A poll too detailed for the POLL section....

[elaah]

I have been in the online tk community for only about 5 years now and have met quite a few people online that have varying degrees of the love of tickling. Whether it is being tickled by a lover or a friend; if it is playful or sensual; something done in groups or in private; in cyber time or in real time isn't the question I am trying to get response, too. m/f, f/f, f/m, m/m or l/m/n/o/p/ !! LOL Its much deeper than that.

There are people considered by some to be the "old timers" or the Core group of the online world, too. But it is also not a popularity contest, to me anyway. You are who you are ...

With all that said, I am wondering what it is that makes that special person "click" for you. Since there are so many opportunities to meet like minded people online these days, is it exciting to enter a chat room and be tickled or tickle in there in the virtual sense and be satisfying enough? Just because it is tickling? Are you more selective than that? When you meet someone in real life and that chemistry is not there, what do you do? Something that was gratifying to some under the boundary of online meeting places. Exploring with a security net so you don't really have to open up your real world. You can just wake up the next day and get on with life as usual.

Being around for a little while I have gotten to meet and discuss tickling with several people. Some have no idea what makes it ckick for them. Is it enough to be cybertickled? Seems that they are so drawn to the online sense of tickling but would they really want it in their life more?

The reason I ask so many detailed questions is that in a group of 3000+ people I wonder what it is that draws such a small percentage out to discuss these topics. Are they happy in their lives? Are they looking for more? Are they embarrassed about their love of tickling? What is it that makes just a handful respond and post here yet be so driven to become a member and read the TMF like a daily newspaper?

After rereading this I think I should have made it a test format to answer all the questions I asked! LOL SO if I didn't ramble on too much and you have all the time to respond I would be very interested in hearing what you have to say.

I am off to make dinner and think about how I am going to answer this post!

Always ticklish,
Donna : )

 

[tummyticklish01]

Uuuh...🙄 I'm confused😛

 

[TickledToDeath]

First off....for the most part, cyber tickling does nothing for me other than give me a sense of what kind of tickler the person is. It makes me want it MORE in real life especially if the LER is really good at it. It shows imagination and style.

As for the "clicking". It is the whole picture.
Personal physical attraction..personality..sense of humor...what is behind the eyes and in the soul and mind. How ticklish and the reaction from being tickled as well as what tickling does for and to the person I have an interest in whether it be for friendship or something more.

I have met and have tickled alot of women in my 41 plus years of living and I have made alot of friends as well.

However I have only met ONE woman who I clicked on every single level.
It took me over 41 years to find her. I found her HERE in the TMF.
I found true LOVE. That was Patti aka shy girl.

A deafening click it was indeed.

I treasure all my friendships and take them very seriously. I am not one to waste emotions when it comes to something serious.
Friendships last forever, or at least they should barring any betrayal of trust.
Once true love is found...you know it...I know it, I found it.
It is a feeling one has deeeeeep inside ones heart and soul.
The mind can play tricks on you but the heart NEVER lies.


So when something with someone from friendship to love....the click is what is felt in your heart and heard deep inside you.

It is with THOSE whom you are loyal and true to forever. A perpetual comfort.

TTD

 

[shy girl]

AMEN BABY LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[TickledToDeath]

AMEN BABY LOVE YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Dave2112]

TTD and Patti are a real-life couple, and I've rarely met two people more made for each other. Best of luck, guys!

As far as cyber goes, I rarely indulge, but if a conversation turns that way, it's usually with someone I've talked with before, gotten to know a little. As TTD said, it gives some insight into the person's style and limits. Plus, it can be fun on a surreal sort of level, but then again, everything with me is on a surreal level. 😀

I'm not really sure why there are a "Core" who post a lot, perhaps many only have a few things to say. Some people are naturally shy, and that's cool. An online community has similar dynamics to an R/T group, so it's to be expected.

Great thread, eelah! 😎

 

[mysterytic]

Responding

For me tickling can never be a cyber event and be gratifying. I can go along with the creativity and fun in a chat setting, but that's all it is, a fun chat amongs friends with a mutual interest. Tickling can never be a spectator event and be gratifying either. Vidoes are OK, but I consider them a learning tool for techniques and fantasy settings.

There are ticklees and then there are TICKLEES. The clicking for me is multi faceted. Her personality, her laugh, the way she reacts, how her involuntary reflexes take over, her overall sweetness, my emotional feelings for her, I could go on and on. When dating in college I "play tickled" a lot of dates, but none of them were like the one girl I fell in love with. Love will magnify any tickling experience and that is how I define "Clicking". Tickling, for me, is also something that is very personal and private. I am comfortable sharing it with my lover, will never do any serious tickling in public, and will go for non-emotional tickling with a lee only in private, again for me it is not a spectator sport. I don't want my event to be on display and am not interested in seeing others. I am sure there a lots of variations of these feelings amongst the many members of TMF. Ticklers will come in a variety of shapes, sizes, races, genders, and attitudes. Those described are just mine.

