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milagros317
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Yes, I would marry someone who is not ticklish. As long as she liked to tickle me.😀 I am 90% lee.
Terra_Ascension
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My answer is as follows: I simply pray or have faith in God that the woman I marry WILL be ticklish and LOVE tickling.
God bless you all! 😉
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God bless you all! 😉
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TklDuo-Ann
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Well, since I'm already married it's a moot point. But, as much as I love tickling, it's not anything that's important enough to me to HAVE to have my spouse be ticklish (or love to tickle). There are MANY things I consider to be more important. So, I would have to answer no. But, it sure is fun and great that I found someone who loves both sides as much as I do! 😀
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Whether ticklish or not, she would have to engage in tickling games with me in order for me to consider it a real marriage.
There are plenty of legally married people (i.e., married in the eyes of the law) whom I do not consider "really married".
That is what I'm referencing.
Giggling, laughing, squealing, squirming reactions are not the big deal. Gentle touching, stroking, and tickling are the big deal.
I have previously written about this and others have added to it in this thread...
Conversational Tickling (Laughter Not Required)
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?threadid=18716
So, ticklish ? Not a mandate. Tickling itself ? Yes, if she really wants us both to be happy.
There are plenty of legally married people (i.e., married in the eyes of the law) whom I do not consider "really married".
That is what I'm referencing.
Giggling, laughing, squealing, squirming reactions are not the big deal. Gentle touching, stroking, and tickling are the big deal.
I have previously written about this and others have added to it in this thread...
Conversational Tickling (Laughter Not Required)
http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?threadid=18716
So, ticklish ? Not a mandate. Tickling itself ? Yes, if she really wants us both to be happy.
4Pawz
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Yes, I would marry someone who isn't into tickling. If I go so far as to marry someone, then I go based upon the person, not what they are into or not into. I care about the guy, how well we get along, how we treat each other, that sort of stuff.
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milagros317
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f/f said:
No. I find it hard to imagine developing an intimate relationship with (let alone marrying) a woman who neither likes to be tickled nor wants to tickle me.
I'm not sure I would ever marry anyone period, but if I did, I find it hard to believe that they would not at least be open to tickling me. It's not a mandatory requirement for me, so much as it is just the kind of person I would probably find myself attracted to.
TickledToDeath
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No
Tickling is too much a part of me. Always has been. More than likely, always will be.
This does not make me shallow because my "standards" or "expectations" have always been set high. Always thought, "I'd rather be alone than with the wrong woman". Took a long time but it paid off.😀 🙂
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Tickling is too much a part of me. Always has been. More than likely, always will be.
This does not make me shallow because my "standards" or "expectations" have always been set high. Always thought, "I'd rather be alone than with the wrong woman". Took a long time but it paid off.😀 🙂
TTD
Sure I would marry a woman who is not ticklish.. (is it just me, or does it cause anyone else pain to put "not" and "ticklish" together?), because
a) a physical tickle is only one kind of tickle
b) similar to something stated in another reply, my idea of what a tickle is extends beyond the laughter-from-light-touch induced variety. For me, massages, rubs, caresses, strokes and such (tickles too), are all manifestations of the same love and affection.
c) There are plenty of ways to give laughter and pleasure and as long as I could still give that laughter and pleasure, I'd be content... guess I'm just easy that way.
a) a physical tickle is only one kind of tickle
b) similar to something stated in another reply, my idea of what a tickle is extends beyond the laughter-from-light-touch induced variety. For me, massages, rubs, caresses, strokes and such (tickles too), are all manifestations of the same love and affection.
c) There are plenty of ways to give laughter and pleasure and as long as I could still give that laughter and pleasure, I'd be content... guess I'm just easy that way.
MrPartickler
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I can only answer this question more in terms of "would I marry someone who didn't like tickling and/or being tickled" rather than "...marrying someone who isn't ticklish." The two are almost inseprable for me. If a woman's ticklish but genuninely hates it with a passion, she may as well be not ticklish to me. If she's not ticklish, then trying to seriously tickle her would probably be at best frustrating and at worst annoying--for both of us. lol
I think it takes a special kind of person to honestly appreciate, yet neither understand <i>nor</i> share a part of my life that has this much weight--especially since it's a part that necessitates interaction with another of the opposite sex. That is not just confined to actual tickling, but it may be in the form of chatting or reading stories or having fantasies or checking out the TMF. I'd like to think I could genuinely share such personal thoughts, joys, and pleasures with someone I cared enough about to marry. However, none of that could really be shared with someone who didn't understand and/or couldn't participate for some reason. The lack of understanding would undoubtedly lead to problems in our private life. (And, as many can attest, problems in one area tend to precipitate problems in all others.)
