Kujman1
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Sorry to intrude and break the wall - but this is one of those sad times that transcends all personal grievances and disharmony... where pride, opinions, opposing styles & beliefs, and other traits really fall in way below.... a friend of mine that I care about is hurting, and so risk means little, and even though this may be deleted or flamed, I'll step up on the soapbox for one last time here in his honor and then leave you to your fun-
It goes without saying that anyone who knows Ed is sad for him. We also know the efforts he put forth for his Family. And while there are stupid fights online left and right in the family of tickling, at times like this it all hits home. We're human. We feel. We hurt.
I'm not going to speak about fights, or even death. It doesn't matter cause it can't be changed or altered, despite all the best intentions on Earth. What does matter are the feelings of those that are still living- and I just want to say a note about Ed himself if I may.
I've known Ed for more than 15 years, longer than most here- he's played in the past with Cindy, Tracy, and myself... while there's been a lot of time inbetween where we lost contact, his friendship remained true and deep throughout. I've never known him not to carry that silly smile and great devious and impish tickling persona with him, and it can actually lighten some pretty foul moods. One can only wish we can soon lighten his.
One of Ed's many traits is trying to make people happy. Such as the simple magnanimous gesture on his part when he did not bring this oncoming sorrow to the NYST at all- yet we all know it must have been on his mind a lot- but he kept it inside so as to allow others to enjoy themselves fully. That takes guts. And class.
A lot of people will post "words of comfort" now.... I took my messages privately, others post here and different places, but it all adds up to the fact that he's very well liked- and that at a time like this, there aren't words that fit anyway. Loss is a simple part of life. Acceptance is the hardest lesson to learn. When I lost my Dad, I learned it was the same way. You'll hear many of the same things over and over, all meant in the very best of honest intentions... but few words can carry such a burden. Sometimes they actually rub salt in the wounds inadvertently.
So if some of you are at a loss for words, don't worry over it. I think that no matter what is said, where it's said, or what words are chosen, the right ones, wrong ones, or overused as they may be.. the REAL point is the outpouring of people and emotional support for this man.
And that says more about the man himself (and to some degree the people on these lists and message boards) than any words ever could.
My best to you Ed.....
Kuj
It goes without saying that anyone who knows Ed is sad for him. We also know the efforts he put forth for his Family. And while there are stupid fights online left and right in the family of tickling, at times like this it all hits home. We're human. We feel. We hurt.
I'm not going to speak about fights, or even death. It doesn't matter cause it can't be changed or altered, despite all the best intentions on Earth. What does matter are the feelings of those that are still living- and I just want to say a note about Ed himself if I may.
I've known Ed for more than 15 years, longer than most here- he's played in the past with Cindy, Tracy, and myself... while there's been a lot of time inbetween where we lost contact, his friendship remained true and deep throughout. I've never known him not to carry that silly smile and great devious and impish tickling persona with him, and it can actually lighten some pretty foul moods. One can only wish we can soon lighten his.
One of Ed's many traits is trying to make people happy. Such as the simple magnanimous gesture on his part when he did not bring this oncoming sorrow to the NYST at all- yet we all know it must have been on his mind a lot- but he kept it inside so as to allow others to enjoy themselves fully. That takes guts. And class.
A lot of people will post "words of comfort" now.... I took my messages privately, others post here and different places, but it all adds up to the fact that he's very well liked- and that at a time like this, there aren't words that fit anyway. Loss is a simple part of life. Acceptance is the hardest lesson to learn. When I lost my Dad, I learned it was the same way. You'll hear many of the same things over and over, all meant in the very best of honest intentions... but few words can carry such a burden. Sometimes they actually rub salt in the wounds inadvertently.
So if some of you are at a loss for words, don't worry over it. I think that no matter what is said, where it's said, or what words are chosen, the right ones, wrong ones, or overused as they may be.. the REAL point is the outpouring of people and emotional support for this man.
And that says more about the man himself (and to some degree the people on these lists and message boards) than any words ever could.
My best to you Ed.....
Kuj
