Alittle problem with this girl that i plan on meeting face to face this summer

[Butterfly wings]

I meet this girl online. And right away she thought that i was very strange and weird. That is what she said. But she gave me a chance and sent me a private message anyways. And since then me and her have hit it off really well. We are just so comfortable with each other. And to be honest i do love this girl more then friends and she knows that i do. I have told her time and time again that i do and she likes me more then a friend to. We are just so head over heels for each other. And i know that we haven't even meet face to face yet so things could change when we do and we maybe won't have the same feelings for each other. But as of right now we are both just crazy for each other.

I'm loving life and have a purpose for the first time it seems thanks to this girl. As weird as that may sound.

I treat her with the most respect more then any other guy has in her life. And i would do anything for her just to see her smile and be happy.

But here is where the problem is. We both have a Myspace account and on my profile on Myspace i'm very clear and open that i love tickling and girls feet. So i went ahead and uploaded a Tickling.ws.amanda.wmv video clip to my profile on Myspace. And for thoughs of you that have seen this video clip you know what i'm talking about. And so after she watched that video on my profile (since she wasn't able to before because her laptop computer kept messing up on her everytime she tried). But now that she was finally able to watch a tickling video last night and see what they were like for the first time. She now thinks that i want to tie her up right away when we meet this summer and tickle her while she is tied up.

So she is just not comfortable in doing that. She said that she felt scared for the girl in the video that she watched last night like she was some animal trapped inside a cage and couldn't get loose. It was not fun or a turn on for her when she watched the video. That was in her own words in the e-mail that she sent me today explaining things.

So to make along drawn out story short. Although i could go on and on with this but i won't for now. You guys can private message me if you want to learn more. She does not understand my love for tickling at all she just doesn't get it and never will she said. She still loves me deep deep down and still accepts me no matter what i would be into. But she still does not fully get it even though she still knows that i want to tickle her when i come down to see her this summer.



But my question to you guys IF you were in my situation or something similar given the fact that we ALL love tickling here on this website. Would you see this as a real problem or just a slight minor set back?


Thank you for hearing me out and letting me speak my mind.

 

[Mitchell]

Butterfly, thank you for sharing your situation. Here is how I see it.

Basically, from what you described, it really sounds like you have an awful lot with this girl. There is communciation, emotion, and feeling. These are vital things in a relationship, and when you have them, they are important to build on.
This having been said, the question you really need to ask yourself, I think, is whether or not you can somehow come to a workable compromise in regard to the tickling with this girl, how important she is to you, and what sacrifices you are both willing to make. Iam the type of person who is a great believer in compromise. If, in your situation, you love the girl, what you probably want to do is to introduce her to the tickling very slowly, say for very brief periods, to have her get comfortable with it. Maybe tickle her playfully at first just briefly without bondage, and graduate to that. This being said, if she loves you, I believe that she needs to be somewhat understanding of your needs as well, and be willing to compromise with you. If she says: "I absolutely, postively, never want you to tickle me under any circumstances at any time" , you then have a decision to make. First off, how important is the girl to you, and would you be willing to live without tickling for her totally. If the answer is yes, persue it and live happily ever after, and dont worry about the tickling. If the answer is no, then you have a decision to make about whether she is the right girl for you.
For myself, I have the dual "interest" of tickling, and female feet. This is how I view my fetish and interest. To me, the foot fetish is something I have had since my age of reason, and it is very important to me. While I would be senstive to a girl I was with who might have very ticklish feet, and not want to be tied down and tickled all the time, and would work hard to find compromise to get tickling in a little bit, while not making her feel uncomfortable. This being said, if I met someone who was extremely obstinate, and said:" You can never ever kiss or even touch my feet even when we are making love, you are having intercourse with me, and touching other intimate parts of my body" That person I could never be happy with long term. In my view, if I compromised, and worked hard to please her by not tickling her often if she wasnt into it, I would feel like she didnt care about me or my needs if she postively refused to ever let me touch her feet during sex. Again, resolution, compromise, understanding. This to me is the basis for relationships, and what I think you need to try and find with your girl. I wish you luck, and hope you are both very happy. I hope my advice was helpful. Take care, and Good Luck.

Mitch

 

[Butterfly wings]

Butterfly, thank you for sharing your situation. Here is how I see it.

