ADVICE:Is tickling a minor form of cheating?

[Pizunk]

Hey all,
I've been wondering what your opinions are with tickling and cheating. The reason I bring this up is because I love to tickle other girls feet, but it's completly in a non-sexual manner(meaning that I don't try to take it any further than foot tickling) and I do have a girlfriend of 3 years now but a part of me wonders if it's a minor form of cheating or not. I don't know if this makes any sense but i'm looking for people with significant others and what their take is on the whole thing. Do you try to get anyone you can or because of your spouse, now your tickling is only devoted to them. Sorry if this has been brought up before(if it has, i wasn't sure) and i will elaborate if anyone needs me to but I'm basically looking for some feedback.

Thanx
Piz

p.s. I realize that I'm in a PRO-tickling forum but any honest feedback would be appreciated.

 

[Stitch62679]

Cheating...

I'm a bit of an extremist with cheating, I always felt like being too touch-feely is not exactly the best thing to do, and tickling is like flirting to most people, so it's iffy!

 

[Ayla ny]

before I experience tickling at a gathering... I would have said that it absolutely is cheating. I didn’t see it any other way.

post-gathering... I’m not so sure. but lying is not cool. if you have to lie to tickle, then regardless of whether or not it’s cheating, you shouldn’t do it.

 

[Cyclic]

I think that it boils down to how your SO would feel about it...some can be really cool or liberal-minded, others flip out if you so much as look at the Swimsuit Issue of Sports Illustrated.

I've had girlfriends that have run the gamut from thinking it was cute that I tickled or wanted to tickle someone else, to some that would cut my balls off if they knew I wanted to do it.

All depends on the SO, and their mindset is concerned.

But I agree with Ayla...if you have to lie, are you doing something you shouldn't be doing?

 

[Knox The Hatter]

As long as it does not lead to sex, then I don't know what the problem is...

 

[BellaRisa]

Keep in mind, I don't believe humans were meant to be completely monagamous, which is why it's such a struggle for so many; so my perspective is a bit different.

'Cheating' by my definition is any activity or emotion that your partner needs from you but you're sharing with someone else, and therefore neglecting them. If your partner is getting all they need from you then you're fine, but if their losing out on your attention you need to consider them.

In my marriage of nearly 10 yrs it doesn't matter who I'm tickling/spanking/tying up because my hubby has no interest, but God help me if I see a new David Fincher movie or see someone 'good' at the comedy club with anyone before I go with him. As long as he feels number one on issues that matter to him, it's fine. It's up to you to find out what matters to your partner, and honor them.

Bella

 

[coolman]

i dont know about the subject matter but the title of this post is a bit sus...

or maybe i just look at things in the wrong light?

 

[Pizunk]

Thanx for the replies, but I think I should elaborate. It's not that i am lying to ANYONE, in fact I am quite sure she know's of my fetish(though I haven't outright told her) and i don't go out of my way or put my relationship in jeopardy just to tickle feet. I'm also not looking for an easy excuse to tickle other people as my thread title may suggest, I'm just looking for others opinions and so far the feedback has been great. Thanks all and keep them coming. Also, any questions, please post them so I can try to further explain myself cuz it may be kinda hard to see where I'm coming from.

thanx again
Piz

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Hey all,
I've been wondering what your opinions are with tickling and cheating. The reason I bring this up is because I love to tickle other girls feet, but it's completly in a non-sexual manner(meaning that I don't try to take it any further than foot tickling) and I do have a girlfriend of 3 years now but a part of me wonders if it's a minor form of cheating or not. I don't know if this makes any sense but i'm looking for people with significant others and what their take is on the whole thing. Do you try to get anyone you can or because of your spouse, now your tickling is only devoted to them. Sorry if this has been brought up before(if it has, i wasn't sure) and i will elaborate if anyone needs me to but I'm basically looking for some feedback.

Thanx
Piz

p.s. I realize that I'm in a PRO-tickling forum but any honest feedback would be appreciated.

It's all on your perspective of the word "cheating"

I personnally view "cheating" on somebody as sleeping with another, kissing another, romantic involvment with a person, while attached to another.

But my defenition may not be the same as the next person's.

I had an ex-girlfriend who was extremely jealous and even if I as much as smiled at another girl, to her, that was "cheating"

So the word "cheating" depends on one's personal definition.

 

[ticklemo]

No, I don't think it's cheating. Just as long as it doesn't get sexual.

 

[TicklingDuo]

This goes back to the "Is tickling always sexual?" question in my book. I do NOT think it's always sexual. So, there's some open area there.

However, if the person doing the tickling is involved in a LTR with someone, it's up to them to decide as a couple. I happen to be married. We both love tickling. We both share tickling with other people in a non-sexual manner with no romantic interests to complicate matters. For us, that's fine.

I have a health condition that leaves me dealing with chronic pain most of the time. There are often periods of time when I really don't feel up to playing...no matter how much I love it. If Drew were to want to play with friends during that time, I would have no problem with it. We've had people over a couple of times when I felt unable to participate. Not a problem at all. I trust him totally.

But, I've spoken with many a married guy (and a few gals as well) who has a spouse who hates tickling and wants nothing to do with it. That makes things difficult. They end up having to sneak around and lie about it...no matter how innocent the tickling encounter may be.

While it may not fit the definition of cheating, it IS dishonest. That's a serious thing in my book and needs to be considered. If you can't be honest with your spouse/SO, then something needs work.

Just my opinion.
Ann

 

[kurchatovium]

Basically if you got aroused it was cheating. If you didn't then it wasn't.

 

[Texas_Tickle]

Basically if you got aroused it was cheating. If you didn't then it wasn't.

By that definition, if you get aroused just looking at a woman, that's cheating. What about reading Playboy? Is that "cheating", as well?

I think **we** can all be found guilty of that.

 

[Nightfall]

It has nothing to do with arousal

By that definition, watching porn is cheating. As half of a married couple I can tell you that if Shem and I are at a gathering, playing with others is acceptable and agreed upon. But if either of us went to a one-on-one encounter with someone else, it would feel like a huge breach of trust. Arousal or not, you're sharing some level of intimacy with that person, connecting on a fetish, and therefore personal level, counts.

 

[kurchatovium]

Well OK I should have been more specific (sorry about that) if you are doing something with another woman (who is real and not in a magazine or a video or in your imagination) and get aroused then I would say its cheating.

 

[4Pawz]

IMO, it is on how you perceive tickling. I mean if it is something that you find sexual and erotic, then I think doing it with another man or woman could be construed as cheating. However if it is just something you enjoy or is playful, and your SO has no problem with it, then it tends not to be. I think the others are right however, that when you feel you may be doing something wrong, or you feel you have to hide it from your SO, then it probably isn't right. Just my opinion

Pawz

 

[sole seeker]

Interesting points of view. I've held most of them at one time or another in my life. Nowadays I ascribe to an opinion expressed to me by a co-worker who was getting ready to retire when I was a young man:

Why should my wife care where I work up my appetite, as long as I come home to eat!

(I feel the same way about it as applied to her appetite.)

 

[Limeoutsider]

As long as your not lying, and you and your SO agree about it, no.

 

[drew70]

Tickling a minor is not so much a form of cheating but can be construed as a form of perversion, depending on the motives or the intent of the tickler. It's a very contraversial issue that's probably best discussed elsewhere.

 

[venray]

ROFLMAO! Re-read the subject line, my friend...I almost did the same thing...

Is tickling....a minor form of cheating.....lol


Ray

 

[drew70]

Oh....er....Never mind. 🙂

 

[venray]

....Ala Emily Latella.....😉