Extremely ticklish but won't tolerate tickling

A girl I dated in 1987, Allison, was the most ticklish person I've known. Certainly no one I've met was more ticklish than her.

Being a tickler, that could have meant a lot of fun for me. But Allison lacked the other key ingredient - subsmissiveness - to be a tickler's delight. She hated being tickled. In the seven months we dated, I only got to intentionally tickle Allison a few times without her getting mad. Allison just wasn't the type to grin and bear it, much less see the fun in tickling.

Man, Allison was so ticklish! Feet, legs, back, rear end, ribs, stomach, breasts, underarms - you name it. And she was cute: thin (she often wore two shirts, she was so slight aboout the torso), short straight blonde hair, fair skin, maybe 5'4," breasts so small she did not need a bra - but a tight rear end and a slim waist.

Looking back, I always had to work to please Allison. While Allison had the charm that could make me feel ten feet tall, she had an immature side that often threw water on our good time. In some circles of men, Allison was what you call "bad news" - someone you really want who is no good for you. And since she was super ticklish but would not submit to me, that was bad!

In fact, I unintentionally tickled Allison 50 times more often than I got her on purpose. Just resting my hand on her, so many times she complained, "That tickles." Or, she would just say, "Tickles. Tickles."

So close and yet so far. Has anyone else had that happen?

I was seeing someone who was like that once. She was real bad. I am a ler at heart but there are times when I don't want to tickle and I love to give a massage. Well everytime I touched her it was an adventure because she would jump and squirm right away telling me how she hated that. Don't even think I got to give her a foot massage cause her feet were strictly offlimits. Needless to say that relationship didn't last very long.

I used to be like that. What I didn't know at the time was that there was something inside of me screaming to get out. When you suppress something, that makes it worse. I was always fascinated by tickling, but couldn't stand to be TOUCHED in any way, let alone tickled. Since I got on this forum and connected with myself, I can now enjoy massage, tickling and other various methods of touching. Now, I beg to be tickled! Sometimes in life, you can truly come full circle!

😀 [COLOR=8109FB] Em Es, I am sure you will find someone that will be a tickler's dream.[/COLOR] 😀

This is the wortst kind of girl to have, because she is so ticklish but complete hates it. You are so tempted to tickle, but that damn conscience gets in the way.

I dated a girl, Angie, several years ago who was insanely ticklish but thoroughly despised it. She was a spunky, sassy, independent redhead very much in control of herself, a total blast of a personality. And her short hair drove me wild.

But she posessed the one ingredient that is really required in this sort of situation, and that is a sense of submissiveness.

As I explored her sexuality while our relationship progressed, I learned more and more about the depths of her submissiveness; discovering that she loved getting spanked and slapped during sex, being talked dirty to like a whore, getting tied up, nipple play, forced into serving me orally as a submissive, jerking off on her face while her arms were tied behind her as she knelt in front of me. She was quite the sub.

I was thrilled as I learned this part of her, and was more than happy to oblige...and as much as I loved playing that role, I sooo dearly wanted to take it to the tickling level. I had broached the subject before, just to test the waters, and discovered how much she hated it. Yes, she was ticklish, but she wanted absolutely no part of it whatsoever and actually got borderline pissed when I tried. And, as is so common in many of us ticklers, the fact that she hated it only increased my desire to inflict it on her.

One evening, while we were playing in a rather serious bondage session, I decided to take it to that level without her knowledge. Arms bound to the bed above her head, with her elbows tied tightly together and her head resting on her biceps while her legs were bound to the bed, she was in a tremendously vulnerable position. After gagging her securely, I straddled her torso, and commenced playing with her nipples, tugging and pinching them the way she liked, fondling her breasts roughly.
That's when I decided I was going to try it. I was so incredibly horny, I felt compelled.
I began to ask her about how ticklish she was, and that's when she started to freak behind her gag, shaking her head violently. When I started to stroke her underarms slowly, she began the muffled laughing while screaming in her gag. I even began licking her underarms, which made her buck like a bronco, and I could only imagine the cursewords she was trying to throw at me behind the gag; but her eyes said everything.
I was soooo turned on by her hysterical protestations I began to stroke myself with one hand while I tickled her underarms with the other, thoroughly enjoying tickling Angie for nothing else than my own satisfaction and her discomfort...and it wasn't long before I shot my load all over her chest and face while she helplessly laughed and writhed under me.

The ONLY thing that saved me from getting a lamp broken over my head afterwards was the one ingredient of submission. While she despised the tickling, she acknowledged that being tickled against her will for my sexual enjoyment--and conversely, her shame in being used for that sexual enjoyment--ultimately mitigated the circumstances. I think the results would've been different if I hadn't pleasured myself during the tickling, as the dominating/submissiveness equation wouldn't have been present--she was one that got off on that sort of thing to an incredible extent. However, I didn't try it again to that extent ever again.

This approach wouldn't have worked with just anyone; the underpinnings of a such a strong sense of submissiveness needed to be present. For partners that lack it, there are no lengths you could take to overcome it. Ever.

Just an anecdote, and my own .02 worth.

