A Serious Experience That's Made Me Question My Kink.

[SilkStone18]

Hello, everyone. It's been a long while since I last posted a story, but I've hit a few hurdles in life that I needed to sort out. One of them was deciding on whether or not I wanted to continue writing stories. I'm a catholic, if that adds any context, though I don't think it really does. Of course, I'm well aware of that they're all fabricated with no roots to my personal life, but a recent experience made me consider on how stern the borders should be when it comes to fetishes like these. To keep a long story short, a few weeks after my last submitted story I was at a friend's place for a simple get together, and there was a pretty girl there who I only knew the name of and vice versa. I'm going to call her Alice but that's not her real name. I don't usually drink, as I've never had a strong desire for alcohol, but as the day progressed into night things started getting a bit iffy with the crowds so I decided to head out into the backyard where most of the people out there weren't wasted... yet. Well, here's where the bad luck started. A couple of guys, probably around my age so mid-twenties, decided to make a move on Alice who seemed reluctant to interact with them. I thought things would end there, but the drunk guys tried to get their way by tickling Alice, and the group around us laughed along as Alice flailed to protect her ribs. However, I could tell that the guys were getting too handsy with Alice, and their fingers were trying to weasel into the cleavage of her blouse and dig past her belt for her privates. I stepped forward to put a stop to it, but the drunk group around me laughed and blocked my path, saying it was all fun and games and that I needed to chill. By then, Alice was on her back, laid on the grass, with some screaming mixed in with her panicked laughter. At that point, I didn't care what the other people thought, and pushed my way past the tipsy lot and pulled the two drunk guys off her. Thankfully, I'm about the same size as the two guys standing at 5'10" so I didn't have too much trouble with them, but then things started getting difficult when they spat in my face and yelled a bunch of insults at me that I won't bother writing here. Now, I'm a boxer. Have been at it for a year now and I've become pretty fit because of it, but boxing also taught me a lot about restraint and the need to choose when to throw a punch. That, and while I do enjoy combat sports, I don't see any reason as to why people would willingly scrap outside of a gym environment unless they wanted their faces to get caved in or worse on the street.


Unfortunately, the two perverted drunks didn't have the same experiences I did, and took a swing that clicked against my jaw. I stumbled back into the crowd, who started hooting for a fight, and before I could try to diffuse the situation, the two drunks were on me with fists intent on clocking out my lights. In the end, I didn't take a punch and knocked down the two louts with a right straight and a left hook to the liver that made them puke. Thankfully not on me. I then shouted at the stunned group around me and went to help Alice. She didn't say a word until we reached the bus stop where her mom was supposed to pick her up, but she clung to my sleeve the whole time and when she finally sat down she said she hated tickling and everyone who enjoyed it, then thanked me for being the only real man during the party. The next day, my friend who invited me to the affair apologized profusely, as he'd went out with most of the other sensible guys to buy more food and drinks during that whole debacle and smacked the two drunk guys when he found out what happened. I still like seeing a beautiful woman wearing sheer nylons as much as the next guy, but I'm questioning as to how far I should let this fetish develop with my personal life as I've always wanted to find a partner who would allow me to tickle their nyloned soles. But now... I can't say I'm too sure of that desire.

I'm sorry if this dampened anyone's mood, I just needed to get this off my chest before I started uploading the batch of stories I've written for my Office Of All Flags Series. Thanks for reading everyone, and I'd love to hear some input to help clear my mind.

God Bless,

Silkstone18.

 

[robmic]

That's a sad situation. Alice will probably never become accustomed to being tickled because of what those idiots did to her! It basically was assaulting her. If you and her were close and possibly a couple, even if you were gentile with her about tickling, she would probably take forever to come around if ever. I wouldn't consider it anything against you or your interests in tickling for her remark about hating being tickled. I'd bet if you and her were close and you had gently introduced her to tickling, her attitude about if would be much different. That's my 2 cents on your inquiry...

 

[SilkStone18]

That's a sad situation. Alice will probably never become accustomed to being tickled because of what those idiots did to her! It basically was assaulting her. If you and her were close and possibly a couple, even if you were gentile with her about tickling, she would probably take forever to come around if ever. I wouldn't consider it anything against you or your interests in tickling for her remark about hating being tickled. I'd bet if you and her were close and you had gently introduced her to tickling, her attitude about if would be much different. That's my 2 cents on your inquiry...

