Hi all,
I'd had a few folks recently that didn't know what the difference was between a gathering and a munch, and a play party and a gathering. I figured it'd be easier to drop in here, give the West Coast Gatherings' definition of such, and a few other terms, and encourage the minds of some wiser heads, like Mia, *poke*, to contribute to your (and hopefully my) enlightenment.
Munch - A munch is a gathering of Scene-friendly people, usually at mealtime. Usually one is held in a public restaurant or pub, though some are held in private spaces in such locations.
Play party - private event where play in a given kink is held. Generally, rules of conduct are established for all, and there are monitors, known and unknown. These can be in dungeons or homes.
Gathering - silly term I coined for social events for ticklephiles, held in a private residence or rented space. Play will occur there, though generally more demur than dungeon play.
Screening - What? You thought we just blindly invite everyone into our homes? Nope. There's questionairres to screen new folks. They're as much for you, the attendee, as for me, the host. Everyone's safer.
Safewords - a word or phrase used to pause or stop play. Commonly, there is, at minimum, one safeword. Often, with new folks, just saying "safeword" is enough. Whomever is running the event or overseeing the play will monitor for such, but anyone neglecting such things is just mistreating the person being tickled.
Bottom - for our purposes, a 'lee. In general, someone on the receiving end of whatever play is in action.
Top - for our purposes, me, or any other 'ler.
'Lee - ticklee. The person being tickled.
'Ler - tickler. The person tickling.
Negotiation - the part, before play begins, when the bottom lays out what's acceptable, tells their safeword, and the top wisely describes the possibilities, to make sure that the bottom doesn't safeword mid-scene, and choke him a lot afterward.
Dom and Sub aren't terms I'm even remotely qualified to define. Mia? A little help here? Here's the best you'll get from me:
Dom - Dominant. Can be considered similar to, but not always exactly the same as a 'ler. Picture tyin' up your sub, and positioning yourself to be tickled by them, and paddlin' their butt if they don't tickle you as you wish.
Sub - Submissive. Yes, someone recently didn't know what this meant. Tripped me, too. Doms have subs like Tops have bottoms, but there's a philosophical argument that arises concerning the differences. Those who recall Annaloo99 know that she's not a sub, but she is a bottom, and thus a 'lee. Confused? It's a bit intricate, and for JUST tickling, isn't quite necessary. Of course, some of us aren't into JUST tickling, hence the mention.
There's a nickel's worth. Add to the list. Discuss.
Oh, and in case you've forgotten, Mia - help?
dvnc
I'd had a few folks recently that didn't know what the difference was between a gathering and a munch, and a play party and a gathering. I figured it'd be easier to drop in here, give the West Coast Gatherings' definition of such, and a few other terms, and encourage the minds of some wiser heads, like Mia, *poke*, to contribute to your (and hopefully my) enlightenment.
Munch - A munch is a gathering of Scene-friendly people, usually at mealtime. Usually one is held in a public restaurant or pub, though some are held in private spaces in such locations.
Play party - private event where play in a given kink is held. Generally, rules of conduct are established for all, and there are monitors, known and unknown. These can be in dungeons or homes.
Gathering - silly term I coined for social events for ticklephiles, held in a private residence or rented space. Play will occur there, though generally more demur than dungeon play.
Screening - What? You thought we just blindly invite everyone into our homes? Nope. There's questionairres to screen new folks. They're as much for you, the attendee, as for me, the host. Everyone's safer.
Safewords - a word or phrase used to pause or stop play. Commonly, there is, at minimum, one safeword. Often, with new folks, just saying "safeword" is enough. Whomever is running the event or overseeing the play will monitor for such, but anyone neglecting such things is just mistreating the person being tickled.
Bottom - for our purposes, a 'lee. In general, someone on the receiving end of whatever play is in action.
Top - for our purposes, me, or any other 'ler.
'Lee - ticklee. The person being tickled.
'Ler - tickler. The person tickling.
Negotiation - the part, before play begins, when the bottom lays out what's acceptable, tells their safeword, and the top wisely describes the possibilities, to make sure that the bottom doesn't safeword mid-scene, and choke him a lot afterward.
Dom and Sub aren't terms I'm even remotely qualified to define. Mia? A little help here? Here's the best you'll get from me:
Dom - Dominant. Can be considered similar to, but not always exactly the same as a 'ler. Picture tyin' up your sub, and positioning yourself to be tickled by them, and paddlin' their butt if they don't tickle you as you wish.
Sub - Submissive. Yes, someone recently didn't know what this meant. Tripped me, too. Doms have subs like Tops have bottoms, but there's a philosophical argument that arises concerning the differences. Those who recall Annaloo99 know that she's not a sub, but she is a bottom, and thus a 'lee. Confused? It's a bit intricate, and for JUST tickling, isn't quite necessary. Of course, some of us aren't into JUST tickling, hence the mention.
There's a nickel's worth. Add to the list. Discuss.
Oh, and in case you've forgotten, Mia - help?
dvnc
