A topic all about sex

[c7_assassin]

If someone goes up to you and grabs your ass, then a good "what the fuck? Don't fucking touch me!" is appropriate to the situation. lol. I thought we had moved beyond this context (because its so obviously a stupid thing to do) and were talking about the following context-------->

If, however, you're hanging out with a guy you know and he puts the moves on you, feeling "harassed" and getting aggressive simply because the feelings aren't mutual is an over the top reaction. Mainly because you're not being harassed nor is the other person's advances any sign of being in immediate danger. A much more appropriate response in this situation would probably be, "I'm sorry but I don't see you that way."

Of course, if the other person gets pissed off and starts verbally chastising you, then they're the one whose being a drama queen.



Yeah, that's obviously the behavior of a dumbass.

And this is starting to sound like the protestations of a guy who's experienced the kind of reaction Rhiannon is talking about. If you're misreading some signals and you go in for physical contact when it's not invited, then you're gonna get your face slapped. That's just how it works. Maybe some women would be cool about it, whether it's tickling, or a kiss, or an ass slap or whatever, but some of them won't. That's not their problem; it yours.

 

[rhiannon]

If, however, you're hanging out with a guy you know and he puts the moves on you, feeling "harassed" and getting aggressive simply because the feelings aren't mutual is an over the top reaction. Mainly because you're not being harassed nor is the other person's advances any sign of being in immediate danger. A much more appropriate response in this situation would probably be, "I'm sorry but I don't see you that way."

If the guy knows me, he will most likely have or not have touched me before that very instance! If I didn't like his touch the first place, I will have pulled back and most likely told him that I am not very fond of being touched. (I won't say "by you", I will generalize it.)

It is very very unlikely that someone who has never ever touched me before will make his first attempt of touching me by all of a sudden tickling me! If he does, I have every right to get hostile about it!

If I say "I don't see you this way", I would imply that I think he is sexually interested in me, but honestly, I don't even know that! It would be way more humiliating for the guy if I tell him to not do that because I hate it! He will get the message!

Plus, uninvited touch usually is something that will trigger certain reflexes like when you're grabbed from behind! It's not like you react totally cool and calm!

 

[rhiannon]

And this is starting to sound like the protestations of a guy who's experienced the kind of reaction Rhiannon is talking about. If you're misreading some signals and you go in for physical contact when it's not invited, then you're gonna get your face slapped. That's just how it works. Maybe some women would be cool about it, whether it's tickling, or a kiss, or an ass slap or whatever, but some of them won't. That's not their problem; it yours.

Quoted for truth!

 

[solescratcher99]

If I say "I don't see you this way", I would imply that I think he is sexually interested in me, but honestly, I don't even know that! It would be way more humiliating for the guy if I tell him to not do that because I hate it! He will get the message!

Well, if he's putting the moves on you, then YES you would know that.

Plus, uninvited touch usually is something that will trigger certain reflexes like when you're grabbed from behind! It's not like you react totally cool and calm!

I agree that there would be a certain amount of shock. But, I don't remember saying anything about being grabbed from behind and a stranger simply coming out of the blue and tickling you??? Not sure, why you keep giving these extreme examples when I've already established what context I was speaking about.

 

[rhiannon]

Just because someone is tickling mean does not mean that he makes a move on me! I've been tickled by female friends who sure as hell didn't make a move on me, and I told them not to do it!

Tickling out of the blue most likely does happen like that - someone pokes you in the sides from behind!

And I guess if you mean something else than I do, then maybe you should give an example!

Still - I do not like to be touched uninvited! I have not met very many people who would just touch me without me sending them signals that I would appreciate it - like touching them first! Most guys are sensitive enough to realize when physical contact is wanted and when it isn't!

 

[Mephistopheles]

I must say Amnesiac said some pretty sharp things. And I do tend to agree.