Thanks m8. I know it's wrong to cast those with the same tickle kink under the same umbrellas as those two drunk idiots, but it just opened my eyes more to the fact as to why those with my kind of kink are put in a bad light.

 

[robmic]

It doesn't take much... 😏

 

[imperiex]

Hello, everyone. It's been a long while since I last posted a story, but I've hit a few hurdles in life that I needed to sort out. One of them was deciding on whether or not I wanted to continue writing stories. I'm a catholic, if that adds any context, though I don't think it really does. Of course, I'm well aware of that they're all fabricated with no roots to my personal life, but a recent experience made me consider on how stern the borders should be when it comes to fetishes like these. To keep a long story short, a few weeks after my last submitted story I was at a friend's place for a simple get together, and there was a pretty girl there who I only knew the name of and vice versa. I'm going to call her Alice but that's not her real name. I don't usually drink, as I've never had a strong desire for alcohol, but as the day progressed into night things started getting a bit iffy with the crowds so I decided to head out into the backyard where most of the people out there weren't wasted... yet. Well, here's where the bad luck started. A couple of guys, probably around my age so mid-twenties, decided to make a move on Alice who seemed reluctant to interact with them. I thought things would end there, but the drunk guys tried to get their way by tickling Alice, and the group around us laughed along as Alice flailed to protect her ribs. However, I could tell that the guys were getting too handsy with Alice, and their fingers were trying to weasel into the cleavage of her blouse and dig past her belt for her privates. I stepped forward to put a stop to it, but the drunk group around me laughed and blocked my path, saying it was all fun and games and that I needed to chill. By then, Alice was on her back, laid on the grass, with some screaming mixed in with her panicked laughter. At that point, I didn't care what the other people thought, and pushed my way past the tipsy lot and pulled the two drunk guys off her. Thankfully, I'm about the same size as the two guys standing at 5'10" so I didn't have too much trouble with them, but then things started getting difficult when they spat in my face and yelled a bunch of insults at me that I won't bother writing here. Now, I'm a boxer. Have been at it for a year now and I've become pretty fit because of it, but boxing also taught me a lot about restraint and the need to choose when to throw a punch. That, and while I do enjoy combat sports, I don't see any reason as to why people would willingly scrap outside of a gym environment unless they wanted their faces to get caved in or worse on the street.


Unfortunately, the two perverted drunks didn't have the same experiences I did, and took a swing that clicked against my jaw. I stumbled back into the crowd, who started hooting for a fight, and before I could try to diffuse the situation, the two drunks were on me with fists intent on clocking out my lights. In the end, I didn't take a punch and knocked down the two louts with a right straight and a left hook to the liver that made them puke. Thankfully not on me. I then shouted at the stunned group around me and went to help Alice. She didn't say a word until we reached the bus stop where her mom was supposed to pick her up, but she clung to my sleeve the whole time and when she finally sat down she said she hated tickling and everyone who enjoyed it, then thanked me for being the only real man during the party. The next day, my friend who invited me to the affair apologized profusely, as he'd went out with most of the other sensible guys to buy more food and drinks during that whole debacle and smacked the two drunk guys when he found out what happened. I still like seeing a beautiful woman wearing sheer nylons as much as the next guy, but I'm questioning as to how far I should let this fetish develop with my personal life as I've always wanted to find a partner who would allow me to tickle their nyloned soles. But now... I can't say I'm too sure of that desire.

I'm sorry if this dampened anyone's mood, I just needed to get this off my chest before I started uploading the batch of stories I've written for my Office Of All Flags Series. Thanks for reading everyone, and I'd love to hear some input to help clear my mind.

God Bless,

Silkstone18.

I think it's totally logical for you to have reservations about tickling after such a negative experience. I will say though that it's a pretty good example of why consent is important in relationships whether with friends or romantic partners. Tickling is a trickly subject with a lot of people and there's a wide spectrum when it comes to how people react to tickling. Anyone who has seen more than a handful of tickling videos can tell you that. Ticklees can have very big reactions to tickling that most of us would find erotic and never show up in another tickling production again bc they hated it or are literally only doing it because they're desperate for money. On the other hand you have women who like to be tickled and end up coming back and making dozens of videos or even starting careers as tickle models because they overall enjoyed aspects of the experience. Some even get straight up aroused by it.

