my own, humble opinion, if it is a relationship you are looking for, you are better off finding the right person for you, AND THEN introducing her to your "secret world", not vice versa. You don't wanna be in a relationship with someone absolutely incompatible with you personality-wise who just happens to share your fetish. It is very easy to tickle a girl when you are in the early/flirty stages of a relationship, then find out if she likes it or absolutely hates it. So you know where she stands on the tickling front. In the first case, it is not too hard to then show her how wonderful it can be in the context of sexual games. Most girls I know like to be tied up anyway. In the second case, at least you know if you still want her, or if you should stay away.

In my own, limited experience, this has worked every time. All girls are different, and they all have their limits (I met a girl who LOVED being tickled, but who could really NOT stand it if it lasted to long [in other words: quick tickles okay, torture not okay], another one who, although liked it, far preferred to tickle ME, etc...), but I have yet to meet one who did not warm up to the idea, once I had weeded out the absolutely not ticklish/not interested ones in the very early stages.

Voilà. I hope this helps somehow. I am soon going to marry my longstanding tickling partner; we did not meet through any website, just the old-fashioned way: at a friends' party. Try it, it should work!

Maybe it's because I've had the opposite experience but I disagree with this. I'm currently doing the opposite.. I just got out of a year long relationship with a wonderful person who wasn't into tickling as a kink. She would endulge me, sure, but it was never enough, and at a certain point I realized I liked being with this person but resented the lack of sexual fulfillment that tickling brings me. Oh, and she was strictly monogamous so as long as I was with her there was absolutely no chance of getting what I wanted. And it wasn't just her.. I had been doing this for years, with the same results - being with people who find it fun but nowhere near on the level that I do, feeling sexually unsatisfied, blah blah blah... it just all sucks.

So when this previous relationship ended, I said "fuck it.. I'm gonna find someone who likes what I like, dammit!" because I can only take so much of this being sexually unfulfilled in a relationship thing.

I mean.. if you can end a relationship the minute you realize that this person isn't going to be able to fulfill your desires, then I guess do that.. but I was never so great about it. I'd end up with an otherwise totally wonderful person and then feel selfish trying to end it over that, and then I'd stay with them anyway. So.. that's on me I guess. But I can't do it anymore..

Anyway.. also want to address OP directly here. I've been there. I've accepted that whole "universe I'm not allowed to be a part of" thing. And I still struggle with it, I still feel especially invisible in the community sometimes.. but I'm gonna tell you something: it's not true. But also, you can't expect that universe to suck you into it, you have to force your way into it. Whatever advice you took, take it 10x more seriously. Whatever communities you're in, be (more?) active in them! my problem was always that I expected the community to embrace me, but it's the other way around.. you have to embrace the community, and then you might get something out of it (because honestly, nothing is ever guaranteed, except that if you do nothing you'll get nothing).

And I mean.. you live in NYC. I'm kinda sitting here scratching my head on that one, to be honest. You have a million more options than someone like me living in a rural, conservative fuckscape does.. so, find them and utilize them!

You just have to put yourself out there, hope for the best but expect the worst, and keep trying until something happens!
 
So true. I'm from Michigan and it's not a tickling hot bed or barren wasteland for that matter either. its probably right in the middle. Plenty of opportunities to explore and enjoy here. Just gotta buck up and put in the work.
Dude you live in NYC. You're the last person who should be complaining about lack of tickling. There's at least 3 different NY groups that have foot fetish parties w/beautiful women. Plus there's hundreds of escorts in the area, some of whom are fetish friendly, and I know there's at least a few S&M Dungeons who'll fulfill your tickling fetish. Last but not least there are a lot of gatherings listed on this forum, in the NY/NJ area. If you can't find tickling action in NYC, you're not going to find it anywhere.
 
If you're in NYC then get yourself to one of Rachissahope's munchies. They have a regular attendance and comment more on here so people get to know you...