I've read posts from a few folks on here whose significant others are not ticklish and/or not into tickling, but who also allow them to indulge in various other ways. I think those are wonderful, albeit exceptional, cases. I honestly wouldn't want to have to look elsewhere to meet my tickling "needs," but if it works for others, more power to 'em. I've personally encountered <i>many</i> more folks who are involved in relationships and are unhappy or simply "looking elsewhere" because their partners don't understand.
Finally, I'll note that above I essentially stated that she should (<i>at a minimum</i>) <b>appreciate</b> the tickler in me--not simply "tolerate" or "be open to" being tickled. Speaking from experience, that doesn't work for me. I say that for the same reason that I wouldn't want to be with someone who "tolerates" my kisses or who doesn't personally enjoy but is simply "open to" giving me a hug or sleeping with me. 🙄
btw...
Does anyone else think this great question would probably get a better response if it were in the actually in the Tickling Discission section? 😕
I think it takes a special kind of person to honestly appreciate, yet neither understand <i>nor</i> share a part of my life that has this much weight--especially since it's a part that necessitates interaction with another of the opposite sex. That is not just confined to actual tickling, but it may be in the form of chatting or reading stories or having fantasies or checking out the TMF. I'd like to think I could genuinely share such personal thoughts, joys, and pleasures with someone I cared enough about to marry. However, none of that could really be shared with someone who didn't understand and/or couldn't participate for some reason. The lack of understanding would undoubtedly lead to problems in our private life. (And, as many can attest, problems in one area tend to precipitate problems in all others.)
I've read posts from a few folks on here whose significant others are not ticklish and/or not into tickling, but who also allow them to indulge in various other ways. I think those are wonderful, albeit exceptional, cases. I honestly wouldn't want to have to look elsewhere to meet my tickling "needs," but if it works for others, more power to 'em. I've personally encountered <i>many</i> more folks who are involved in relationships and are unhappy or simply "looking elsewhere" because their partners don't understand.
Finally, I'll note that above I essentially stated that she should (<i>at a minimum</i>) <b>appreciate</b> the tickler in me--not simply "tolerate" or "be open to" being tickled. Speaking from experience, that doesn't work for me. I say that for the same reason that I wouldn't want to be with someone who "tolerates" my kisses or who doesn't personally enjoy but is simply "open to" giving me a hug or sleeping with me. 🙄
btw...
Does anyone else think this great question would probably get a better response if it were in the actually in the Tickling Discission section? 😕
absolutely! that sums it up beautifully. I have been ‘humored’ and can tell you that it feels horrible. hated it. bad.
understanding AND appreciation. have to have both.
I would not even date someone who is not into it. wouldn't be fair to either of us.
AffectionateDan
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Love conquers all?
Everyone responding so far has made prefectly valid points, and I agree/subscribe to most of them. I know, from my previous marriage, that it IS an important factor in the relationship, just as several of you have mentioned already, like any other facet of the physical portion of the relationship. It's part of who you are, and needs to be part of your intimate time together. So, while some may argue that the eyes of love can look past a minor flaw like not sharing one's passion for tickling, I can honestly say that, having "been there, done that", that's not true. At least for me. This is who I am. Love all of me. Period. I was married to one of the most ticklish women on the planet for 13 years, and she made no bones about the fact that she not only hated it, but that it wasn't even to be tolerated. (WTF was he thinking! , I can here some of you saying, LoL) If you're not getting what you need from your spouse, then what are you, other than roommates? I for one vote "Nay"... we've gotta be on the same page, or it's not honest.
Everyone responding so far has made prefectly valid points, and I agree/subscribe to most of them. I know, from my previous marriage, that it IS an important factor in the relationship, just as several of you have mentioned already, like any other facet of the physical portion of the relationship. It's part of who you are, and needs to be part of your intimate time together. So, while some may argue that the eyes of love can look past a minor flaw like not sharing one's passion for tickling, I can honestly say that, having "been there, done that", that's not true. At least for me. This is who I am. Love all of me. Period. I was married to one of the most ticklish women on the planet for 13 years, and she made no bones about the fact that she not only hated it, but that it wasn't even to be tolerated. (WTF was he thinking! , I can here some of you saying, LoL) If you're not getting what you need from your spouse, then what are you, other than roommates? I for one vote "Nay"... we've gotta be on the same page, or it's not honest.
If I was in love with her, and she was in love with me. If we could talk to each other and never found each other boring to talk to. If she wanted to go into the relationship as a partner, and 1/2 of a whole. If we had the same goals. Oh yeah. I would definately and not have any regrets.