A person is a culmination of all of their experiences and for some people tickling could have a very negative connotation for them. Imo that's something important to keep in mind when looking into romantic partners if tickling plays a heavy role in your sexuality. Some women will be into it, some will not. Some will warm up to it, some will get the ick if you try to tickle their feet. That's life.

A good example is my wife. When we first started dating I asked over text if she was ticklish and where. She avoided giving me an answer and In later learned she had a "wtf" weirded out reaction to me asking that. But she liked me and was into me so we kept going out. On one of the dates I playfully tickled her foot and according to her she could quickly tell I liked tickling her for more than playful reasons and she enjoyed that it was a secret sexy thing between the two of us. The date ended with us making out in the car with her straddling my lap and me tracing up and down her soles with my fingertips. And none of that would've happened if I 1. didn't read the signals and cool it with the tickle talk after she avoided the subject 2. pounced on her and tickle attacked her at a party and 3. she weren't in a space emotionally or physically to be open to tickling.

And so I think you shouldn't close off the idea of exploring tickling a cute girl in nylons down the line but maybe its something better for you to bring up in conversation when you feel ready or test it out playfully before springing an elaborate tickling session on them.

 

[playfulfeathr09]

Sad as the ordeal was, she'll always remember you for being a gentleman and helping her instead of just "diving in". While it's fun to tickle someone, you must ALWAYS respect their limits and if they say "no" with that tone of seriousness, you stop and go on with life.

 

[OldBen]

You have my respect for being a gentelman and a really good man. But I don't believe that you should rethink your fetish because of that situation. Being a jerk to people and being a true tickler are different things. Wish you best, dude!

 

[footfan69]

You absolutely did the right thing, Silverstone, and should never be punished or punish yourself for doing the right thing. Be friends with her in a genuine way just to be friends, and continue to be a gentleman to all the other girls you see. You’ll know when it’s time to introduce tickling to the others. Bravo!

 

[SilkStone18]

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I've done some contemplating over the past couple of days and I think I'm going to ease off on my indulgence on tickling in general. Not just because of what I recently experienced, but I think I need to touch some grass and look beyond other people as a potential candidate to introduce my fetish to or to build a relationship just so that I can get around to tickling my partner. I'll take the advice that I've received to heart and I'll still upload stories every now and then, but maybe I'll veer towards a more mature setting and stay within my comfort zones to make sure my own boundaries aren't faded out and overlooked.

 

[redheadlady]

Sounds like a really unpleasant situation for the lady involved. Thank you for stepping in to help her. Who knows how far they would have gone. She must have been terrified

 

[SilkStone18]

Sounds like a really unpleasant situation for the lady involved. Thank you for stepping in to help her. Who knows how far they would have gone. She must have been terrified

I want to think that most gents who have a tickle fetish aren't like the guys who tried to take advantage of Alice, but I'm not naive to think that everyone who has it, has respectful ideas in mind when they find out someone is ticklish.

For what it's worth, all I got was small mark on my face that's already disappeared. Still, this experience has engraved the seriousness that I need to take as a person and as a catholic whenever I think of a tickling situation now and do my best to resist any inappropriate urges that should arise and respect other peoples space.

Even now, I'm ashamed to admit that while I do want a girlfriend, I also had the subconscious motive of wanting to tickle her should I have the blessing of meeting her. That's not the kind of motive that would keep a strong relationship, and I don't want to be a deceiver like that toward a potential partner who I might look at as a tickle victim instead of a beloved.

 

[Soles_Scream]