Basically, from what you described, it really sounds like you have an awful lot with this girl. There is communciation, emotion, and feeling. These are vital things in a relationship, and when you have them, they are important to build on.
This having been said, the question you really need to ask yourself, I think, is whether or not you can somehow come to a workable compromise in regard to the tickling with this girl, how important she is to you, and what sacrifices you are both willing to make. Iam the type of person who is a great believer in compromise. If, in your situation, you love the girl, what you probably want to do is to introduce her to the tickling very slowly, say for very brief periods, to have her get comfortable with it. Maybe tickle her playfully at first just briefly without bondage, and graduate to that. This being said, if she loves you, I believe that she needs to be somewhat understanding of your needs as well, and be willing to compromise with you. If she says: "I absolutely, postively, never want you to tickle me under any circumstances at any time" , you then have a decision to make. First off, how important is the girl to you, and would you be willing to live without tickling for her totally. If the answer is yes, persue it and live happily ever after, and dont worry about the tickling. If the answer is no, then you have a decision to make about whether she is the right girl for you.
For myself, I have the dual "interest" of tickling, and female feet. This is how I view my fetish and interest. To me, the foot fetish is something I have had since my age of reason, and it is very important to me. While I would be senstive to a girl I was with who might have very ticklish feet, and not want to be tied down and tickled all the time, and would work hard to find compromise to get tickling in a little bit, while not making her feel uncomfortable. This being said, if I met someone who was extremely obstinate, and said:" You can never ever kiss or even touch my feet even when we are making love, you are having intercourse with me, and touching other intimate parts of my body" That person I could never be happy with long term. In my view, if I compromised, and worked hard to please her by not tickling her often if she wasnt into it, I would feel like she didnt care about me or my needs if she postively refused to ever let me touch her feet during sex. Again, resolution, compromise, understanding. This to me is the basis for relationships, and what I think you need to try and find with your girl. I wish you luck, and hope you are both very happy. I hope my advice was helpful. Take care, and Good Luck.

Mitch

Thank you for all your very strong advice and words Mitch. You sure do know how to help people out it looks like.

She does mean very very much to me and i care for her alot. We are both from different states but that does not matter to us we still want to go see each other this summer. And to see where this relationship takes us and weather or not God has a plan for us.

And yes she is willing and allowing me to tickle her and touch and massage her bare feet all that i want to she said. But she wants me to start out very slow and reel her into it. Which is understandable.

I have alot of shots of her bare feet that she has taken for me with her digital camera if you would like to see them.


But again thank you Mitch.

 

[Mitchell]

Butterfly, Iam very glad my advice helped you. Please check your private messages when you get the chance. We can discuss this further in pm if you like. Also, I left you other information that may be helpful. Take care, and I hope to hear from you soon.

All the best,
Mitch

 

[switchtickler]

Videos

Butterfly, tickling videos can be scary for people new to this. I think that they are a particularly poor way to introduce nontickle folk to tickling. It's very hard to tell if the person being tickled in the video- who is often restrained - is enjoying her/himself or is just shrieking in fear and misery. There's not enough context - we don't know the actors personally s o we can't read their faces well, we didn't see the conversation they had off camera about her/his limits and what they like.

Try slowly and patiently introducing this girl to tickling in person, and don't tickle at all the first time you two get physical. This gives her the space to make up her mind based on her own reaction to it. I'm not suprised that she doesn't 'get it' about tickling when all she has to go on is a video. In person can be quite different.
Good Luck!

 

[steph]

Then respect her wishes hon~what's the problem? 😕 Sounds like she's open to at least try, in the end you'll both hopefully have fun...
XOXO

And yes she is willing and allowing me to tickle her and touch and massage her bare feet all that i want to she said. But she wants me to start out very slow and reel her into it. Which is understandable.

 

[Drago69]

Then respect her wishes hon~what's the problem? 😕 Sounds like she's open to at least try, in the end you'll both hopefully have fun...
XOXO

Yeah, I don't see the problem, either. She cares about you and is willing to let you tickle her and stuff, as long as you start slowly. Are you trying to say that you really do want to tie her up to do it, but you don't want her to think you'll go nuts on her like on tickling videos?

 

[sole seeker]

Then respect her wishes hon~what's the problem? Sounds like she's open to at least try, in the end you'll both hopefully have fun...

Ditto. IMHO not too many married couples share the exact same sexual fantasies.

Respect each other.

Trust is never a gift - it's always earned. Time together will take care of that. 🙂

 

[Butterfly wings]

Then respect her wishes hon~what's the problem? 😕 Sounds like she's open to at least try, in the end you'll both hopefully have fun...
XOXO

Yeah i think you are right. Maybe thier really is no problem here at all now that i think about it. I think i just needed to vent and get this off my chest and to see what others had to say about it.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Yeah, I don't see the problem, either. She cares about you and is willing to let you tickle her and stuff, as long as you start slowly. Are you trying to say that you really do want to tie her up to do it, but you don't want her to think you'll go nuts on her like on tickling videos?

