blootwentytoo
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These are just some thoughts, the beginning of what I'm hoping to turn into something really grand and wonderful. I know I'll get backlash, and that's ok - that always happens when someone tries to instigate change.
Lately I've come to the conclusion that it is really important for me to start taking pride in my sexuality, and to be as open about it as possible. My entire life, like most of us, I've kept my sexuality in the shadows. I wanted desperately to keep this private. I saw it as sort of hinderence, something sort of embarrassing. I would try to fool myself into thinking that it wasn't a big deal. Something I could do on the side, something I didn't have to confront, soemthing I could ignore. I didn't see it as a legitimate way of life. I'm really beginning to believe that it is not possible for me to have a relationship that is not based on tickling, as tickling is my sexuality.
I want to turn this fetish into a legitimate way of life.
The community, as it stands now, does not contribute to that. It treats tickling as a deviance, and something that cannot be a significant and legitimate part of the basis for one's whole life. It treats its members, not as multi-dimensional people, but as out of control sex drives, independent of any other facet of life.
Like the gay community before the days of stonewall, we approach our sexuality as something separate from legitimate relationships, from our public life. We are focused on hook-ups. Not dating, not relationships, not marriage. We are not fully addressing or appreciating that this is our sexuality in the way that herterosexuality and homosexuality is, and that if we do not start to build relationships on it, we are depriving ourselves. lying to ourselves.
Most importantly, the community, and TMF especially as the main gathering place for people with our sexuality, is entirely focused on the instant sexual gratification of men. The ads that cover this site, every single subforum, the fact men largely outnumber women here, and the fact that most of the women who do post here are not ticklephiles but tickle-porn actresses, or tickle-prostitues, and that many of the men on here are tickle pimps, make that obvious.
For this reason I have never felt comfortable on this site. I know for a fact that many women ticklephiles feel the same as me. It is difficult to take pride in our sexuality when our community only ever degrades our sexuality. I think the nature of a tickle community that only exists to give men instant sexual gratification, not to mention commodifying women and not treating them as equal and respected members of this community, is setting us back as a people. and we are a people. this isn't a little kink that we have. this is who we are.
It's going to take me a very long time, but I am going to start my own women-friendly tickling forum, which will be focused on community. Women will not be commodified, demeaned, or disrespected. It will be a welcoming place of equality that speaks to women's experiences.
Equally as important, dating and relationships within the community will be encouraged. Tickle sessions, and hookups will be discouraged. escorts, professional dungeon parties, and such will be prohibited.
It might be years until i actually get around to this, but it will happen. It's tme for the tickle community to get out of the closet, the shadows, the gutter, and to start embracing tickling as something as legitimate as vanilla dating and marriage.
Lately I've come to the conclusion that it is really important for me to start taking pride in my sexuality, and to be as open about it as possible. My entire life, like most of us, I've kept my sexuality in the shadows. I wanted desperately to keep this private. I saw it as sort of hinderence, something sort of embarrassing. I would try to fool myself into thinking that it wasn't a big deal. Something I could do on the side, something I didn't have to confront, soemthing I could ignore. I didn't see it as a legitimate way of life. I'm really beginning to believe that it is not possible for me to have a relationship that is not based on tickling, as tickling is my sexuality.
I want to turn this fetish into a legitimate way of life.
The community, as it stands now, does not contribute to that. It treats tickling as a deviance, and something that cannot be a significant and legitimate part of the basis for one's whole life. It treats its members, not as multi-dimensional people, but as out of control sex drives, independent of any other facet of life.
Like the gay community before the days of stonewall, we approach our sexuality as something separate from legitimate relationships, from our public life. We are focused on hook-ups. Not dating, not relationships, not marriage. We are not fully addressing or appreciating that this is our sexuality in the way that herterosexuality and homosexuality is, and that if we do not start to build relationships on it, we are depriving ourselves. lying to ourselves.
Most importantly, the community, and TMF especially as the main gathering place for people with our sexuality, is entirely focused on the instant sexual gratification of men. The ads that cover this site, every single subforum, the fact men largely outnumber women here, and the fact that most of the women who do post here are not ticklephiles but tickle-porn actresses, or tickle-prostitues, and that many of the men on here are tickle pimps, make that obvious.
For this reason I have never felt comfortable on this site. I know for a fact that many women ticklephiles feel the same as me. It is difficult to take pride in our sexuality when our community only ever degrades our sexuality. I think the nature of a tickle community that only exists to give men instant sexual gratification, not to mention commodifying women and not treating them as equal and respected members of this community, is setting us back as a people. and we are a people. this isn't a little kink that we have. this is who we are.
It's going to take me a very long time, but I am going to start my own women-friendly tickling forum, which will be focused on community. Women will not be commodified, demeaned, or disrespected. It will be a welcoming place of equality that speaks to women's experiences.
Equally as important, dating and relationships within the community will be encouraged. Tickle sessions, and hookups will be discouraged. escorts, professional dungeon parties, and such will be prohibited.
It might be years until i actually get around to this, but it will happen. It's tme for the tickle community to get out of the closet, the shadows, the gutter, and to start embracing tickling as something as legitimate as vanilla dating and marriage.
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