DebonairDavid
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For those of you who have seen me on here, some of you know I can sometimes say things without realizing the consequences of them. This doesn't excuse my behavior, as you've seen me apologize or admit I was wrong, but it's worth mentioning for why I'm like this:
I'm Autistic, which means I can sometimes be impulsive and say impolite things. Other times, I either don't know or struggle to follow what most people consider "the unwritten/unspoken rules". Lastly, sometimes my emotional immaturity can cause me to say or do things I later regret. Tbh, there's a steep learning curve to it, but it'd be helpful for you to learn more about Autism so you can have a better understanding of my behavior problems.
I came from a bad upbringing and subconsciously learned many bad behaviors from my parents, most-notably social etiquette
Because I've had a lot of things the hard way growing up, I try to have a very clear understanding of right and wrong, which sometimes causes me to have militant responses to things I perceive as wrong. One clear example of that is human rights abuse.
Because I've gotten shit on by many people growing up, I've developed a backbone and a straight-forward way of expressing myself, and as a result, what I say can sometimes be inadvertently harsh and offensive
As a rebel and a very intelligent person, I often will attack things I perceive as bullshit, and this can also be taken offensively by some people
Some of the things mentioned above aren't actually problems, but they need to be honed more effectively so they don't cause problems for me. Becoming a better person is obviously no easy task, as it's taken me years to do so, but because I'm now living on my own and in the process of seeing a therapist, those are huge steps forward for me. To show I'm making myself become a work in progress, here's a video I found about netiquette (or online etiquette): https://invidious.perennialte.ch/watch?v=Z79e5KDe-0s, and I don't mind watching it again every so often to catch where I'm still making mistakes.
I know I've called myself a gentleman, but have done things which ironically don't show it. This is because a gentleman is imperfect like everyone else. All I can do is simply try to be one. I'm sure as time goes on, there will be a night and day difference with who I was when I first started to who I'll be in the not too distant future.
I'm Autistic, which means I can sometimes be impulsive and say impolite things. Other times, I either don't know or struggle to follow what most people consider "the unwritten/unspoken rules". Lastly, sometimes my emotional immaturity can cause me to say or do things I later regret. Tbh, there's a steep learning curve to it, but it'd be helpful for you to learn more about Autism so you can have a better understanding of my behavior problems.
I came from a bad upbringing and subconsciously learned many bad behaviors from my parents, most-notably social etiquette
Because I've had a lot of things the hard way growing up, I try to have a very clear understanding of right and wrong, which sometimes causes me to have militant responses to things I perceive as wrong. One clear example of that is human rights abuse.
Because I've gotten shit on by many people growing up, I've developed a backbone and a straight-forward way of expressing myself, and as a result, what I say can sometimes be inadvertently harsh and offensive
As a rebel and a very intelligent person, I often will attack things I perceive as bullshit, and this can also be taken offensively by some people
Some of the things mentioned above aren't actually problems, but they need to be honed more effectively so they don't cause problems for me. Becoming a better person is obviously no easy task, as it's taken me years to do so, but because I'm now living on my own and in the process of seeing a therapist, those are huge steps forward for me. To show I'm making myself become a work in progress, here's a video I found about netiquette (or online etiquette): https://invidious.perennialte.ch/watch?v=Z79e5KDe-0s, and I don't mind watching it again every so often to catch where I'm still making mistakes.
I know I've called myself a gentleman, but have done things which ironically don't show it. This is because a gentleman is imperfect like everyone else. All I can do is simply try to be one. I'm sure as time goes on, there will be a night and day difference with who I was when I first started to who I'll be in the not too distant future.
