What a tangled web we weave...

...When we at first try to deceive.

So, I imagine some of you have been wondering where I've been these past couple of days.
But I'm not here to explain all that 😛
What I am here to explain is quite a bit different.

For you see, I've won everyone's friendship through false pretenses.
So I’ll make this very blunt, the girl you know as Jess is a lie.
Truthfully, ‘her’ name is Matt; a 21 year old male living in Florida.

Now I know this probably cements a lurking truth in some of you, while in others this is a complete surprise.
But I honestly feel that this is for the best.

I joined the TMF as a sort of test. It started as an experiment actually for a paper I was going to write for a psychology class.
I have since then scrapped my notes and have chosen a different topic.

The people I’ve met here through Jess are some of the friendliest, most sincere people I’ve ever met anywhere. And it truly irks me knowing that this information may upset some of you. For that is not my intent in writing this.
To be honest, the fact of this charade I’ve brought to life has been eating away at me as of late, and I feel that this is the best way to be rid of it.
Besides, I think I owe it to each and every one of you that have called ‘me’ a friend.

I'm sure there are a number of you that will be quite mad at me, and I'm perfectly fine with that. It's more than understandable.

‘Jess’ is actually a dear friend of mine named Ashley who knew full well what I intended when joining the site. She even helped me write back many of your messages.
But I feel I’ve personally gone too far with many of the things I’ve done here.
And for that, I’m sorry.

But there you have it, out in the open.
Please, tell me your thoughts about this.
Do you find men secretly portraying women disturbing in a venue such as this? Do you care about this knowledge? Would you want me to join as myself? Or do you prefer I keep her around? Anything at all, please let me know.
Also, let me know if you have any questions for Ashley, and I’ll make sure she replies.

As for neglected messages, I don’t see it as fair to respond to them normally.

I guess that’s it.
I’ve truly enjoyed my stay here with you all and even discovered a little bit about myself in the process. Which I thank you all for. I honestly think that, through the TMF, I’ve come out of this a better person.

I’ll probably post a link up in Jess’s Blog as well, referring to this thread. In case anyone was wondering.

I thank you again.
Best of wishes.
-Matt

p.s. I'm sure I've left a few things out in this message that I'll think of as soon as I click 'Submit' so there may be more after this.

Way to go, champ.

There's the internet for you.

Just kind of reinforces why I don't trust easily, especially when it comes to online stuff.

I do imagine that the men that you maybe have chatted with might feel a bit slighted when they read this though.

I'll never understand why folks lie about their gender. Why?

Since I've been around the community long enough to remember ***********, it did send a little chill down my spine. But only because it reminds me of that situation.

Kudos for revealing your true identity.

Barlow

Happens every day. If you made friends here, then you made friends as yourself, because the internet is a place where your mind is what people know, not your face. Stick around, change your name, and keep the friends that will keep you. If they are truly friends, I doubt they will just throw you away over this. Also, where in FL do you live? I'd love to hang out with someone from here sometime.

I think if you want people to believe you're truly repentant of this, you should post your essay so that we know you are at least truthful about that.

I'd be interested in reading it.

...and now for the twist: Matt was really dead the entire time.

I guess what you experienced is what it is, but how much is tells you is really up in the air in comparison to what you were looking for. It's more of a question of "Were you looking to see how people here at the TMF respond to your ruse?" or "How trusting are people over the internet in relation to sexual versus everyday social websites?".

You intentionally made your name female to draw the attention in the first place. This alone would have been more than enough to get the attention of about 10 guys here that would start hitting up your visitor wall/friends list, regardless of whether they know you are not. They do it to every single female that puts a foot forward here. I could rattle the names off right here without ever looking at your profile, but there is no need for that. It's their prerogative to participate in the way they choose to. Beyond that, you put pics up of a beautiful girl, so that just intensifies the number. This is a sexual fetish site, not a basic social networking site, so people are going to flock to what they deem appealing. This is the internet, so its like throwing a dart for a lot of people in that the worst you could do is shoot them down, but, what if you said yes is what compels them.

