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Just a quick note to those that have shown support. After the latest personal attack on my views by a member of these forums (a 'you're anti-american' rant for posting something off Fox news, now I've heard it all) I've had enough.

For those that have supported me, and those that I'm proud to call friends I say thank you, and I hope to hear from you all soon. I'll be checking in on the forums occasionaly and will get back to any PM's or e-mails as quick as I can.

But the sad fact is it isn't worth the time anymore. Those that have read what I post know the ammount of work and effort I make, well, I suppose that should be made, to try and provide external sources for my views and to avoid entering into all-out flame wars despite provication. I know there's little the mods can do about certain responses, but this is starting to get too personal so, for now at least...

Catch you around guys.

Steve.

Oh, and for those that are interested, here's my own views on why I held the views I did and why I did things the way that I did.

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I like America. In fact, I'd go so far as to say I love America. Or at least, I love the principles and ideas that America represents. For me, and I think every post I've ever made on here about a serious issue reflects this, there is nothing more sacred than the concept expressed by this simple line:

"We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness"

Free speech, a free press, the freedom to practice religion as you wish, the ideal of "Liberty and Justice for all", I want nothing more than for such a country to trully exist. While, of course, NO country can live up to these lofty goals America was making a damn good effort at it. I was considering for a number of years moving over there once my student debts were paid off, but I am deeply concerned about what America is becoming, or threatens to become, if events continue as they are now.

I do not dislike (or hate) America, the Democrats, the Repbulicans or any other political party for that matter. I do not dislike (or hate) the people or the culture, in fact most Americans I know are kind hearted and friendly people. I do however dislike the current government because it has commited what, to my mind, is the worst crime a government can do against its own people short of outright persecution. It has lied to them, repeatedly, to justify and enhance its own agenda but even for that I do not "hate" them. I would never wish for a repeat of Novemeber 22nd 1963 for example. However that sentiment, that a democratically elected government should not lie to its own people, is the same reason I criticise my own country as our current Labour government has done exactly the same thing.

I criticise policy, not because I "dislike America", but because I want to see it regain its moral and ethical centre in the world. I want America to take the lead not just in military terms but in terms of morality, compasion and tolerance. I want, more than anything else, everyone to be able to live in a world guided by that one simple principle of "freedom and justice for all" and it breaks my heart to see what American foreign policy (and indeed, internal policy) is doing to that principle. While I might not have agreed with all his actions, Clinton somehow managed this balancing act of moral authority with military might.So did Bush Senior, and so did Reagan (with the possible exception of Central America). Since Vietnam the US has worked hard to build up that moral authority and now.... well, that's for a different debate.

As for my posts on this board, I've said before that I don't object to anyone based on what political party you support, or what your personal beliefs are or any other opinion you may hold. They are your beliefs and you are entitled to them, as I am to mine. However I also believe it is the duty of every citizen, and in fact everyone who is affected by a particular issue, citizen or no, to ask questions of those in power, to hold them to task for the decisions they make. Whatever decision you make, whatever opinions you hold should always be backed up by a reason. If you wish to live in a free society it is your right, your duty and your obligation to ensure the government is accountable for its actions and that those actions are justified. "By the people, and for the people" does not mean ticking a ballot slip ever four years.

I freely admit most of what I post here takes the, for lack of a better description, Democrat point of view. However the bulk of what I post is presenting data and facts to attempt to add detail to a debate and allow those reading it to make up their own minds on whatever the truth of the matter might be. If there is one call I keep making, in virtually every post I make of that sort, it is for those on the "other side" of the debate to respond in kind. I want to be proved wrong, I want to see the data, the evidence, to prove what was originally said was accurate. In most cases though it doesn't appear for whatever reason. The reason that my arguments tend to be more on the Democrat side than the Republican is that, and I know I'm generalizing here, the "Democrat" arguments are already well represented by those that make them, and are backed up with facts. There simply isn't usually any glaring omission that gives cause to go and research the subject for myself. This I have no problem with and any "Republican" posts that do the same I tend to absorb what's said and stay out of the discussion. Sadly, and I know this is another generalzation, on the political debates the right wing point of view tends to be expressed in terms of "I'm right, because I said so" which is something that will cause me to research a topic for myself in order to find out the facts. Recently at least it's been very hard to discover any facts that support that point of view, which is why I always ask for the original poster to provide them as my natural asumption is I didn't find the data they were using rather than such data doesn't exist.