No that is not what i'm saying at all. I respect her body and i respect her so much more then any other guy has with her in the past she has said. I'm just kind of venting here and just trying to get this whole story off my chest and to also see what others had to say about it and what thier thoughts towards it were. That's all.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Ditto. IMHO not too many married couples share the exact same sexual fantasies.

Respect each other.

Trust is never a gift - it's always earned. Time together will take care of that. 🙂

Thank you. We definitely do respect each other. And we are both very open and honest with each other. We can be open and share and talk about anything.

 

[Wesker28]

I wouldn't have sent her the vid or told her in the first place but thats just me. Best of luck with her anyway.

 

[Drago69]

I wouldn't have sent her the vid or told her in the first place but thats just me. Best of luck with her anyway.

Some girls just don't mind. One girl way back in the day, not into tickling, I told about it me liking feet and tickling. For some reason, she really liked that I was into feet. She was somewhat happy that I wasn't into her breasts or butt like everyone else seemed to be. So we got on webcam now and then, and each time she would take off her socks for me and show me her feet and tickle them with her fingers and othert things for me. She liked to tease me and stuff for some reason. =p

I know a girl online in a somewhat similar position as Butterfly. We talk about this stuff, and play around on the messenger for fun.

I told her all about liking tickling, and to some degree, feet, and she was completely fine with it. And she told me how she found the thought of being tied up a turn on, and the thought of being tickled while tied up, lightly for the most part, I think, to be a major turn on. So if I manage to visit her sometime, it should be fun. =D She also said she's often fantasized of tying someone up and tormenting them in some way, so she'd like to do the same to me.

So now I must save up me money and take a trip!

I sent her a clip, myself. It was a non-nude, less extreme tickling clip, but she thought it was cool.

 

[mabus]

Butterfly wings, what was in that clip you sent, I'm not familiar with it. Was it intsense, was there nudity, etc.? It seems that you and her worked it out, and I agree with everything Mitchell said, so I won't rehash it all. You're lucky you found someone who was okay with your fetish, AND would let you tickle her. I don't know if there's ever been a thread about people who's friends, or significant others DIDN'T accept their fetish, but I know some of these relationships ended in divorce or loss of friendships. So, count your blessings. I, sadly, am in south Louisiana where many people are bigoted and conservative and judgemental. I don't tell ANYONE about any fetish I have, because it's simply not safe. Hell, they believe the Catholic Church sex scandal was just the tool of the liberal media, and evil gays who infiltrated the church to destroy it.

We all have to realize that in this place, we can talk about tickling and pantyhose and barefeet and it's all fine. But sadly, there are close minded folks out in the real world who won't tolerate any of this. Others react to them by being cautious. They may be a little freaked out, but there's also the fear of what the close minded people will to to them if they accept others with a fetish. So, it's complicated out there.

There's also the fact that, hell, some people here, including me, don't like the more hard core tickling material. Some people want the models to look like they are in real agony, being attacked with a vibrator while screaming and begging, and some of us don't like that. I prefer the fully clothed, or partially clothed tickling where the girl looks like she enjoys it. So, there's that aspect, also. If someone new comes here, we need to warn them that some people like it rough, and others don't.

Bondage is also tricky, especially with strangers. If someone wants to tie you up, and you don't know them that well, will they just tickle you, will they do something worse, or rob you even? Obviously, you wouldn't, but in these days of internet crimes, you can't be completely niave. Once you've met someone over a long period of time, things change, and people relax. If you and her really work it out and get married, she will probably look at being tied up less warily than right now.

Good luck, go slow, have fun, and maybe she could become Mrs. Butterfly wings!

 

[Butterfly wings]

Some girls just don't mind. One girl way back in the day, not into tickling, I told about it me liking feet and tickling. For some reason, she really liked that I was into feet. She was somewhat happy that I wasn't into her breasts or butt like everyone else seemed to be. So we got on webcam now and then, and each time she would take off her socks for me and show me her feet and tickle them with her fingers and othert things for me. She liked to tease me and stuff for some reason. =p

I know a girl online in a somewhat similar position as Butterfly. We talk about this stuff, and play around on the messenger for fun.

I told her all about liking tickling, and to some degree, feet, and she was completely fine with it. And she told me how she found the thought of being tied up a turn on, and the thought of being tickled while tied up, lightly for the most part, I think, to be a major turn on. So if I manage to visit her sometime, it should be fun. =D She also said she's often fantasized of tying someone up and tormenting them in some way, so she'd like to do the same to me.

