The purpose of a ban is to remove disruptive members from the chat room. 
You were a disruptive member. You were removed.
Based on your last message, I am of the impression that if allowed re-entry you would gleefully repeat your behavior again. And thus continue to be disruptive. So I'm leaning toward leaving things as they are. 
I'll review again in a few months.
'outing' people is a GR offense. None of us can prove the gender of people in chat. It's a seriously offensive thing to do. For every 'real' fake you nail, there are some real women who get called guys and are hurt by it and leave. 
Read me, I see such behavior as attacks on individuals. and I do not tolerate personal attacks. For any reason. 
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