Now as for my personal opinions, I've said this before as well, but my views are a mix of policies from both the left and the right sides of the political spectrum. I hold no allegance to a specific party, but will make my own mind up on the issue based on the evidence I can find and vote accordingly.

As for "attacking" other countries, I suggest you take a look at your own posts for that. I have never said "America is horrible" or any blanket expression of the sort. Again, if you read what I oringialy posted, while I don't understand why journalists are suddenly on a list that included convicted criminals in requiring Visa permits and will question that policy, it was the treatment of this woman while in custody that sickened me. There are echoes here of the same abuses that took place in Abu Ghraib and that have been reported in the police service as well. THAT is what worries me not the policy itself, what is the underlying reason that officials in places of public trust would abuse their power like this so easily? And of course I cannot guarantee the accuracy of any opinion piece, article or research document that I have not written myself, and where the supporting evidence has not been created by me from scratch. That is simply common sense, and if you're going to insist on a 100% guarantee that what you hear and read is accurate then you might as well get used to the sound of your own voice because you will never believe anything else. In this case I believe the report to be accurate, although obviously you have to take into account the fact that the writer is going to paint the bleakest picture she can, that those publishing it have a sufficient record to make it credible and that there is suffecient evidence of simillar cases to support the claim. Most importantly there has been no denial of this claim which lends it credibility. This to me puts it into the upper percentiles when it comes to evaluating the reliability of the source.

As for the comments quoted, again I'd point out that these only came after you started attacking others. I've seen you do this before and didn't want the thread to devolve into a flame war. Again it was a polite request based on past evidence to treat others with some common courtesy, not an attack. Why did I refer to you specificaly? Because you were the first to do so, nothing more or less than that.

One thing I would say, despite what you may think, I've always tried to be nothing but respectful of others here no matter what they've said or how much provication they've thrown out. While I don't claim to always manage that I think my record's pretty good in that regard. I have gone out of my way to be polite, to present information in whatever way was requested, to research information that I've been asked for and to defend my own opinions (and indeed it seems my right to hold those opinions) all the while ignoring as best I can a seemingly never-ending wave of insults and, in some cases, outright attacks and I think it's a shame that courtesy is not returned.

One thing I forgot to mention regarding my posting habbits on these boards. Yes the majority of posts are based on American stories but, as Jim said, this is an American-orientated board, albeit with an international membership and is one of the few places I've come across with so many diverse opinions gathered in one place.

Now I'll quite happily post on UK issues here, I spent the better part of an hour putting together a post on the recent UK local elections and the hammering the current Government recieved for example then decided against posting it. Why? Because the background work to understand what was going on was considerable and there are few on here who would want to do that work as that is, after all, a British issue. And there's the problem, if we post British issues on here it will have a very limited audience while issues such as this raise questions that affect everyone here to a greater or lesser degree and (hopefully) stimulate debate.

Also, to imply that anyone other than Americans are not qualified to speak on these sorts of issues is, logically speaking, back to front. If you are an American citizen your view will be clouded, however unintentionaly, by your own political and social view. When you wish for an impartial view on any subject you turn to a neutral party as they are more likely to base their case on the facts to hand rather than gut feeling.
 
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Tis sad

When voices of reason are silenced by screams of dissent and overzealousness.

Even tho I have not had a lot of time to put into intelligent responses I for one have enjoyed your posts BOFH.. they have made a lot of sense and were enlightening and written with a lot of time and heart in them. I for one thank you for your efforts. You have at least opened the eyes of some less bigoted and enlightened people on this board. Even if you have managed to get one person to stop and think instead of accepting the mindless drivel the US government spits out and expects us as sheep to follow and digest , your work has been worth it.

As for the USA as much as I shudder to say it THANK GOD I LIVE IN CANADA!!

As the old quote goes "Those who do not heed history are doomed to repeat it" . Where I wonder will that leave the US in a years time.
I for one am glad I will not be in the country to find out


Ghostie
 
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Sorry to see you go, bud. You are the voice of reason, lol.
 
I sure wish you'd reconsider. I understand how hard it must be to stomach the hysterical whining of people who find your posts hitting too close to home; still, there won't be much worth reading here anymore if you go.


With respect,
~Rose~
 
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Don't leave.