As for the second, it pretty much ties into the first. As for the trust factor, it will influence how someone interacts with you, and on the internet, for some, one night in the chat room of jokes becomes "omg we are bff forever because I trust you". Beyond that, what I mentioned in the paragraph above about this being a sexually based website takes it to another level you may not experience on FaceBook or the like. For a lot of people here, they are looking to connect, date, or play with other like minded individuals who are into the same thing that they are. You pretending to be that person can easily get reactions you may not get elsewhere. I don't know the level of interaction you had or what kind of conversation you had with the people you talked, pm'ed, cybered, etc. with, so I can't comment on how far you led people on to get the results you were looking for.

Either way, I'm not sure you got what you were looking for in the first place. There is another dynamic or two here that would make for a much better and more in depth source for a psych paper than this topic, if that's really what this was. As for how "nice" people are, you best withhold that judgment until you see what backlash you get once people you duped find out. Pretending they are really nice, when your persona has been a farce from the beginning is very premature. When you are fulfilling something people are looking for, you are likely to get a skewed version of a person as if you were just "Matt" looking for friends.

On a unrelated note, within a few days of you joining, four of us on a skype call mentioned right away that you seemed like a guy. I'll keep the reasons to myself, for the sake of preventing the next "you" from avoiding the same pitfalls. The are pretty tell-tell of what people are trying to do mentally. Either way, I hope you got what you needed for your paper in your deception. Let me ask you this, and while its funny, I'm really curious, if someone got close to your little sister through deception, then fucked her silly, then bailed on her saying "hey just wanted you to know, it was for a paper, but you are really nice", would that bother you at all?

c7_assassin said:

...and now for the twist: Matt was really dead the entire time.

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To the females, is the clitoris ticklish after orgasm?

Mine does get very sensitive after.
Course, I doubt the first thing on a guy's mind is to tickle it lol.

The rest of my body does get very ticklish though.

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Clitoris envy?

While I don't know you, or have any connection to this whatsoever...

Having been in similar situations before, I would hate to be given this information as someone who was perhaps becoming close with your alter-ego. Sometimes the truth is best left unrevealed. In this case, you're coming clean to somewhat make yourself feel better - yet, by coming clean, you're actually going to make those that you had talked to feel worse about the situation.

They would have been better off if you'd said nothing and left forever (at least this name). If they're anything like me, all you would've done is made it harder to trust people online, and make the general experience of this site much poorer - though honestly, this aspect of it has expanded far beyond those few you've gotten to know well here.

But at least your conscience is clean now, hm?

Gee. Who would have guessed. I am sure all the people that genuinely wanted to be friends with you may be upset. The guys that may have fantasied about you may be....well their stomachs may be a little queasy. As K-Dog said sometimes obvious is obvious, and well.......at least to some of us, it was obvious.

I do not know if you are sorry or just moving on and didn't want to leave "loose ends", but I find it odd your thanking people. Thanking for what? Treating you like a human while you treated them like a lab-rat?

I never spoke to you directly, I had that feeling that you were fake, as many others before you and many will come after. I for one am glad I didn't waste my time on you and spent it with those that wanted genuine friendship.

But there you have it, out in the open.
Please, tell me your thoughts about this.
Do you find men secretly portraying women disturbing in a venue such as this? Do you care about this knowledge? Would you want me to join as myself? Or do you prefer I keep her around? Anything at all, please let me know.
Also, let me know if you have any questions for Ashley, and I’ll make sure she replies.

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I will not answer any of your questions or tell you my thoughts. Why should I show you common courtesy or help with perhaps your next "thesis". You do what you want. All I can think of is this:


I for one, dislike the idea of my community being used.

Rob

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I'm tipsy so I'll agree w/ Krazie....haven't seen you in forever btw Jay.

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Do you usually disagree with him sober?

TummyTickleGirl said:

But there you have it, out in the open.
Please, tell me your thoughts about this.
Do you find men secretly portraying women disturbing in a venue such as this? Do you care about this knowledge? Would you want me to join as myself? Or do you prefer I keep her around? Anything at all, please let me know.
Also, let me know if you have any questions for Ashley, and I’ll make sure she replies.