One of my ex's used to be that way, but once she realized I was gonna tickle her every chance I got, she just got used to it

What you do with a woman like that (what I would do anyway) is just tickle her as much as you want (forcibly, whatever) as long as you can until she breaks up with you. Dont YOU break up with HER. Make her break up. That way, you get as much use out of her as you can.

Cyclic, it's great that your interests worked out in a way that you both were able to enjoy. To everyone else who wasn't as lucky, it's just an unfortune fact of life for people like us🙄 To WomenAskForIt, I hope you're getting the amusement you're looking for by repeatedly posting this ridiculous and offensive (to some, anyways) shit to the forums, because this way, at least you don't have to pay for it.

WomenAskForIt said:

What you do with a woman like that (what I would do anyway) is just tickle her as much as you want (forcibly, whatever) as long as you can until she breaks up with you. Dont YOU break up with HER. Make her break up. That way, you get as much use out of her as you can.

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I don't agree with that. I mean, if she don't like it, she don't like it. No need to be an ass about it. If you 2 can't work it out, just move on.

Yeeeeeesssss, this happened to me! Not exactly, but close enough! It's a cruel and ironic twist of fate when you're seeeing someone who is very ticklish, reacts great to tickling...but...she won't let you tickle her! As Charlie Brown used to say when Lucy pulled the footballball away, "ARRRRRRGGGGGG!!!"

My ex went back and forth with me about whether she liked tickling. The first time I tickled her feet, she told me about a babysitter who used to tickle her feet for an hour and she loved it. Then she said that she didn't think she could stand tickling anymore. But she decided I could tickle her anywhere, except for her feet. Ok, that was enough to drive a ler to insanity. Of course, I didn't listen to her, and tickled her whole bod fairly often, including her feet, and she didn't complain. The other times, she got pissed off. So she threw me mixed signals.

But as far as her throwing water on the two of us having any fun with other people. She was the Queen, my friends!


Did anyone see the movie "How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days?" That was her! Scary, huh? One time, we were in a movie theatre and she demanded that I leave the movie, go down the street and get her a hotdog from Sheetz. When I didn't do it, she stormed out of the theatre, but came back a few minutes when she realize I wasn't coming after her. What a nut, huh?

Anyway, I think she actually used the tickling as a way of making me unhappy. She knew I loved to tickle her, and she confessed that she loved to be tickled, but sometimes she made me feel bad about tickling her. You've all heard about withholding sex, but have you ever heard of withholding tickling? I might be the first!

One last note. As things were going down the drain, during one of our last meetings, she came to my apt. to visit, then put her bare feet in my lap and wiggled her toes at me. I tickled the heck out of feet that evening, like I never have before, getting her between her toes, and really getting her on the sides of her feet. I can see hear her laughter, and see her face.

Maybe I took advantage of her, not sure. Oh, well, she caused me a lot of trouble. I think I just rambled on, but, hey, I like you guys/gals!

To WomenAskForIt and BigBrownEyes

WomenAskForIt, while one individual had a difference of opinion, I at least understand your point of view. Certainly the final weeks we dated, when I saw Allison was ready to leave me, why not tickle her? "When you ain't got nothing, you go nothing to lose."

BigBrownEyes, if my girlfriend Allison was bad news, the lady you described was BAD NEWS . She sounds like the type you keep around strictly for tickling. Why else would you put up with that nonsense?

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BigBrownEyes, if my girlfriend Allison was bad news, the lady you described was BAD NEWS . She sounds like the type you keep around strictly for tickling. Why else would you put up with that nonsense? [/B][/QUOTE]


Ha,ha..that's a legitimate question. The relationship lasted a year. The reason I put up with it was immaturity on my part. In the early stages, I was blinded by love. I was also blinded by her beauty. I definitely had the big L-U-V for awhile.

She never really was Ms. Congeniality, but her behavior got worse as the relationship went on. Ok, I have to admit, I've never been so physically attracted to anyone in my life. But you can't base a relationship on that.

I have to learn everything the hard way.

These people are out there...

WomenAskForIt said:

What you do with a woman like that (what I would do anyway) is just tickle her as much as you want (forcibly, whatever) as long as you can until she breaks up with you. Dont YOU break up with HER. Make her break up. That way, you get as much use out of her as you can.

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What you do with a guy like this (what I would do anyway) is keep a fork or stun gun with you at all times, and just stab or shock him anyplace you can (forcibly, whatever) as long as you can until he breaks up with you. Don't YOU break up with HIM. Make him break up. That way, you get as much use out of him as you can.

(Of COURSE I'm kidding but hopefully you get the point)

At the risk of repeating myself

BigBrownEyes, if the relationship ain't what you want, why not get as much tickling fun out of it as possible? Words to live by for a male tickler.

Yeah, the more physically attractive the woman, the more clouded a man's judgment. When it comes to love, the hard way is the only way many - male and female - learn, if they ever do.

Live and learn. And make sure to tickle!🙄 I don't regret the women I didn't get, just those I didn't tickle.

hehe bella...

Kidding? Posts like this make me wonder why more women don't carry stun guns.

