Advice needed...

[Zebra]

My wife and I have been married for almost 6 years now. I have kept my want of tickling from her...as I feel that she would consider it strange. This past weekend, we had a chance to get away and go to a local resort Hotel.

After a dinner of many margaritas (for her), and Tanquerays w/a lemon twist for me, we went back to our room. We were both pretty drunk, and she proceeded to start to tease me...Without going into details, we began to make love.

I had her legs up in the air and I couldn't stand it anymore...I pulled her right foot to me and began to nibble and suck on her toes while I was inside her. She started giggling and moaning so hard and I asked her innocently why she was laughing...she said I was ticking her, and she tried to move her feet out of my way...which was pretty hard considering her position. I moved her foot back toward my mouth and said "I have to have them tonight" and proceeded to use my tongue to start swirling around her toes and up and down her arch. She was squirming and moaning...and seemed to be enjoying it.

Now the drunkeness has worn off. I would LOVE to be able to do that again. Is my only hope to get us both drunk (or at least her?) again?

Is there some other way to let her know without getting a "whoa, that's weird" look from her?

 

[nessonite1]

Is there some other way to let her know without getting a "whoa, that's weird" look from her?

Maybe, maybe not. Best bet is to go ahead and tell her and find out for yourself. After 6 years you should know her well enough to know how to word things best so as to minimize the shock. You could get a very favorable reaction, as most people on here seem to have.

 

[piercearrow33]

My wife and I have been married for almost 6 years now. I have kept my want of tickling from her...as I feel that she would consider it strange.

:weird: Strange? I would bet that other couples have done "stranger". As Nessie said after 6 years you know how to approach it. Give it a shot and best of luck to you both!!😀

 

[Mavsfan41]

I have been lurking on this site for several years. This was without a doubt the thread for me to make an appearnce. To make a long story short (i will share the long story in a separate thread soon), i am recently divorced after 9 years of marriage. There were many reasons for the divorce, but a part of it was the fact that i concealed my true tickling fetish from my wife for many years. My wife knew that I loved feet, and after several years, that I loved tickling. However, the problem was that she absolutely hated being tickled. As a result, I had to satisfy my tickle urges in other ways, such as this website and others. I kept this from my wife. One day she discovered my internet activities (almost 2 years ago) and the marriage never recovered.

So Zebra. . . my advice is to tell her immediately. Truth is, after 6 years of marriage, she probably has some idea of your fetish anyway. It actually was surreal reading your post, because the first, last and only tickling experience I had with my ex-wife was when we were drunk. Hopefully, your wife will be more willing to experiment sober than mine was. My ex-wife had such a hatred of being tickled that it was never going to happen. The worst thing about it was that she had absolutely perfect feet and was extremely ticklish.

I will keep you in my thoughts and hope things work out better for you than they did for me. Good to see another Texas tickler also. I'm in San Antonio. I'd be happy to discuss this more at length via email, PM, etc. Just let me know.

Take care man.

 

[-Kunoke-]

So Zebra. . . my advice is to tell her immediately.

Yes. YES, YES, YES. You have to tell her, and if not immediately, then ASAP. If she's been your wife for 6 years...she should know that kind of stuff about you. It's not safe to keep things from your spouse. I've seen it destroy relationships. Don't let that happen to you.

 

[sole seeker1]

IMO Yeah, you should tell her, but if you make this seem a big deal she might be more likely to balk at the idea. I'd start by complimenting her on her feet and work from there. Ex:

"Wow, you know I think you have the prettiest feet." (No more than a couple times a week. If you sound completely obsessed she might get a little nervous.) :weird:

From there you might graduate to, "Geeze, your feet are sexy!" Start bringing foot massage and toe sucking into your foreplay. After a suitable period, extend the foot-play into your lovemaking. (Without tickling at first.)

Next, bring foot tickling into your foreplay, and then over time extend it into your lovemaking.

You may never have to say anything about it at all. If she asks you what's up because you're paying more attention to her feet, don't lie. Just tell her that you find her feet extremely sexy. I don't think I'd admit to finding other women's feet sexy until quite a bit of time has passed and she's more comfortable with the idea.

Just my two cents.

I think most loving couples will extend themselves on behalf of their mates. But obsession is a scary thing, so I'd avoid giving her that impression right out of the blue.

 

[Mavsfan41]

Yes. YES, YES, YES. You have to tell her, and if not immediately, then ASAP. If she's been your wife for 6 years...she should know that kind of stuff about you. It's not safe to keep things from your spouse. I've seen it destroy relationships. Don't let that happen to you.

"I've seen it destroy relationships" . . . Yea, I know firsthand.

 

[FeatherFeet]

yeah man seriously, because if youve been married for 6 years....and she would find it weird after that long.....then no offense but ur not with the right woman.....(but i think shell be fine with it) after that long.....you should be able to trust her with anything.....but then what do i kno.....my gf left me recently out of the clear blue sky with no explination lol. (and i hear the slut was with another guy the day afterwards)

 

[-Kunoke-]

yeah man seriously, because if youve been married for 6 years....and she would find it weird after that long.....then no offense but ur not with the right woman.....(but i think shell be fine with it) after that long.....you should be able to trust her with anything.....but then what do i kno.....my gf left me recently out of the clear blue sky with no explination lol. (and i hear the slut was with another guy the day afterwards)

Sorry to hear that...

Anyway. Good luck man...I hope this thing with your wife turns out for the better.

 

[prcantickler]

im only 18 and nobody knows about my fettish, but when i fell in love withmy ex i told her and she understood me. sometimes when we made love i would tickle her sides(its more confortable) and she loved and hated it, but what i mean is shes your wife, they understand you and if she thinks its strange just show her all the people here like i did, everbody us strange in a way, it just so happens that we have fun at being strange!!

 

[Skipadeedoodah1]

Thinking she's going to think you're strange is a legitimate fear, and one I'm sure damn near all of us have experienced, but I agree with everyone else when I say you should tell her. If it were me, I'd start just by bringing up what happened over the weekend. Ask her if she liked it, didn't like it, whatever, and go from there. From how you describe the scenario she definitely didn't seem to hate it! 🙂 so maybe she'll be open to experimenting more 🙂 Give it a shot. It sounds like you guys really love eachother, and if you have a good, healthy marriage, she at least won't reject you based solely on this. But be honest..that's the best thing to do 🙂

Nothing but the *best* of luck!!!!