So now I must save up me money and take a trip!

I sent her a clip, myself. It was a non-nude, less extreme tickling clip, but she thought it was cool.

Yeah exactly what Drago said. Some girls don't mind at all. I have talked to and still talk to do a few girls online who i have known and have been talking to online for along time. All we talk about with each other is tickling pretty much. I will send them tickling video clips through messenger and we'll discuss them after they watch them back and forth. So they seem to love it. Not all girls are close minded to the tickling world. Some like it right away and some girls it takes them alittle bit more time to come around to it.

I have a girl on yahoo messenger that shows me her feet via a webcam everynow and then for me when i want her to. But i haven't talked to her for awhile. We don't talk as much.

 

[Butterfly wings]

Butterfly wings, what was in that clip you sent, I'm not familiar with it. Was it intsense, was there nudity, etc.? It seems that you and her worked it out, and I agree with everything Mitchell said, so I won't rehash it all. You're lucky you found someone who was okay with your fetish, AND would let you tickle her. I don't know if there's ever been a thread about people who's friends, or significant others DIDN'T accept their fetish, but I know some of these relationships ended in divorce or loss of friendships. So, count your blessings. I, sadly, am in south Louisiana where many people are bigoted and conservative and judgemental. I don't tell ANYONE about any fetish I have, because it's simply not safe. Hell, they believe the Catholic Church sex scandal was just the tool of the liberal media, and evil gays who infiltrated the church to destroy it.

We all have to realize that in this place, we can talk about tickling and pantyhose and barefeet and it's all fine. But sadly, there are close minded folks out in the real world who won't tolerate any of this. Others react to them by being cautious. They may be a little freaked out, but there's also the fear of what the close minded people will to to them if they accept others with a fetish. So, it's complicated out there.

There's also the fact that, hell, some people here, including me, don't like the more hard core tickling material. Some people want the models to look like they are in real agony, being attacked with a vibrator while screaming and begging, and some of us don't like that. I prefer the fully clothed, or partially clothed tickling where the girl looks like she enjoys it. So, there's that aspect, also. If someone new comes here, we need to warn them that some people like it rough, and others don't.

Bondage is also tricky, especially with strangers. If someone wants to tie you up, and you don't know them that well, will they just tickle you, will they do something worse, or rob you even? Obviously, you wouldn't, but in these days of internet crimes, you can't be completely niave. Once you've met someone over a long period of time, things change, and people relax. If you and her really work it out and get married, she will probably look at being tied up less warily than right now.

Good luck, go slow, have fun, and maybe she could become Mrs. Butterfly wings!

It was a Non-Nude tickling video. That is all i own on my computer our Non-Nude or Fully Clothed tickling videos. And she was wearing in the clip like a low v cut light blue belly shirt and some blue bikini bottoms on down below.

Here is the video clip if anybody wants to check out what i'm talking about. This is the video clip that she saw on my profile on Mspace and watched.

For Mitch or Drago or mabus or just anybody else that wants to take a look at it. I had part 2 of this video but i think i deleted it.

<a href="http://www.zippyvideos.com/9354928081423316/tickling.ws.amanda/"><img src="http://i1.zvhost.com/1/g/gi5b76xl.jpg" border="0" /></a>

Just click on the link and it will start playing right away.

 

[Drago69]

It was a Non-Nude tickling video. That is all i own on my computer our Non-Nude or Fully Clothed tickling videos. And she was wearing in the clip like a low v cut light blue belly shirt and some blue bikini bottoms on down below.

Here is the video clip if anybody wants to check out what i'm talking about. This is the video clip that she saw on my profile on Mspace and watched.

For Mitch or Drago or mabus or just anybody else that wants to take a look at it. I had part 2 of this video but i think i deleted it.

<a href="http://www.zippyvideos.com/9354928081423316/tickling.ws.amanda/"><img src="http://i1.zvhost.com/1/g/gi5b76xl.jpg" border="0" /></a>

Just click on the link and it will start playing right away.

What is this zippy place? It has a bunch of girls' pictures and underneath it has their locations all around me. I live in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada - so that kinda caught my eye. =p

So you sent her that vid, huh? I don't think sending this video would really freak her out, but that's just me. I suppose you explained your intentions to her, so there really isn't a big problem, right? I mean, you were just sending the clip as a sample, just to show her something, right?

So I'm sure it'll all be fine.

 

[Butterfly wings]

What is this zippy place? It has a bunch of girls' pictures and underneath it has their locations all around me. I live in Halifax, Nova Scotia, Canada - so that kinda caught my eye. =p

So you sent her that vid, huh? I don't think sending this video would really freak her out, but that's just me. I suppose you explained your intentions to her, so there really isn't a big problem, right? I mean, you were just sending the clip as a sample, just to show her something, right?