Em Es, I'm not sure if I was the "individual" you were referring to or not (there were actually two of us who expressed our distaste for WomenAskForIt's comment), but he has occasionally posted other similar comments in the past. I mean sure, the basis of a relationship should be to get whatever physical pleasure you can (for yourself) out of a women by whatever means necessary (I hear chloroform works well), right? Like I have said before, I think this guy may be doing this more for shock value, but he may be serious, stranger things have happened. I'm not going to go into a person's right to their own opinion, blah, blah, blah, but I will state my opinion that this thinking is misogynistic at best and sociopathic at worst. I'd be willing to ignore him, but please don't encourage him.

No regrets here, EE! I was only with her for one year, and it just didn't work out. But at least I can say that I was in love once.

There were a lot of good times, as well as the crap that I already mentioned. When the bad outweighs the good, it's time to pull the plug.

Since it got so ugly near the end, I tend to dwell on that part. Hey, nothing ends well, otherwise it wouldn't end.

sushi854 said:

Cyclic, it's great that your interests worked out in a way that you both were able to enjoy. To everyone else who wasn't as lucky, it's just an unfortune fact of life for people like us🙄

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Every woman has her buttons, some are just harder to find than others, but they can be pushed.

Anyway, she left me for an unemployed construction worker. Last I heard, she's a single mom working in the service industry. 🙄

To Sushi854

Sushi854, you said, "sure, the basis of a relationship should be to get whatever physical pleasure you can (for yourself) out of a women by whatever means necessary (I hear chloroform works well), right? . . . I will state my opinion that [WomenAskForIt's] thinking is misogynistic at best and sociopathic at worst."

You made me realize my response to WomenAskForIt was not the best one. What I should have said: The women a man wants are the ones who chase HIM, not the girls he's chasing. Give me the plain Jane who is dying to please me over the knockout who is too much pain for the pleasure, any day.

On the other hand, I, for one, don't mean to say chloroform a woman just to get what you want. But I see nothing wrong with getting some tickles off a girl who is a pain in the neck or using you. Were the situation reversed, I would encourage a woman to do the same.

my girlfriend right now is one of the most ticklish human beings i've ever met. But she can't stand it. I'll tickle her neck, sides, armpits, knees, you name it, and she'll always scream and get pissed. And most disappointing for me, as a foot guy, SHE HATES TO HAVE HER FEET TOUCHED. I can't even intentionally touch a sock without her throwing a hairy conniption.

But there is a way to get around it. I tickle her often, and let her know that is the punishment when she hits me, or hurts me in some way. Yesterday at dinner she was kicking me under the table. I just let her go, saying "i'll get you back." She just kinda ignored me and kept kicking. When we got back into the car, she looked at me (I was staring with an evil grin at the time... 🙄 ) and asked what i was doing.... at that point I dug in. I musta tickled her for at least 20 minutes... and she seemed to be enjoying herself (not that she had a choice). So there is at least some solution to the problem. Tell them that is their punishment for wrongdoing... and tickle them often.

dstrbd, that's good problem-solving

I wonder what would have happened had I used that "punishment" approach with Allison. I have a feeling it would not have worked, but then, you don't know until you try.

Sounds as though you have found the key to your girlfriend's submissive side. Nice work!

Something else to consider.....

I've known several women who are excrutiatingly ticklish, but hate to be tickled. One said, quote, "I think it's the worst thing you could do to somebody."
What I noticed in conversation was that all of them had had an unpleasant tickling encounter. They didn't like the digging of the fingers into their bodies, or the fact that the tickler wouldn't stop.
I can understand their point to some degree....there were a couple of times as a child where people were tickling me past the point of enjoyment. I'm sure a lot of people don't enjoy the sensation of being red-faced and unable to breathe.

The Sean Man

Been there buddy...

It's an incredibly frustrating situation. I (briefly) went out with someone like this and although I didn't get the time to try, I had thought up a way of getting her to loosen up: My plan was to accidentally tickle her when we were snuggling in bed. I knew she would react in her usual, fierce way. I'd then act like I was really intruiged by her bizzare level of ticklishness and pretend I just wanted to know what the hell it felt like, you know, like I was just fascinated as to why it seemed to be almost painful. I'm usually pretty good at playing these things in the direction I want them to go, so I reckon I could have easily coaxed her into letting me tickle her gently and explore her ticklishness in a loving, tender way (all in the name of curiosity of course.) The one major flaw in the plan would have been that by this time my dick would have been forcing her out the bed like some sort of angry dinosaur trapped under the sheets.

I dated a woman who was extremely ticklish and said she hated it. Turns out her brother tortured her while growing up. But, over time my occasional playful tickles seemed to tame her hatred of it. Finally, on one occasion while she was secured I lightly tickled her all over for about an hour or so. She freaked at first. I didn't do any heavy tickling (and promised I wouldn't) and although she slightly protested she realized that what she called "tingly tickles" which made her giggle like mad weren't such a bad thing.

After that evening she stopped hating tickling although if I did tickle her she'd tell me to do "nice tickles". Who am I to say no. 🙂