This whole thread's a great example of social Darwinism. Guys talkin' smack about a woman who's identified herself as both young and new to the forum are clearly identified as being less than supportive. Women receive this sort of information gratefully, and share it amongst themselves.
Then they avoid ANYONE talking thusly.
The lady's young and new to the forum. If she WASN'T spooked ('cause some aren't, sometimes), she likely ain't so willing to interact via IM.
Then there's the consideration shown. How do you know what's going on when you IM? What about her roommates, dormmates, family, etc.? Are you out about your interest here? "Hey, I'm into tickling! Ain't that great?"
Yeah.
There's myriad reasons to behave as she did, and only ONE of them is the negative you've been portraying. The lady knows who NOT to talk to, now. Eventually, she'll figure out that many here have email one can contact, and are "safe" (read: old and married, or clearly well behaved) and she'll ask them questions. Ann, for example. She'll find other women who show what she wants to know, and find out where they got their situation.
And she won't be IMing anyone. By now she's probably wishing she hadn't put up this message. Eventually she'll figure out she can ask for it to be pulled, and the only thing left is that there's a group of men who don't trust that she'll contact them, and a group of women who now know which men are sympathetic to the difficulty in coming forward as a woman and getting swarmed.
Just remember that MOST of her respondants didn't post here, statistically speaking.
She'll figure out how this forum works in her situation. Women collaborate well, generally speaking, and several run gatherings, and several more moderate here. She'll figure such out, and so will anyone else reading this thread.
Problem solved.
