A question for everyone out there

[makeulaught]

Hello, I have a question, but I must explain a little before I ask. All my life I have wanted to meet a girl or have friends that liked to be tickled. I have always been called weird because of the fact that I wanna tickle
feet, this has filled my life with much hiding of my true self. My question is have any of you guys ever felt like that? and if so what have you done to help you cope?

When I first came to the US I was hoping people would be open minded, instead I have been meet with more rejection. I would like to hear anyone opinion and helpful hints for me. Thank you for reading have a great day ^^

 

[GQguy]

Tickling is intimate. Replace tickling with "sex". A woman that has a strong desire to have sex with you will be the most open to letting you tickle her. How do you get women to want to have sex with you? That's a tougher question. I'd start though by being your most handsome,interesting fun version of yourself leading a life that is open to women I.e.: activities where you can meet women(dance class, yoga, coffee shops, happy hour, certain bars/clubs, certain restaurants, certain gyms ect).

Tickling might be your end bit being a cool social normal guy will get you there. Don't bother telling her about your tickling fetish till you know she likes you and wants a physical relationship.

GQ

 

[TickleMyFancy]

Maybe try to be a little more indirect. Make sure you aren't going up to girls like, "Hi, nice to meet you! Can I tickle your feet please?"

99% of girls are gunna flee.

But if you wait until you've formed a friendship/relationship with a girl, then you can bring it up a lot safer.

 

[PurpleStyle]

Maybe try to be a little more indirect. Make sure you aren't going up to girls like, "Hi, nice to meet you! Can I tickle your feet please?"

99% of girls are gunna flee.

But if you wait until you've formed a friendship/relationship with a girl, then you can bring it up a lot safer.

In addition to the above, it helps if you treat tickling like it's not weird.. which it's not.

 

[Bothersome]

Also, don't get into the habit of staring at feet.

A lot of the stories on here kind of imply that it's a good way to get noticed by people who enjoy having attention paid to their feet, but it'll also get you noticed by everyone else.

A trait that a lot of guys lack is subtlety. That's really all I have to add to this.

 

[TickleMyFancy]

Bothersome, your siggy completely cracks me up.

 

[Bothersome]

I do my best.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Tickling is intimate. Replace tickling with "sex". A woman that has a strong desire to have sex with you will be the most open to letting you tickle her. How do you get women to want to have sex with you? That's a tougher question. I'd start though by being your most handsome,interesting fun version of yourself leading a life that is open to women I.e.: activities where you can meet women(dance class, yoga, coffee shops, happy hour, certain bars/clubs, certain restaurants, certain gyms ect).

Tickling might be your end bit being a cool social normal guy will get you there. Don't bother telling her about your tickling fetish till you know she likes you and wants a physical relationship.

GQ

GQ often offers up some of the most intelligent answers to questions. This is one of them.

 

[Jagermeistered]

Tickling is an 'effect'; in which, you enjoy - their reaction. All posters: GQ, Bothersome, and Purple - provided great responses. In summary: "Don't be - weird, be yourself, and be attracted - too, each other!"

 

[Leo tickles]

What GQ said.

In my own words: treat humans like humans, not personal blow up dolls. They'll usually respond better. Usually.

 

[WorkInProgress]

There are a couple of things going on here.

First off, the only way you're going to find someone who is open to talking about tickling from the start of the encounter is in the context of a fetish community like this. If you're not at NEST, then you certainly are going to be treated like you're weird if you go up to women and say "May I have this tickle?" Like it or not, you do have to hold back from bringing up the tickling before you've actually formed a close friendship.

But, there's a bigger issue involved here, and that is the forming of friendships, because I have the feeling you're having general difficulty with that. And it seems to me that way to deal with that is to cultivate your other interests besides tickling and let friendships form over time in communities centered around those interests. I'm in the theatre scene, and three different actress friends of mine have been receptive to some tickling and know all about my fetish. But in all three instances, they had already known me for several years, and interacted with me in other interest areas, before we got there.

Might we have some dialogue about the processes of forming friendships? Maybe that could be a thread, or a tributary within this one.

 

[WorkInProgress]

*LOL* Ah, and meet my friend Leo Tickles. He's actually come a long way these last three years.

 

[makeulaught]

I thank you all for your wonderful advice I have never actually asked anyone if I could tickle them, but definitely need to work on how to make friends. I actually meet a friend who is teaching me how to be more social, I definatly welcome any advice on the matter. My next question would be, exactly what is NEST? like I said I'm still kinda new too all this

Thank you all for your wonderful advice!

 

[Marquis De Sade]

NEST. 🙂

 

[Leo tickles]

Being social is easy.

Approach with "fuck you". A person will either find you hilarious and be your friend for life, or offensive, and point and laugh, maybe punch you.

That's what I've gathered from going to therapy at least.

 

[WorkInProgress]

As I said, Leotickles has come a long way. He's still on the path, though.

NEST is the annual convention in Philadelphia. It's gotten longer and more elaborate over the years, but the basic point is that members of this community meet up and tickle each other, at times with bondage equipment. There are other gatherings as well. There's a special Gatherings section on this forum.

In forming friendships, the key is to relax, listen, show genuine empathy to the other person, and when the other person consistently does the same for you, you have a friendship. If you're talented in any aspect of the creative and performing arts, you have some golden opportunities for making connections by pursuing this.

Something I forgot to mention, by the way: you can do serious damage to your career and your personal life if you try to tickle the wrong person, or tell the wrong person that you're into it. Given that tickling is a form of sexuality for most of us who are here, it's important to remember not to talk about your sexuality with just anyone. (GQ Guy's points are good.)