Apart from that I believe that seeing that there's 6 billion people around on the globe, somebody is fapping to anything you can possibly think of. A person's imagination might be limited, human sexuality isn't.

And I am perfectly OK with that. As long as you don't harm others while fulfulling your sexual desires, go ahead. (so yes, that also means that I have no objections to pedophiles fapping to a children's magazine, it's when they actually start harming children in person (either in real life or on the internet) they cross the line and should be punished)

 

[solescratcher99]

I must say Amnesiac said some pretty sharp things. And I do tend to agree.

Apart from that I believe that seeing that there's 6 billion people around on the globe, somebody is fapping to anything you can possibly think of. A person's imagination might be limited, human sexuality isn't.

And I am perfectly OK with that. As long as you don't harm others while fulfulling your sexual desires, go ahead. (so yes, that also means that I have no objections to pedophiles fapping to a children's magazine, it's when they actually start harming children in person (either in real life or on the internet) they cross the line and should be punished)

Yes, I agree with the pedophile thing as well. I mean, I don't think a pedophile is someone's who psychologically healthy but I wouldn't go so far as to waste my energy getting all hyped up over someone's imagination.

You can tell from the reactions of some people that they forget sex is simply another sense pleasure. Its just as benign as watching a sunset or having a piece of cake. A lot of people try to associate sex with violence and something inherently dangerous or distasteful, so they get people all on high alert in any sexual situation or mention of sex. Some people even go so far as to flatout verbally abuse someone for being a sexual person. Usually, those people are made up of the extreme brand of feminism and neo-conservatism though.

Gary Sanders said that sexual assault, for example, was an oxymoron. "For him, any imposition or abuse was out and out violence and had nothing to do with sexuality. He often said, "sexual assault has no more to do with sex than bashing someone's head with a baseball bat has to do with baseball". (pg. x, Quickies)

 

[rhiannon]

A lot of people try to associate sex with violence and something inherently dangerous or distasteful

I don't think that's the case nowadays. I've got the feeling that for most people sex has become something totally natural and public.

 

[Ttothe11thpower]

Sex = Shit + Time + Money. You can get a great read on anybody's sexuality when you see how they handle their time, money, and/or hygiene!!

 

[Morpheus72]

To me it's the other way around....I can definitely have sex without tickling, but tickling can never be not sexual. 🙂 If someone I would not consider having sex with tickles me, I feel harrassed and get aggressive immediately.

Without reading the rest of the thread (yet), this pretty much nails it for me. Sex without tickling can (and has, for me) been VERY good, but that's because there are some other aspects of sex that I enjoy nearly as much as tickling. Tickling itself, however, is very much tied to sex for me. I don't consider playful tickles from friends to be harassment, but they do weird me out to a degree. Further, the idea of a non-sexual tickling episode does not really exist for me. If I get into any kind of prolonged tickling at all, I am going to be turned on. Playful-only tickling is something I can certainly participate in, but for me it's like going to a strip club -- I go, I get teased and turned on, and there is no resolution. I don't see the point.

 

[waitin2btkled]

I would say more of an advantage to your self in the bedroom. In a relationship, after many years, girls tend to fake it and liveliness just tends to die down in the bedroom.

Guess what, WE have such an advantage cause we can either introduce bondage, tickling ect.... to our spouses rather than other vanilla couples going to viagra, cialles...ect...


Sexual, yes it is for me hence the fetish and you have to treasure the fetish rather than see it as something negative.

To the vanilla world, most likely will never be fully accepted but ya know what, kinks in my experience is a common thing for the everyday person. They either want to try some sort of kink, are curious about it or at the very least curios about it.

Hope this helps people out who are confused about the issue...

 

[tkltkltkl]

Sex IS, in fact...

the most thrilling, the most exciting, the most intense, the most erotic, the most sensual and the most SEXUAL tickle two consenting people can ever experience...

That's right! All it is is one great BIG, ginormous, massive, wonderful and explosive TICKLE!