I, like you, find myself constantly having to defend my opinions. Opinions that are not respected the same way those of others are. You try, and you try, and you try, and nothing changes. I know how you feel.

The thread and posts don't matter to me. It would be sad to see someome like you go. You are necessary, as I am. Your presense is needed. I know its hard, really hard, but you can't let this one drive you out.

Don't let them win. I'm not saying you are right or they are wrong, but don't let them win. Don't let them drive you out of here, damnit. You stay, you hold your head high, and you continue doing what it is you do. For you are special, and unique. You have something to offer. You bring something to the table. You are of value and your presense here is appriciated, at least by me. I don't really know you, but I already know that losing you would be a setback for this forum. Blow some steam off, but be sure to return.

Kindest personal regards,

- Damien
 
Sorry to see you go, man... But seriously, at least, stick around and lurk. Maybe you can do what I often do: only respond to things that you feel the strongest about. I know how putting research into a topic and then having it shot down by someone who never does their own research can be aggravating. Some people don't wanna know the truth, and their ignorance makes them immune to facts. I used to think this was a small percentage of the public, but evidence leads me to believe that the majority of people might be this way. I don't know... whatever the case, I'll miss ya, man. Keep fighting the good fight, even if it seems futile sometimes....
 
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Steve, your only crime was engaging in a battle of wits with an unarmed man. 😛

Button :bubble:
 
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Steve,

You don't have any obligation to do anything here that you don't enjoy, so I support your decision. It's very similar to the one I reached some time ago when I resigned as a moderator. The TMF is designed for pleasure, and you should take pleasure in it as your tastes allow.

I read your post about the 9-11 report and found nothing anti-American in it. I understand that many people equate criticism of the administration with criticism of the war, and critcism of the war equals lack of support for the troops. This line of thought is simplistic and lacking in nuance, but not uncommon. My observation is that people make up their minds on a topic and find it difficult to change their initial impressions, particularly when the topic is complex and emotionally charged. I swear people spend more time deciding which brand of yogurt to buy.

I am flabbergasted that you are being criticized for writing long posts and providing links to support your statements. It reinforces my belief that this is not the place to bother with political analysis and debate, and you don't owe it to the TMF to do so. You owe it to yourself to spend your time online wisely and in a manner that enriches you. I hope you will post, but only as it pleases you.

Best wishes,

EQ
 
BOFH666....thanks for all your advice on the car thing. I did find a 525I finally through a bunch of trolling. I'm going to go look at it when my days off roll around again.

It was good fun going back and forth with you on that, and I really wish you'd stay. ( I saved the pic of your car, if that is okay with you )

Illigitimi Non Carborundum...(I hope it still means the same thing it did yonks ago).
 
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BOFH, you know my opinion about those who keep driving away people with different opinions. I can only echo what so many of us here are thinking, and assure you of my highest esteem. I'm sorry to see you go, and I can just hope you drop in now and then, bursting some ultra-nationalist American's bubbles. This place will be poorer and less interesting without you.

Take care!
Hal
 
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All the best man!!

For those that have supported me, and those that I'm proud to call friends I say thank you, and I hope to hear from you all soon. I'll be checking in on the forums occasionaly and will get back to any PM's or e-mails as quick as I can.

But the sad fact is it isn't worth the time anymore. Those that have read what I post know the ammount of work and effort I make, well, I suppose that should be made, to try and provide external sources for my views and to avoid entering into all-out flame wars despite provication. I know there's little the mods can do about certain responses, but this is starting to get too personal so, for now at least...

Catch you around guys.

You will be missed Steve...I have missed our quick PM discussions from the past but mostly I will and have missed your awesome Tickling stories...
This is why I stay away from the political stuff...someone always gets hurt and it is usually those that think!

All the best man!

Keep in touch!

Tommytikl
 
I regret that you feel you need to leave, but I reluctantly understand. It seems sad that an increasing amount of intelligent and thoughtful posters are being driven off by a small percentage of troublemakers who find it mandatory to silence by bullying. You will do what you want, but this is my view.
I have been here two years nearly, and while I would say that 95% plus of the TMFers are good people, I have also endured savage attacks by a select few who believe that they will silence me by bullying. While it becomes tiresome and mundane, I merely have expanded my ignore list so that they cannot PM me with their opinions which I care nothing about, and that I now cannot see their posts. I dont know if you would consider, but my advice would be to stay, ignore whoever is giving you problems, and rise up. Ultimately, it is your decision, but I speak from personal experience. If you do decide to stay, we are happy to keep you, but if you feel the need to go, then good luck to you, and once again this is a sad example of a poster being driven off by bullies. There seems to be a degree of this happening lately, and it is regrettable. Good Luck to you on whatever decision you make.