Looks like those are all on Long Island. Sorry I should have clarified better. I'm actually North NJ, but not far from the city.
In regards to attending gatherings or munchies many factors would have to fall into place. If I am available that date and time. If I am able to get to the location. I still live at home, so I would have to lie about where I am going for a couple hours (and I'm not a big fan of lying, bending the truth yes).
 
Date casually and sneak in a tickle? Be weary of the idea of trying to meet someone with the fetish (sometimes there's clash?).

Just be happy. I know it sounds silly but I'm happier single and working on myself than I was trying to find the approval of another.

My dating life is very uneventful. If I were to date and eventually have a girlfriend, introducing tickling would be so far down on the list. I'm not even worried about it. The odds of the other person being interested in tickling is slim to none. I know not to wait until I find a tickle enthusiast.
 
In my own, limited experience, this has worked every time. All girls are different, and they all have their limits (I met a girl who LOVED being tickled, but who could really NOT stand it if it lasted to long [in other words: quick tickles okay, torture not okay], another one who, although liked it, far preferred to tickle ME, etc...), but I have yet to meet one who did not warm up to the idea, once I had weeded out the absolutely not ticklish/not interested ones in the very early stages.

Voilà. I hope this helps somehow. I am soon going to marry my longstanding tickling partner; we did not meet through any website, just the old-fashioned way: at a friends' party. Try it, it should work!

Thanks for reply. I have brought up tickling to some people in the past and in the most benign way possible. Nobody has ever entertained the idea of warming up to it or expressed any desire to even learn more about it. Either the topic or myself just freaks them out.
Meeting new people is a little bit of a challenge because I've been dealing with a minor social anxiety disorder since I was young. The good news is I am getting more comfortable around people and groups, so that is a plus.
 
Philadelphia is only a train ride away from where you live in NYC.
I would advise you to attend NEST 2017.
http://www.ticklingforum.com/forumdisplay.php?36-NEST

I always dream about going. Again too many factors I have to consider. I can't just disappear for a weekend if I still live at home. Going away to a different city for a weekend will be seen as very out of character for those who know me. Personally I don't have a problem with it. But I would have to come up with a hell of a story as to why I am going there and for what. Not sure if 'm comfortable telling that complex of a lie.
 
Wildlaughter, one wonders why you haven't sought out an escort? This has been at least moderately successful for me, and produced one long-term relationship that was incredibly fulfilling. Many here will doubt that advice, but I'm just sharing my experience.

There is something that bothers me about the fact the only way I can achieve this is to pay for it (if i understand what you are saying), especially in that sense. Thanks for the idea though.
 
Dude you live in NYC. You're the last person who should be complaining about lack of tickling. There's at least 3 different NY groups that have foot fetish parties w/beautiful women on a regular basis. Plus there's hundreds of escorts in the area, some of whom are fetish friendly, and I know there's at least a few S&M Dungeons who'll fulfill your tickling fetish. Last but not least there are a lot of gatherings listed on this forum, in the NY/NJ area. If you can't find tickling action in NYC, you're not going to find it anywhere.

Yes, I am also shocked about being so close to the NYC area and have had zero success. I know of at least 2 video producers who are based in the area as well. I've tried to get in touch with them. One has completely ignored me from day one, the other replied a couple times then stopped. I'm only trying to introduce myself to them and get a dialogue going, but I can't even do that.
Also, I have contacted numerous tickling models in the past. From those who posted here on the TMF, their websites and such, and a couple well known models who I might be the only TMFer with their contact info. I know the chances of having a "session" with one of them is low, but hopefully they could teach me a thing or two and provide some advice. Before even getting to the tickling stuff, almost every single one of them reply back once, then shut me out altogether.
I have been in contact with a dom/mistress (whatever the correct term is here), which who I was very comfortable with. I think we had a good rapport, but she had to take some time off. That was almost a year ago. I guess I could start looking for another...
 
