a guy who wants to increase his sensativity

[scorpionldr]

a guy who wants to increase his physical sensativity

Right now I'm really irked. As I'm sure a few people have read, recently I've gone from single to unavailable. Typically I'd be extremely happy and probably sexually excited, but last night made me reconsider things. My girl and I go out, and she takes me to hooters and we go to the theaters and check out Borat. We're making out, we're cuddling, we're both in love. No problem there. We get back to my room, we get ready, and altho her parents don't want her screwing me the first time she stays over with me, we get on the airbed I bring from home and get a little busy and I play by most of her parent's rules. I make out with her, I tickle her, I discover a special spot and she is brought to orgasm by me.

It sounds like we're doing a lot of the things we should, but for the life of me, I am just not aroused. Maybe it's because I fell asleep with her in my arms in the theater, maybe it's because it's late, god only knows. I can't even do myself with her next to me, and this is the same guy that can't talk to her on the phone without ending up stiff as a board. so, after forcing things for myself, we go to sleep, in the morning we try again (get a little sexual motivation in her to wake her up so she can go to work happy). Nothing still.

I know my girlfriend wants to arouse me. Hell, I think I want my girlfriend to arouse me. I mean if I didn't why would we be together and turned on by eachother?

just this level of desensativity to me is a complete shocker. I'm 22 years old. I'm 290 pounds (unfortunately thanks to a nice killer college schedule). Is there any way to make my body more pysically sensative in order to be able to give my girlfriend the pleasure of knowing she pleasures me? I know we want this relationship to not turn south, and we both know emotionally we're a perfect match, but if sexuality is important (like it is) and I stay the way I am, to put it bluntly I'm fucked (or not, which is what this is about).

 

[scorpionldr]

**bump**
I'm willing to try anything so long as there's nothing involving cheating

 

[IrishTickle1]

I think you need to relax. Because it's happened, you're probably going to become self consious about it, but the more your worry, the worse it'll be. It happens to the best of us, so don't worry about it. I always find that in that situation it's best to not think about it and let it jsut happen, you're body knows what to do.

 

[DarthGrinn]

well I'm celibate, so I can't give you any direct advice; but I need to ask: is this your first time?

If it is then I'll pass on something a friend of mien told me when I asked him about his first time (out of curiosity). He told me he had a difficult tiem gettin hard, and his more expereinced gf told him it was normal for first timers. She told him it was all nerves and he needed to just relax and not stress about it. It should be all good once you get over that nervousness.

Now, if it's not ur first time then I really don't have anything for ya except to wish ya luck and hope you overcome it.

 

[MistressValerie1]

Since you mention weighing 290 lbs., you might be at risk for high blood pressure, diabetes, or high cholesterol, any of which can cause erectile problems if untreated. If the problem persists, you should see a doctor for appropriate tests.

 

[Nevordan1]

It would seem you aren't a psychologist, but you are a doctor. *thumbs up*