a question of to tell friends about your fetish or not? need suggestion

[f/f]

I have some people in my area that are nice. I was just wondering if i should tell them about my tickling fetish or not. I mean they know i'm lesbian and how i hate being tickled. they don't know that i love tickling and tickling people. so what do ya people think? should i tell them? or would they look at me weird? :-/


lol thanks for the suggestions 🙂



f/f 🙂

 

[Scooby6993]

I think it depends on more if you're comfy telling them too. Ya never know, if ya tell em, it might start a tickle marathon that you've been wishing for!!!😀

 

[f/f]

good point. they might tickle me. not telling. 😛

 

[Krokus]

Be bold and just tell them. Thats what I'd do, at least.

 

[Scooby6993]

true...but have ya ever tried sneakin' some tickles in on them??? They may think it's fun too.😉

 

[The Pianist]

Well, I know enough people that would consider you wierd for being a lesbian. I personally can't see a reason a fetish or kink would shock your friends than a completely different sexual preference to most of the world.

The only thing I can think of though... I've had a few friends tell me that they're gay... but if they told me they had a fetish, I'd probably have to ask them:

"Now why on earth did I need to know that?"

 

[Lionhart]

ROAR!!

Try to steer a conversation with your friends in the direction of tickling. Perhaps by talking about massage,or palmistry or something of that nature. Then you have the perfect opportunity to sneak tickling into a normal conversation hense alleviating any uncomfortable transitions..
Just my 10 cents..My two cents is free..(sorry eminem haters)
**hugs f/f** Later ticklefreaks!

 

[Cheshire Cat]

Like the Pianist said, if their open minded enough to be comfortable with the homosexuality, than the fetish thing shouldnt be much worse. At least its something relatively safe and "innocent"....well...I wouldnt go that far. But anyway, not only am I bisexual, but most of my friends know so, along with my "alternate lifestyle" in the tickling community. Thats also because me and my girlfriend attend gatherings and stuff. I've never been afraid to express who I am in the world, my attitude was if they thought I was a freak, who the fuck cares? I've had some of my best tickling experiences because I was so open about how much I loved it. I look at it this way, theres a lot of twisted and disturbing things out there in the world. You could be into something a WHOLE lot worse; blood letting, golden showers, feltching (gerbil in the ass), heavy BDSM, etc. (not that I'm judging anyone into that kinda stuff, its your right and privlidge) And yet most of those people think we're crazy! STAND PROUD OF WHAT YOU ARE!!!................mmyep............

PS: And who says you have to use the term "fetish", that actually may turn off a few people. Try just staying in the area of how much you love to tickle people. A sexual reference may sit in someones mind like "Okay, so when she tickles me she gets turned on?"

 

[MrPartickler]

good point. they might tickle me. not telling. 😛

I'm pretty sure you're gonna get tickled by someone at some point if you tell enough friends that you like to tickle.
Sorry, but I don't make the rules! LOL

(...just be sure to let is all know when you do! 😛 )

 

[P50]

NO

Do not do this.

You will be labeled with a an undeservedly negative reputation that is way beyond anything you could imagine or I could possibly predict here in written words.

At this moment, the public is <I><B>NOT</B></I> ready to think about tickling as any sort of normal behavior.

My opinion is that you can share this with ONE individual at a time, based on ninety-one different factors that should be asessed before that individual is informed.

You should not let this be common knowledge in the workplace (especially the workplace), any academic, religious, governmental, health-care, or military institution.

You will be labeled as mentally/emotionally dysfunctional, and will be subject to lower rankings (like grades and paychecks and so on). You will be called "immature" or "unstable" or "unreliable" and when someone has an agenda against you; you may be sure that tickling will be brought up as proof of how [fill in the blank] you are.

Added to these things is the fact that you will be ridiculed; usually behind your back by fake-o-max types who are lying (quite convincingly) to your face.

Finally; if you are a female, it will be a convenient excuse to violate your physical integrity with every anti-female jackass in town using the knowledge as a feeble excuse to cop a nice feel of a nice female body.

Don't think for a minute that I enjoy writing any of these words. Instead, I want you to remain as protected as you can under the circumstances.

I suggest: only tell one person at a time; and only after that person has earned the level of trust needed (e.g., invested time; practiced good manners in speech and behavior over the time; etc.)

 

[tkrexx]

Amen, P50. Nobody could've said it better.

Rxx

 

[Mitchell]

I read what people said on here, and just thought I'd chime in my own "suggestion" since others have been doing so. What I will say, is that from personal experience, and not only having a tickle fetish, but also a foot fetish, Iam very careful about who I discuss my fetishes with. Only my two closest male friends even know I have a foot and tickle fetish, and that I come here. I do not discuss my fetish with members of my family, or other friends, etc. To me a "fetish" as called is a very personal thing, only to be known about by significant others, spouses, and such. For those of us not in the tickle community, we may be considered "weird" by others who dont understand our fetish. My advice is to really get to know these people well, and to feel comfortable with them before even broaching the subject of the fetish. If it were me dating a new girl, I would first have to engaged in at least some form of intimacy with her before discussing my foot and tickle fetish with her. I feel I would want to really get to know her, and for her to know me, and be comfortable with me as a boyfriend, close friend, or person, before saying to her "Can I kiss or tickle your feet?" That way, the person doesnt feel put off by your preference. Even if the people are just friends and you dont wish to tickle them, it may be a little awkward for you to explain to people outside the tickle community who dont understand tickling. My advice is yes you can tell them, but make sure in your own mind that you really know them and feel comfortable with them. This way it might make the subject of tickling a little easier to bring up. I dont know if any of that helped, but I hope it did at least somewhat.

