31 years...

[melanie2]

So...when you first decide to get married..and then you do actually get married..do you ever think about the future..how many years you will be together etc...or do you just live each day as it comes.. 31 years ago tomorrow...August 12th..i married David...it was a very small ceremony..only he, myself, his brother, and my sister present, along with the Minister...our families gave us things in lieu of a big wedding..what did i think way back then..excited i am sure, and a bit scared about the big step..for me the step away from my parents..i do remember at the time, all i wanted was a small home, sunlit windows, and children..children in time..the years go by so quickly...i can remember those early days of our marriage..the small apartment..the fun we had playing house..oo how i cooked..and cooked...then buying our first home....still no ambition but to be what i was, content..wanting those children though..

Our marriage had some ups and downs...the downs were handled together..what makes our relationship so successful i believe, is being best friends..never running out of things to say..after all these years, he still thinks i'm beautiful..and his greatest pleasure is coming home at night..i've often asked him..."Don't you sometimes wish you could have married someone who could have given you the children, and to be called dad?" He always said he would never trade the life he has now for all the children in the world..he stood by me..he never threw it up in my face, whenever i lost a baby..some men do i think..or else the marriage sometimes falters...we tried adoption after i learned i was considered too high risk...that failed at the very last also..so we decided that we weren't meant to be parents..that's when i began private teaching..

David has been the rock on which this marriage is founded...he was there when mom went into the first of her many depressions..it was he who decided we could take care of dad in our home his final days...it was he who changed my dad's diaper..as dad would not allow me to do...David was there when mom died..cried along with me as i heard that she had just gone..and that we didn't make it in time..DAvid paced the floor for two hours when i had my life threatening surgery...ultimately life saving..

David says i never fail to surprise him..and that life is never boring with me..shall we have another thirty one years? I don't know..he's diabetic..on three shots a day...we shall take it one day at a time..and we will be side by side during that journey...marriage is a give and take relationship, both must be willing to give and take..we've done that...he is my life..and i am his..my only wish is..that we die together..

Thirty one years...at times it seems a lifetime..at others, like the blink of an eye...

 

[ticklebug101]

That's beautiful Izzy, congratulations.
Here's to the next 31 years.
Happiness is hard to find and sometimes damn near impossible to hold on to.
Take care of eachother,
Bugs xoxo.

 

[Rox_My_Sox1]

May you both age with grace on the same pillow. ^_~

 

[melanie2]

thanks you two...hugs

and weeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee Happy Anniversary to meeeeeeeeeeeeee giggles

 

[venray1]

I was married to my first wife for 16 years...we were together for 23..I never had what you and David have until I was divorced and met and married the one I was destined to be with......We have been married for 10 years now and have weathered more down than up times, but we have done it together with love in our hearts....

I hope I have at least another 20-30 years with her and that you and David are still going strong as well....

Thanks for sharing your story and showing people that there is true love in the world if we are lucky enough to find it....

 

[melanie2]

Venray you old so and so lol....just kidding...and aww your welcome..yes i truly believe ours is true love.. a lasting type..and i'm sure you and Tracy will have the same type of marriage..you already do...hugsssssss

 

[venray1]

I only have 2 years on ya in the age dept so shush!!!!

(Love ya hon!)

 

[anon0907]

Congratulations, Izzy. I hope you're together until you depart this earthly existence.

Christopher

 

[David Presents]

Wow, that's very inspirational. Congratulations on your anniversary!

 

[kopfhorer1]

..after all these years, he still thinks i'm beautiful..

He's very perceptive!

...David paced the floor for two hours when i had my life threatening surgery...ultimately life saving..

What was it for, if it's cool to ask (and if it's not, that's OK too)?

In an age when at least one out of every two marriages fails, it's impressive to hear about your own happy relationship. Here's to 30 more years!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRNeTCCnFe0

 

[PlutoBum]

oh izzy...i have tears in my eyes! i hope you two have at least another 31 years together

 

[frylock111]

I'm sure you two will have plenty of years of ahead, Izzy. Nothing's a boundary for true love, least of all illness or the frailties of man.

 

[melanie2]

Thank you all so much...if it were up to me...death would never separate us..

 

[frylock111]

Not to be contentious, but I don't think it can. The heart is too strong an organ and love too strong a force to let death get in the way. Love conquers and transcends all. My philosophy on the matter, anyway.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother thinks that is great and congradulate you on staying together so long. it can be very hard to love someone and stay in love for even a year let alone many decades of tickling bliss. this is a real good all american accomplishment and the two of you should be very proud and happy together

 

[paracarl44]

A belated congratulations on your anniversary.

You have stuck it out with Dave through all of the Good & Bad Times. Sorry to read about the children that you never had. May you continue your Life Together through all of the perils ahead.🙂

 

[Cbarton]

Only ten years behind ya, Izzy! Congrats on the anniversary.

Your post tells all that a marriage should be. Too many want the ceremony without the speed bumps along the way. They want the "for better" without being willing to live through the "for worse" parts. Marriage is more than a name, a ceremony, and the honeymoon. Thanks for illustrating once again that being married is a long term commitment. My fondest prayer is to make it at least as many years as you have.