 

[TicklingDuo]

There was a time....

Before meeting Drew, I could get into cyber tickling...and often did. We actually did some with one another before meeting in person. But, once we'd met and tickled the living daylights out of one another, cyber kind of left us cold. Talking about the fruit and pretending to taste it was no where near enough once we HAD tasted it.

While cyber CAN give you a sense of what a tickler is like (as TTD said) and give you hints of hot spots on a LEE (if they're reacting honestly in their responses, I can't really get into it any more. Though I DO at times enjoy the show of originality and sportsmanship that can be present, I don't really get into it any more myself.

Ann

 

[bickee]

I am on the chatroom a great deal, and it is not for the cybertickling. Although I will dabble in it a little, I prefer just the normal conversation and jokes to pretending to tickle/be tickled. I have to admit it makes me feel a bit silly. I have met some people that I really just enjoy chatting with ABOUT tickling, not just pretending to tickle. It's nice to know you can use a similar interest to start a conversation and then build friends from there.

 

[Raya]

I have to admit that I hadn't even thought of there being such a thing as "cyber-tickling" before last night when it came up in conversation. I was a little confused as to where the fun would come in to play, really. I can only imagine that I would have fun with it only as a form of flirtation, especially if it was with someone I would probably end up meeting IRL.. like a "when we meet, this is what I am gonna do to you".. serving to heighten the expectations a little bit and perhaps give the other person some advance knowledge of what you want or desire in a RL session..

but then that is only me.. 🙄

 

[P.H. Tickler]

Some things just gotta be done for real...

I don't get nothing from seeing a cyber tickling ,they're just words... same with pics and videos, ok, but some things gotta be DONE to be appreciated. The thing that drew me to the online crowd is being able to discuss the whole tickling phenomenon with others who are into it the same way. I love my wife, we "click" big time, yet she is not as "into" tickling as I, for her it's fun, but not really a turn-on (although after 10 years of it leading to other "romantic activities", she is "conditioned" to it more than before we were married. 😉
It's been my experience that if you click romantically and as friends... then all things are possible.
I can count my 'lees on one hand, but in that group, i have NEVER been rejected 😎. I'm guessing it is because time was taken to establish a proper "comfort level", if they feel comfortable mmm ,"dating" me, then they would probably not mind being tickled, especially right before a "date"

 

[TickledToDeath]

Re: Just Wondering

So, are you and shy girl married? Physically together? Or are you in love with words on a screen? I'm actually curious.

Tron

WE are a real couple. Not married YET. Not yet living together but definatly a REAL couple, NOT just in love with words on a screen.

Thanks for responding for me too, Dave2112! Much apprieciated my brother!

TTD

 

[elaah]

this response is great!

I was unsure of asking these questions because it seems that they must have been asked before, BUT I really like the way you guys have opened up and said what was really on your mind!

Keep up the good work and let the fingers do the talking!


~ Donna

😉

 

[terorizer]

Over the past few years, I've had the opportunity to meet and talk to dozens of folks and out of those, there've been two women that "clicked". In both instances, it wasn't until months of corresponding and speaking on the phone as friends had passed before either of us started thinking of the other in "that" way. Nothing ever became of them for one reason or another, but it leads me to believe for me clicking has very little to do with how the woman is into tickling. I find many things attractive, so I couldn't really say one thing or the other. I don't think many people see the lightening bolt before it hits them. :- )

I've never met someone in r/t when there wasn't at least a little bit of a rapport. I don't expect the next person I meet from the tk community to become my best friend or wife. I just expect a pleasant social exchange, so if the ooo la la chemistry isn't there, ces't la vie.

I must admit, when I first got online, I was completely and totally enamored with the "thought" of women who adored being tickled and who would chat about fantasies and experiences with me. Sometimes, it "inspired" me. Initially, cyber tickling was fun in a crazy-fantasy-video game kinda way. A lot has to do with cravings and desires and appetites I think. Some folks' craving for a thing will allow them to accept a facsimile if the real thing isn't available... and if the facsimile isn't available, then a mere apparition there of...while another can only be satisfied with the original.

The tk-community is really a microcosm of the world at large in my opinion. It takes all kinds, and we have 'em. Like you said, you are who you are. One person wants to sing onstage in front of thousands... another is happy to sing karaoke on the w/ends... and another just in the shower. In addition, I don't believe you can underestimate the fact that while some here may definitely be into tickling, message boards, subject matter and chat rooms about it, simply may not be of interest to them very much. It's always been a theory of mine that so many people (especially those recently discovering they aren't the only person on earth who likes tickling), join clubs and forums such as this just to feel like they belong.