Mitch

 

[The Pianist]

Thinking a little bit more about the comment I made earlier and about what Fsfingers said...

"Now why on earth did I need to know that?"

Being gay is something that you friends probably would find useful knowing... and would probably find out anyway... but especially if tickling is an intimate thing or a bedroom thing... I would only tell your friends that you are already sharing the gory details of your sex life with.... and unless you are the 'open book' type (or perhaps the spoken version by Bruce Willis played in stero..) I wouldn't think that would be too many people.

 

[TickleCrazy]

I'm totally with those who said BE WARY. The only 2 people who know of my fetish are my husband and my ex-lover. I told my ex because we're close friends and she picked up vibes that my marriage had suddenly improved and she wanted to know why. She immediately understood from our past experience together even though we hadn't played many tickling games.

Let me add something from a bi's point of view: GAY PEOPLE ARE NOT NECESSARILY TOLERANT PEOPLE. When after a decade-long lesbian lifestyle I started dating a man many of my gay friends backed away from me. However, when I began dating my first lesbian lover my straight friends remained my friends and still are my friends. Go figure.

 

[OldEnglish]

I could not read through this thread without adding my own experiences into the mix of replies, so here goes...

I agree with most of what everyone has stated so far. I think our fondness for tickling is one that can be looked upon quite negatively by some people in society, yet also without any second thought by others. My personal favorite form of tickling is real-life tickling, the sort that does not necessarily involve bondage or even skimpy clothing/nudity. However, that can be misconstrued by many people in society as being a "kinky sex fetish," even though it does not necessarily always involve sex.

I think that the biggest question that needs to be answered and can only be answered by you is how understanding your friends are. I, too, have told some of my friends abouy my fascination with tickling and have received various responses.

One friend that I told took it the wrong way. Any tickling or reference of tickling I may have made was taken the wrong way by this friend. They believed that the tickling was done solely for sexual pleasure, regardless of the situation, and I felt very uncomfortable with them knowing. As a result, we have since drifted apart.

Another friend, however, took it very differently. I loosely explained to them how "cool" tickling was and how i enjoyed it (without going into too much detail, but fully explaining my interest in it) and he replied with, "So? Tickling girls is cool." and, as a result, I had a "tickle buddy" to help in sneaking in tickles on all of our friends.

The morale of these examples is this... There is no standard yes/no answer to your question. The answer is based on how understanding your friends are and how you will feel with them knowing.

I hope this helps you in your dilemma.

~~Old English

(Thinking it's really time to change my ID. I'm not old, I'm 22...and I'm not from England. I shouldn't have been dusting my furniture with Old English furniture polish when I joined the group🙂)

 

[MadKalnod]

I recommend something of a "Don't Ask/Don't Tell" policy. If you are directly asked if you have a tickling fetish, be honest; but don't just spring it on people for the sake of revealing it. My fetish is a part of me, but so is being a mammal. I don't make it a point to announce to my friends that I have a tickling fetish any more than I feel a pressing need to tell them that I'm a warm-blooded vertebrate. If the subject comes up, I'll deal with it, but treating it as a big issue requiring a formal announcement will probably get you wierder looks than the actual fetish itself.

That said, It's also important how you present it if it does become necessary to do so. I've said it before: The attitude you display for your fetish will influence the way people react to it. If you act as if it's some dark and terrible secret you've had to hide all this time, don't be surprised if your friends treat you as if you've just told them that you're a vampire or that you eat kittens. If I present tickling as just another line item on my list of turn-ons alongside red hair, Aussie/British/Irish/Scottish accents, and breezy floral-print cotton summer dresses (there's just something about a girl twirling through a meadow in one that leaves me breathless... but I digress), then my friends are far more likely to accept it as one more quirk among many. I believe that a negative reaction has far less to do with the subject of one's obsessions than the seemingly disproportionate importance one places upon it.

The core of the matter, I think, lies more in how you feel about and accept your fetish than anyone else. If you can look at it as no big deal, then your friends are far more likely to do so as well. Indeed, if you can treat it as no biggie, you may no longer feel a need to ask your friends to address it at all.

P.S. - Cat, I thought felching was defined as "lickin' round the bootyhole" rather than teaching rodents to spelunk.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Ditto Mad Kalnod...
A perspective: my best friends never asked, so I never told them. And if I were to tell them, I would give them the impression that I thought it was THE MOST NORMAL THING ON EARTH, like everyone else got into it too. Once you confess, with shame in your body language and in your speech, the reaction on the other end will probably be, "whatever floats your boat...shit, I hope he doesn't touch me!" But, if you laugh about it, be devil may care about it, they laugh with you.
Don't be ashamed of yourself. You're under no obligation to tell anyone anything, just because they're your closest friends, but if it ever should come up, just play it cool. Everything's fine! 🙂

 

[SlaverTickler]

OT Coment

I just saw your picture in the members pictures area, and you are one of the prettiest girls on the forum. I know this has nothing to do with you question but I just thought I'd mention it anyway.

 

[Cheshire Cat]

Re: OT Coment

I just saw your picture in the members pictures area, and you are one of the prettiest girls on the forum. I know this has nothing to do with you question but I just thought I'd mention it anyway.

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