Anyway.. also want to address OP directly here. I've been there. I've accepted that whole "universe I'm not allowed to be a part of" thing. And I still struggle with it, I still feel especially invisible in the community sometimes.. but I'm gonna tell you something: it's not true. But also, you can't expect that universe to suck you into it, you have to force your way into it. Whatever advice you took, take it 10x more seriously. Whatever communities you're in, be (more?) active in them! my problem was always that I expected the community to embrace me, but it's the other way around.. you have to embrace the community, and then you might get something out of it (because honestly, nothing is ever guaranteed, except that if you do nothing you'll get nothing).

And I mean.. you live in NYC. I'm kinda sitting here scratching my head on that one, to be honest. You have a million more options than someone like me living in a rural, conservative fuckscape does.. so, find them and utilize them!

You just have to put yourself out there, hope for the best but expect the worst, and keep trying until something happens!

Thanks for replying. I think I follow what you are saying. For me, I think this whole thing has gotten to a point of no return. Meaning if this were to happen, I would feel like the other person or persons is just doing me a favor. Like I don't want to ask for it, I want the other person to want to tickle me (or be tickled).
I watch great videos from these producers and I say to myself about what is taking place - "This actually happened". That these 2 people or however many people in the video, were there - with this bondage equipment - one tickling another - like it no big deal to them and they get to do this every day.
I'm glad someone else felt it all looks so other-worldly at times.
 
So true. I'm from Michigan and it's not a tickling hot bed or barren wasteland for that matter either. its probably right in the middle. Plenty of opportunities to explore and enjoy here. Just gotta buck up and put in the work.

The effort I have been putting in has been mentally and physically tiring. I've thought about giving up, but isn't this interest a part of you? How can you stop that? My life outside tickling is not bad at all. I'm relatively happy. I want to take the next step, trust me I do, and it seems so impossible.
 
Dude you live in NYC. You're the last person who should be complaining about lack of tickling. There's at least 3 different NY groups that have foot fetish parties w/beautiful women on a regular basis. Plus there's hundreds of escorts in the area, some of whom are fetish friendly, and I know there's at least a few S&M Dungeons who'll fulfill your tickling fetish. Last but not least there are a lot of gatherings listed on this forum, in the NY/NJ area. If you can't find tickling action in NYC, you're not going to find it anywhere.

Lol, with such a description, you are gonna make everyone wanna move there! Have you considered getting paid by the city to do this? ;) NY as the most tickle-friendly place in the world; I can already see Lady Liberty swapping her torch for a feather~
 
Thanks for reply. I have brought up tickling to some people in the past and in the most benign way possible. Nobody has ever entertained the idea of warming up to it or expressed any desire to even learn more about it. Either the topic or myself just freaks them out.
Meeting new people is a little bit of a challenge because I've been dealing with a minor social anxiety disorder since I was young. The good news is I am getting more comfortable around people and groups, so that is a plus.

You welcome.

I know what you are saying. I am quite shy myself, and I used to be even more so when I was younger. Travelling abroad helped a lot actually; people bond easier on international campuses, and there is much solidarity among people who are all a little bit "lost". I'll never be a "social butterfly" like my fiancée, but my social life and confidence have improved a lot from the time when I did not even dare to attend certain parties~

My experience is limited, once again, and may not suit your situation/personality. I have seen other replies that advise the opposite, and I guess they are just as valid. Finding the right match is no rocket science after all, but in my view it is quite the romantic thing to gently walk your beloved through a world that she did not really know. It can even, given time, strenghten your bond. I am surprised that the girls you have met did not show any signs of curiosity; in my own experience it is quite the opposite.

There is one thing I may have overlooked: I am French and I currently live in China. So I have dated mainly European and Chinese girls, never an American. Maybe there is some kind of cultural difference that I am not aware of? Although judging by the friendships I struck with the ladies here, American girls seem just as great~
 
You welcome.