Hello, everyone. It's been a long while since I last posted a story, but I've hit a few hurdles in life that I needed to sort out. One of them was deciding on whether or not I wanted to continue writing stories. I'm a catholic, if that adds any context, though I don't think it really does. Of course, I'm well aware of that they're all fabricated with no roots to my personal life, but a recent experience made me consider on how stern the borders should be when it comes to fetishes like these. To keep a long story short, a few weeks after my last submitted story I was at a friend's place for a simple get together, and there was a pretty girl there who I only knew the name of and vice versa. I'm going to call her Alice but that's not her real name. I don't usually drink, as I've never had a strong desire for alcohol, but as the day progressed into night things started getting a bit iffy with the crowds so I decided to head out into the backyard where most of the people out there weren't wasted... yet. Well, here's where the bad luck started. A couple of guys, probably around my age so mid-twenties, decided to make a move on Alice who seemed reluctant to interact with them. I thought things would end there, but the drunk guys tried to get their way by tickling Alice, and the group around us laughed along as Alice flailed to protect her ribs. However, I could tell that the guys were getting too handsy with Alice, and their fingers were trying to weasel into the cleavage of her blouse and dig past her belt for her privates. I stepped forward to put a stop to it, but the drunk group around me laughed and blocked my path, saying it was all fun and games and that I needed to chill. By then, Alice was on her back, laid on the grass, with some screaming mixed in with her panicked laughter. At that point, I didn't care what the other people thought, and pushed my way past the tipsy lot and pulled the two drunk guys off her. Thankfully, I'm about the same size as the two guys standing at 5'10" so I didn't have too much trouble with them, but then things started getting difficult when they spat in my face and yelled a bunch of insults at me that I won't bother writing here. Now, I'm a boxer. Have been at it for a year now and I've become pretty fit because of it, but boxing also taught me a lot about restraint and the need to choose when to throw a punch. That, and while I do enjoy combat sports, I don't see any reason as to why people would willingly scrap outside of a gym environment unless they wanted their faces to get caved in or worse on the street.


Unfortunately, the two perverted drunks didn't have the same experiences I did, and took a swing that clicked against my jaw. I stumbled back into the crowd, who started hooting for a fight, and before I could try to diffuse the situation, the two drunks were on me with fists intent on clocking out my lights. In the end, I didn't take a punch and knocked down the two louts with a right straight and a left hook to the liver that made them puke. Thankfully not on me. I then shouted at the stunned group around me and went to help Alice. She didn't say a word until we reached the bus stop where her mom was supposed to pick her up, but she clung to my sleeve the whole time and when she finally sat down she said she hated tickling and everyone who enjoyed it, then thanked me for being the only real man during the party. The next day, my friend who invited me to the affair apologized profusely, as he'd went out with most of the other sensible guys to buy more food and drinks during that whole debacle and smacked the two drunk guys when he found out what happened. I still like seeing a beautiful woman wearing sheer nylons as much as the next guy, but I'm questioning as to how far I should let this fetish develop with my personal life as I've always wanted to find a partner who would allow me to tickle their nyloned soles. But now... I can't say I'm too sure of that desire.

I'm sorry if this dampened anyone's mood, I just needed to get this off my chest before I started uploading the batch of stories I've written for my Office Of All Flags Series. Thanks for reading everyone, and I'd love to hear some input to help clear my mind.

God Bless,

Silkstone18.

I am so happy that you were there and diffused the situation!!! I'd like to think I'd have done the same. This woman was basically getting assaulted, and the crowd clearly had no comprehension of that fact, or didn't care.

I question my fetish a lot whenever I see folks (with or without the fetishes) use tickling against someone against their will.

 

[King of tickles]

Glad you were there to help her. People like those two guys as well as others that don’t respect boundaries can make a lot of us look like sadists.

 

[AbsolutelyTkld]

You were in the right. I would definitely throw hands to protect an assault like that. As I was reading this I thought it would have been the other way around and I’m glad I was wrong. I would feel bad if she actually liked what was happening and got mad that you stopped it.

But that’s what makes us who we are. Consent is king and protecting the boundaries set is paramount. Good work.

 

[King of tickles]

Not that we’d ever know, but I’m curious if she was “kinda” ok with tickling before the assault. Like she’s done with it with people she knows and trusts. Then this event happened. Either way, truly terrible.

 

[SilkStone18]

Not that we’d ever know, but I’m curious if she was “kinda” ok with tickling before the assault. Like she’s done with it with people she knows and trusts. Then this event happened. Either way, truly terrible.

To that, I have no idea King. I've only seen her at a few hangouts since the incident, and we've been friendly to each other but never truly friends; moreso kind acquaintances, but we haven't really talked because I'm still from wary about myself whenever I'm around her.

What I do know about "Alice" is that she never had any interactions with tickling and the like beforehand. And I've never been one to open up about tickling with even the closest of my pals, and I don't think I'll ever be able to mention it to Alice after what she's been through. It just wouldn't be right.

 

[SilkStone18]

You were in the right. I would definitely throw hands to protect an assault like that. As I was reading this I thought it would have been the other way around and I’m glad I was wrong. I would feel bad if she actually liked what was happening and got mad that you stopped it.

But that’s what makes us who we are. Consent is king and protecting the boundaries set is paramount. Good work.