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Haha... I didn't see this part 'til RobAce quoted it. Seems this thread is just a continuation of the 'experiment'.

I'd say it's better to ignore this one then.

Scandolous Wench!!!!

jokes, but i wonder why she decided to go with this?

I've been young and dumb before. I think an honest apology is fair. Lying to people is shitty, especially people who come here specifically to get away from people who are going to mistreat them for who they are, but like I said, young and dumb are like peanut butter and jelly. And you appear to be sincere in your apology.

I don't see much why you'd stick around if you're not interested in tickling, though. We do have a community here, and that's the common thread, no different from any of a million other sub-cultures on the web and in the real world. It'd be like me hanging around a baseball forum. Without that basic connection - and given that some people are less likely than I am to accept the apology - I'm not sure what you'd find appealing about remaining. Which isn't to say you shouldn't, I just don't know why you would.

I am glad that you had the opportunity to discover that people here are a wide and diverse bunch, united through compassion and a common interest. I encourage you to find a similar community in line with your own interests, though as you're probably aware by now, you'll not have an easy time finding one as positive and compassionate as this one. Particularly if you insist on studying them first.

Hmmm... never talked to you nor had interest in talking to you, it's probably the old idea of a lot guys pretending to be women online thing. I feel for those that believed you were really a woman but maybe they will learn better for next time.

Now that your experiment is done, will you go try it at a Furry or Masking fetish site?

You won't be the last to do this but your reason wasn't so you can spank it to email responses from guys, it was an experiment. Which is better.. or worse?

DK

People that live dirty/deceitful lives will die in a dirty/deceitful way.

The one thing that will anger me beyond anything else is when people take advantage of others. You don't deserve the nice responses you're getting.

Man, I want to be angrier in this post, but honestly? You're not worthy of my time.

Etc~

I would also recommend that others don't respond as hotly as I have. About 85% positive this post is also part of his paper, the apology, and that he'll just misquote whatever you say out of context. I'd recommend extreme caution with your word choice.

Etc~

I don't like this sort of thing one bit. Coming "clean" doesn't change how much of a jerk you are for this...using people and being decitful is a horrible thing in my book.

peace out,
daddy

c7_assassin said:

...and now for the twist: Matt was really dead the entire time.

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What a twist!

*shiver*

Please, tell me your thoughts about this.
Do you find men secretly portraying women disturbing in a venue such as this? Do you care about this knowledge? Would you want me to join as myself? Or do you prefer I keep her around? Anything at all, please let me know.

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1) ... You had to ask?
2) Yes. Yes, I do.
3) No.
4) No.

You do as you wish and I will do as I wish. That is what I prefer. If the mods and/or the admin have an issue with your membership, that's up to them to deal with, but as for me and the rest of the members on the TMF, there is always the ignore button for those who we dislike.

At any rate, thank you for coming clean. At least you did that.

TummyTickleGirl said:

...When we at first try to deceive.

So, I imagine some of you have been wondering where I've been these past couple of days.
But I'm not here to explain all that 😛
What I am here to explain is quite a bit different.

For you see, I've won everyone's friendship through false pretenses.
So I’ll make this very blunt, the girl you know as Jess is a lie.
Truthfully, ‘her’ name is Matt; a 21 year old male living in Florida.

Now I know this probably cements a lurking truth in some of you, while in others this is a complete surprise.
But I honestly feel that this is for the best.

I joined the TMF as a sort of test. It started as an experiment actually for a paper I was going to write for a psychology class.
I have since then scrapped my notes and have chosen a different topic.

The people I’ve met here through Jess are some of the friendliest, most sincere people I’ve ever met anywhere. And it truly irks me knowing that this information may upset some of you. For that is not my intent in writing this.
To be honest, the fact of this charade I’ve brought to life has been eating away at me as of late, and I feel that this is the best way to be rid of it.
Besides, I think I owe it to each and every one of you that have called ‘me’ a friend.

I'm sure there are a number of you that will be quite mad at me, and I'm perfectly fine with that. It's more than understandable.

‘Jess’ is actually a dear friend of mine named Ashley who knew full well what I intended when joining the site. She even helped me write back many of your messages.
But I feel I’ve personally gone too far with many of the things I’ve done here.
And for that, I’m sorry.