I know what you are saying. I am quite shy myself, and I used to be even more so when I was younger. Travelling abroad helped a lot actually; people bond easier on international campuses, and there is much solidarity among people who are all a little bit "lost". I'll never be a "social butterfly" like my fiancée, but my social life and confidence have improved a lot from the time when I did not even dare to attend certain parties~

My experience is limited, once again, and may not suit your situation/personality. I have seen other replies that advise the opposite, and I guess they are just as valid. Finding the right match is no rocket science after all, but in my view it is quite the romantic thing to gently walk your beloved through a world that she did not really know. It can even, given time, strenghten your bond. I am surprised that the girls you have met did not show any signs of curiosity; in my own experience it is quite the opposite.

There is one thing I may have overlooked: I am French and I currently live in China. So I have dated mainly European and Chinese girls, never an American. Maybe there is some kind of cultural difference that I am not aware of? Although judging by the friendships I struck with the ladies here, American girls seem just as great~

So I just pulled this off wikipedia.....
Canada and United States
Ernie Kovacs and Edie Adams from his television show, Take a Good Look.

One report suggested the United States as well as other western-oriented countries were different from the rest of the world because "love is the reason for mating," as opposed to marriages being arranged to cement economic and class ties between families and promote political stability.[5] Dating, by mutual consent of two single people, is the norm. British writer Kira Cochrane, after moving to the U.S., found herself grappling with the American approach to dating.[144] She wondered why it was acceptable to juggle "10 potential partners" while weighing different attributes; she found American-style dating to be "exhausting and strange."[144] She found dating in America to be "organized in a fairly formal fashion" with men approaching women and asking point blank for a date; she found this to be "awkward."[144] She described the "third date rule" which was that women weren't supposed to have sex until the third date even if they desired it, although men were supposed to try for sex.[145] She wrote: "Dating rules almost always cast the man as aggressor, and the woman as prey, which frankly makes me feel nauseous."[145] Canadian writer Danielle Crittenden, however, chronicling female angst, criticized a tendency not to take dating seriously and suggested that postponing marriage into one's thirties was problematic:[146]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dating

It's not all fun and games.

OP, you're from northern NJ....I'm more in the north central region myself (think not far from New Brunswick).

Some posts of yours to take note of:
The effort I have been putting in has been mentally and physically tiring. I've thought about giving up, but isn't this interest a part of you? How can you stop that? My life outside tickling is not bad at all. I'm relatively happy. I want to take the next step, trust me I do, and it seems so impossible.
So if you're tired, you're not happy. "Not bad" can be taken the same as "I'm not poor and out on the streets so everything's fine". Find some energy. Hobbies are great. I asked my cousins (who happen to be from way north jersey and are in their 60s) how they met and they chalked things up to "find something you enjoy doing and make a friend who enjoys doing it with you". There is no real "magic" on pof or tinder....so don't worry about them.
Everybody tells me soon. Soon has turned into 10+ years...
But as it says in the song "for a moment like this, some people wait a lifetime". It's not an easy thing to just "meet" people. Don't get discouraged.
I always dream about going. Again too many factors I have to consider. I can't just disappear for a weekend if I still live at home. Going away to a different city for a weekend will be seen as very out of character for those who know me. Personally I don't have a problem with it. But I would have to come up with a hell of a story as to why I am going there and for what. Not sure if 'm comfortable telling that complex of a lie.
My family life is similar. Basically...I mean you're essentially going to be paying to meet people for the "guarantee" of knowing people are "like you". It's not a bad thing, but you're right, it's a trip. If you have a friend out in that area, sure, good, go for it. Otherwise man, don't let this fetish consume you; you're a lot more "normal" than some people to "just be into tickling". My advice? Ride it out.

Sometimes I'm not sure I should share things, but I think this track says it all:
https://youtu.be/NwMPjUPrCwU
 
Holy cow! It's official: you guys are insane :blaugh: If this is true, I wonder what the reasons behind this very distict behavior are.
 
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