21 yr old fm needs relationship advice =)

[iambrittanys]

hi lee's & ler's!
I am a 21 year old female in a relationship w/ someone who has a tickle fetish. We've been together 3 years and cant see each other apart. His want to tickle others has grown over time and is effecting both our relationship & social life. I let him tickle me all the time and we try new ways of tickling but the want isnt decreasing. I guess were just looking for any kind of way to decrease his obsession. If you have any advice for me/him/or us just pm me or reply to post & I would greatly appreciate it! Thanx! =)

 

[skipsfirstspike]

I am going to assume that tickling is a sexual turn on for him, which is why you don't want him engaging in it with others, right? ok.
That being said, I don't know if there is much you can do to decrease his desire to Want to tickle someone else. He can desire all he likes, and whatever fantasies run through his mind is his own business. However, he should also understand that he cannot act on these desires, period. If you feel strongly that you don't want him tickling someone else, then you have to let him know that you would consider it cheating, and that if he wants to be in this relationship he should stop talking about it. Let him watch all the tickling clips he wants, but he needs to be able to separate fantasy from reality.
Reminds me of a guy I was seeing while in university. His fantasy was to have a threesome. I told him I was not into sharing him, and that I am very straight and not into doing anything like that with another woman. I told him to watch all the threesome porn he wanted, but it wasn't for me. Well, he wouldn't let it go, so I finally told him that yes, we could have a threesome, so long as I can pick the third. We never ended up doing it though, because for some reason he didn't like my friend... Joe. He was like 'I don't want you doing it with another guy!'
Duh.

 

[trace1984]

um how is your relationship going other wise? is this a red flag saying he wants out? maybe u should let him tickle others watch join him? better to give a little then lose alot

 

[maniactickler]

Let him tickle others, or let him go.

 

[TickleSwitch24]

Boundaries

I have this to say about advice on complicated issues: find a subject matter expert and do what they do.

I am familiar with and read books from the Boundaries series, which are about creating healthy boundaries in your life. This sounds like an area where you have met a boundary. I promise you that if you have eyeballs and are literate you will benefit from this book. There is another book in the series (same cover, different color scheme) called Boundaries in dating, and another called Boundaries in Marriage. Although I haven't read them, based on the quality of the original book, I'm sure it contains the blueprint and standard for those types of relationships.

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