So I'm sure it'll all be fine.

Zippy videos is a FREE online place for anybody to upload video clip files.

http://www.zippyvideos.com/

Yeah that is the video that she watched. And i didn't sent it to her she saw the link i had to it on my profile on Myspace for other people that happend to visit my profile could watch it and comment on it if they wanted to. So that is how she got ahold of it and watched it. Which was somewhat shocking to me that she given went ahead with it and watched it to begin with.

But she STILL did not like it. She said that she felt sorry for the girl in the video and she also said that she felt like the girl in the video that was being tickled was like some poor helpless animal locked up inside of a cage and not able to get out. So let's just say that she didn't really enjoy the clip and was also not turned on by it.

 

[Drago69]

Zippy videos is a FREE online place for anybody to upload video clip files.

http://www.zippyvideos.com/

Yeah that is the video that she watched. And i didn't sent it to her she saw the link i had to it on my profile on Myspace for other people that happend to visit my profile could watch it and comment on it if they wanted to. So that is how she got ahold of it and watched it. Which was somewhat shocking to me that she given went ahead with it and watched it to begin with.

But she STILL did not like it. She said that she felt sorry for the girl in the video and she also said that she felt like the girl in the video that was being tickled was like some poor helpless animal locked up inside of a cage and not able to get out. So let's just say that she didn't really enjoy the clip and was also not turned on by it.

I would think that people not into tickling or being tied up may have to eventually give it a try for themselves in order to be turned on by it, if it does happen. Might not get turned on by vids alone, though.

Still, you should tell her that model was paid and she agreed to it, so it was fine. =p

The girls seemed like she was somewhat having fun for the little bit of it I watched. It was a pretty boring clip...

 

[Butterfly wings]

I would think that people not into tickling or being tied up may have to eventually give it a try for themselves in order to be turned on by it, if it does happen. Might not get turned on by vids alone, though.

Still, you should tell her that model was paid and she agreed to it, so it was fine. =p

The girls seemed like she was somewhat having fun for the little bit of it I watched. It was a pretty boring clip...

Yeah thats true Drago. My motto is you won't know that you won't like it until you try it.

I basically put that video clip up on my profile on Myspace with her in mind to begin with. Hoping that she would watch it. And she did. So i wasn't about to put a totally naked video on there. But even though now i know that she was not into the video clip.

At least she willing to let me tickle her still (without being tied up) and also allowing me to touch and massage her feet all that i want to. I'm just really hoping that me and her hit it off and can have a really great relationship with each other. Since that is what we both want so bad.

I just really love her.

 

[Drago69]

Yeah thats true Drago. My motto is you won't know that you won't like it until you try it.

I basically put that video clip up on my profile on Myspace with her in mind to begin with. Hoping that she would watch it. And she did. So i wasn't about to put a totally naked video on there. But even though now i know that she was not into the video clip.

At least she willing to let me tickle her still (without being tied up) and also allowing me to touch and massage her feet all that i want to. I'm just really hoping that me and her hit it off and can have a really great relationship with each other. Since that is what we both want so bad.

I just really love her.

If you both feel the same, then I am sure things will work out fine in the end. =)

 

[Butterfly wings]

If you both feel the same, then I am sure things will work out fine in the end. =)

Thank you Drago. We do feel the same. So i'm just hoping that things will work out.


By the way. Here are a few pictures of what she looks like.

Enjoy.

 

[Drago69]

She's cute. Lucky you. =)

 

[Butterfly wings]

She's cute. Lucky you. =)

Thank you. =)

And come to think. She even told me a few nights ago that she has never ever had a foot massage before in her whole life. Now i find that one hard to believe. But i will it with a grain of salt and just say then that she hasn't. I just hope that i don't mess up on massaging her feet. Since i'm not what you would consider a pro at foot massaging.


Here is also a few pictures of her feet.

 

[Drago69]

Hehe. With girls that aren't into tickling and stuff, I always work them into somewhat liking my foot fetish at least, by telling them I'd give them foot massages all the time. They always like that idea. But, yeah, I haven't even touched someone's feet since I was like 6 or so, so I wouldn't have a damn clue what I am doing. But I figure you can't really screw up on something like that. =)

So I wouldn't worry too much about it. I'm sure any rubbing will work. And she may not have had a foot massage, lots of people don't. Though I would think it might be more likely that she just forgot. Ya never know, though.

Love that scrunched up foot pic - that's the way I likes 'em. =D