Mitch
 
Cripes!!! Boffers old chap!!!.........

......sorry to see you bail out squire!!! I,m pretty sure I saw your "brolly" unfurle so I,m hoping you made it back on to terra firma via some poor saps green house!! hope to see you in the officers mess after this bally war is over and you can buy me a stiff one, well, cant hang around on the radio any longer old chap, the O.C. will have my guts for garters!!......(burst of static followed by interruption)...."blue leader to blue two, blue leader to blue two bandits at two oclock!"......oh crikey boffers here comes jerry again!! toddle pip old chap!!!.....(sounds of Red indian opening the throttles on his spifire)
 
BOH, i hope you reconsider. If not i undertsand though. Please feel free to drop me a line, i'd love to chat with yuor sometime.
 
Hell Man..

Usually I don't get involved in these sorts of threads, you're one of the few intelligent people here, I'd prefer you stay.

Tron
 
As would we all....as I said in my pm, mate those that would miss you # 10 times those that would not....


Ray
 
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As would we all....as I said in my pm, mate those that would miss you # 10 times those that would not....


Ray

Absolutely 🙂 Please reconsider BOHF. You always have well thought-out and interesting points to discuss. And you're a hell of a story writer! 😀
 
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I'm hoping you reconsider, Boffie. You're one of the most valuable people here, by far, and like those of Hal, I always come away from reading your posts enlightened. Members like you don't grow on trees. Don't go, Boffie.
 
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Best of luck to you, Boffer! No hard feelings, pal. I'm sure you'll find another forum to vent your dissatisfaction with America and the current administration.
 
BOH,

I am certainly going to miss you and your wonderful writings that I enjoyed so thoroughly! I too try to stay away from the political posts as I am not too much of a confrontational person but you wrote in a very intelligent manner, then its our choice to agree or disagree. This is what debate is all about. I may not totally agree with all your opinions or writing but thats what the world is all about. Your a good fella...be well and I hope you change your mind. I will miss your great stories.

Judy
 
Re: Mmmmm..........

red indian said:
.......just had a thought, maybe I will pretend to leave, just to see what folks say about me......


Oh I'd say the same thing I said to BOFH666. You're wrong most of the time, but at least you check your facts and post a good cogent argument. Lucky for you all I'm around to tell you what those facts really mean 🙂

Tron
 
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As will come as no surprise to you Steve, I'm gutted you're leaving. This entire episode has unpleasant echos of Biggles leaving the way he did. He was left-ist, whereas you're only centre though, so you can imagine the reception HE sometimes got! (And to top it all, he was a student journalist.)

We've lost one of the most interesting commentators the forum had, and I doubt anyone'll take his place for some time to come.


Jim - Who's never felt more like leaving himself. Trouble is, he's just too awkward and inconvenient to those it'd please to do so.
 
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Don't leave.

What he said.

Actually, that's not fair. Do what you must, but know that many here will miss you and, like others have said, the TMF won't be the same without you. The majority of members know the value of your posts and of you as a person - remember that.

Please keep in touch, Steve. I'm sad to see you go.
 
God do I know what you mean Jim

Jim - Who's never felt more like leaving himself. Trouble is, he's just too awkward and inconvenient to those it'd please to do so. [/B][/QUOTE]

All the intelligent, sensitive posters are leaving due to the intolerance and negativity of a few who make themselves heard VERY clearly.


:sowrong:

Just make sure you stay around Big Guy no matter what.

To Steve: I know I'm NOT alone here when I say thank you for EVERYTHING you've done for this forum: The incredible tickling fic, the humor, and the chance to make us THINK, to do research and to NOT blindly accept what we're told to like docile schoolchildren. You and those like you have helped to make at least some of us on this forum see and consider ALL viewpoints . Your posts always had a point, a reason and were written with passion, intelligence and humor.

I for one am proud to call you a friend and know you will be sorely missed around here. The TMF will not be the same with the "BOFH's" posts.:sadcry:

Ghostie
 
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