But there you have it, out in the open.
Please, tell me your thoughts about this.
Do you find men secretly portraying women disturbing in a venue such as this? Do you care about this knowledge? Would you want me to join as myself? Or do you prefer I keep her around? Anything at all, please let me know.
Also, let me know if you have any questions for Ashley, and I’ll make sure she replies.

As for neglected messages, I don’t see it as fair to respond to them normally.

I guess that’s it.
I’ve truly enjoyed my stay here with you all and even discovered a little bit about myself in the process. Which I thank you all for. I honestly think that, through the TMF, I’ve come out of this a better person.

I’ll probably post a link up in Jess’s Blog as well, referring to this thread. In case anyone was wondering.

I thank you again.
Best of wishes.
-Matt

p.s. I'm sure I've left a few things out in this message that I'll think of as soon as I click 'Submit' so there may be more after this.

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To be totally honest, I had never heard of you until a few minutes ago. I don't visit here everyday; in fact, when I do it's usually for only a few moments and I post on even rarer occasions. However, this post of yours "Matt" caught my eye, and within 30 seconds, my blood began to boil.

Even though I never chatted with you, never sent you messages, and as previously stated, never even heard of you before 3:15 a.m. EDT tonight....just reading your post has made me so angry I doubt I'll get back to sleep. It's not just that you joined TMF under an alias....nor the fact you mislead/ played a game with so many people that makes me livid; it's because of what I believe your true motive was. I have you pictured as one of those smug, hateful, arrogant little pissants who think those of us who enjoy tickling are all evil or "disturbed". The type of "do gooder" who joins a forum they have little interest in just to try and learn what makes us tick; find out what's "wrong" with us. I didn't join TMF to be analyzed by some shrink-in-training, nor do I appreciate it; not one damn bit.

My gut instinct says you are one of those guys who in "real life" laughs at individuals with a tickling fetish; who mock us.....one of those SOB's who leaves hateful comments directed toward us on Youtube, Google video, etc. If it were left up to me, your IP would be blocked and your ISP contacted. You could have just left; faded away like so many other "trolls" and idiots have done at TMF over the years; but no, you have to come back and gloat; possess the nerve and audacity to tell us what you've done.....to make any guy who chatted with you, messaged you, or flirted feel humiliated. There's no need for what you've done here tonight....no reason for your admission which IMHO just makes the situation worse; worse for the guys who contacted you, for those here who thought you were being honest; you betrayed those folks......played a game with them then had the nerve to tell them.

I don't know about them (since I didn't know you from John Doe an hour ago), but I'd feel very angry if you'd done it too me. The fact I'm sitting here outraged in the middle of the night over what you posted should be vivid illustration of what trouble your post above has caused. If you had left quietly....I wouldn't have EVER even known about you. Because of this thread, I hate you; absolutely hate your guts......which should speak volumes for the magnitude of what you've done.

Well if you're looking for honest input, I'm somebody who saw your profile and sent a comment or two your way and I'm not surprised in the least. To be honest, half the reason I made a comment in the first place was to read your response. Giggly pantomime imitations of female behaviour aren't hard to spot. I always hope everyone I encounter online is genuine, but often, and in this case, I'm just waiting for confirmation of a suspician, as you said.

My lack of surprise answers your second question... I'm not disturbed by the notion, because it's so commonplace. I don't like it, but I'm not troubled by it. It's the internet, I don't take it very seriously, and to be involved in a place like this, you get used to it.

I am indifferent towards whether you re-register or not.

PS your friend is a hottie.

All you had to do was ask and the people here would have gladly answered any questions you may have had and you could have turned in one great paper.

It has been done before but at least that college student had the decency to be up front about it.

I might not have the greatest opinion of men, but even as a woman I resent the fact that instead of registering as yourself, you chose to exploit the men on this site. By using a female persona and not a male's, you have implied that the males on here are more easily misled than the females. You made them a target and that is just wrong.

Karma works, and when she comes for you, you'd better duck because she delivers one hell of a bitch-slap.