Thanks for the input. This incident has really hammered into me that even if there is an opportunity for a tickle, I really need to know the person and know if they would ever be okay with a playful rib poke. If they don't seem to be that sort of person, I'm going to do my absolute best to hammer down the idea no matter what my lust wants.

 

[SilkStone18]

I am so happy that you were there and diffused the situation!!! I'd like to think I'd have done the same. This woman was basically getting assaulted, and the crowd clearly had no comprehension of that fact, or didn't care.

I question my fetish a lot whenever I see folks (with or without the fetishes) use tickling against someone against their will.

It's comforting to hear that I'm not the only one struggling with my thoughts when it comes to my kink. Cheers man.

 

[BlueLine7045]

Honestly, I just skimmed through the comments but I read your whole story. I don't really see why this would affect your kink or love of tickling. That almost seems to me similar to saying "because I know there are women out there that get taken advantage of sexually (not going to use the stronger word... don't want to trigger anyone), I am no longer interested in sex."

You can be into tickling and have a fetish, and not be into sexually assaulting someone. I would bet you all the money to my name those guys don't even have a tickle fetish. It wasn't about the tickling for them, it was about touching her and feeling her up.

People like that are the reason tickling and tickle fetishists are given such a bad name. The important thing here is boundaries and being respectful.

 

[Libertine]

"That almost seems to me similar to saying "because I know there are women out there that get taken advantage of sexually (not going to use the stronger word... don't want to trigger anyone), I am no longer interested in sex.""

This. Chivalry and decency are both vital, but taken to ridiculous extremes get in the way of living. I recall an instance in the early 1980s when I helped a very beautiful acquaintance through an asthma attack, but even though I now realize she liked me a lot after that I was still too shy to ask her out. Maybe I inadvertently cheated us both out of something pleasant through overthinking. I'll never know now.

Ask Alice out for lunch. Lunch is unthreatening to women because it has a definite end. Don't talk about her unfortunate experience but chat in an ordinary fashion using questions that can't be answered by a yes or no, such as 'That's an interesting necklace. What's the story behind it?'

And there's always The Old Dessert Trick. A lot of women will turn down dessert because they don't want to seem greedy or whatever. So if that happens tell her that you're going to have some yourself anyway and ask her advice on the choice. Her answer will be what she wants to eat herself. Order that along with another spoon (pretend that this second utensil is an afterthought) have a few bites yourself first then suggest she try a bit.

In my experience she will then eat a bit more than half, but for a woman stealing someone else's calories actually doesn't count where weight gain is concerned, so she can feel sated but guilt-free.

Everything in the dating game is a bit of a minefield but now and again we manage to get through it without getting blown up. As my father once advised me, 'She's probably as nervous of you as you are of her'.

She might even have been waiting for you to ask her out.

Faint heart ne'er won fair lady so give it a try. And in the same way that a girl who's been groped by some boor can still enjoy sex with the right person, she might not be opposed should the opportunity to tickle her gently later on in your acquaintance present itself.

And who knows what that might lead to?

 

[King of tickles]

As someone that used to be “flirty” with women I liked, and have definitely tickled quite a few, I found out in 2012 an old friend mentioned how it used to annoy her. That put it into perspective. I definitely don’t do it to someone I just met or anything. I also try to play it off as light joking. Especially if it’s at work.

 

[BlueLine7045]

As someone that used to be “flirty” with women I liked, and have definitely tickled quite a few, I found out in 2012 an old friend mentioned how it used to annoy her. That put it into perspective. I definitely don’t do it to someone I just met or anything. I also try to play it off as light joking. Especially if it’s at work.

I feel like being able to pick up on the vibe and able to analyze/determine the person you're with plays a part in that too. I very, very rarely tickle anyone in public such as other family members, friends, etc. and I absolutely 100% will not tickle a stranger or acquaintance I'm not familiar with.

My determination comes down to my relationship with the other person and how we play off each other. If I am being silly and playful, and my friend responds to that in turn, I feel like a little tickle here or there is alright, so long as they don't freak out. If they do, never again. I only really have one female friend though. I've tried to tickle her a lot in the past and she isn't ticklish at all so I don't try anymore. No point.

Point I'm trying to make is though, if you're not sure how someone will respond to a friendly tickle, don't do it. I would only ever do it with people I'm really, really close to, like best friends or FWB / flirty partners.