Always wanting what you can't have.

[Riven]

Why are many of us like this? This pretty much sums up my life.


1. I am in love with my best friends sister. Something like this is DESTINED to be a complete disaster.

2. My passion in life is solving mysteries. Thus, I have always wanted to become a detective. Problem is, to become a detective, you must first be a Police Officer for quite some time. To become a Police Officer, you must have a perfect record. I have a misdemeanor on my record, from a long time ago, thus, I could never become a cop. I'm not proud of it, and I'd give anything to turn back time.


I hate the fact that I'm like this, as it's always driving me crazy. Anyone else have the same problem?

 

[Doubledutch]

Be careful of what you ask for, you might get it. I had a big, big crush on my best friend's brother. We dated. It turned out very badly.

He's out on the west coast now, which is a very good thing.

I hope the door to your being a police officer wasnt shut by you, thinking that you had no chance because of your assumptions. It's all how you play the game.

 

[911]

People often wish and pray for things they think they want and when they get it they usually realize it's not really what they wanted. Sometimes we think that things will make them happy when all we need is peace of mind. I think all of us at one time or another want what we can't have it's just part of being human.

 

[Riven]

I think there's a man rule somewhere about dating your friend's sisters. Are you actually dating her or is this more of a crush? If you're not dating her yet, I recommend talking to your friend about it first... You never know... They may give their blessing. Or they may secretly let you know that she thinks your a dumb-ass and save you a lot of trouble. 🙂

As for being a cop, I'm pretty sure you don't have to have a perfectly clean record. A misdemeanor shouldn't keep you from doing anything. Considering that you were born in 1985 and you say it happened a long time ago, that should be on your juvenile record and I doubt they even care about that. You really should heed DD's advice and make sure you're not closing the door on an opportunity by making a bad assumption.

I am not dating her, but I have told my friend. He *said* he didn't care, but I get the feeling that he does. I just don't have the guts to tell her.



My misdemeanor was committed when I was 19, which probably doesn't define "a long time ago" for most, but to me, a year seems like a long time, haha.


I suppose time will tell.

 

[Saeria]

I think a majority of wanting what you can't have is enjoying the serendipity of it happening even through impossible circumstances. That and the thrill of the chase too. I'm pretty bad about that sometimes myself. I always wanted to be a freelance artist, haha kinda too late for that now but i still sometimes wish for it anyway. And don't even get me started on falling in love with someone i can't have, been there and it still broke my heart. In that sense i didn't feel as if i lost though, but rather gained the knowledge that i too have my limitations.

 

[maniactickler]

I hear you. i want numerous hot women who are horribly ticklish. not gonna happen though dammit!

 

[Timewarp]

If friendship counts...yeah...never had it.

 

[Headsnap]

There's wanting what you can't have, and there's wanting stuff and not bothering to go about getting it. If you actually are "in love" with your friend's sister then telling her and seeing where it leads is surely better than sitting on it and letting it fester. Do that and you'll end up resenting yourself for not going for it, you'll resent her for not making the first move and you'll resent your friend for being the obstacle to your telling her how you feel. Not rational I know, but stuff like that is rarely rational. You'll do yourself more harm in the long-run by keeping it bottled up. If it's NOT love and is just an infatuation, and you think you're going to end up losing a friend by going for it with his sister (wether because of his feelings or her rejecting you and making your friendship with her brother awkward) then make a conscious decision to get over it.

As far as having a misdemeanour goes, I'm in a similar situation with the Marines. All the information I ever got was that to join the military required 2 things: 1) a lack of a criminal record and 2) a clean credit rating. My credit rating is fucked, and I mean "up the arse with a spindle" fucked, plus I have a criminal record which contains a rather unimpressive police caution for assault and affray when I was 15. I always thought those two things would bar me from joining but lo and behold I went and spoke to the recruiting office who told me that a) the police caution has been erased from my record as it was more than 5 years ago, and the debt problem isn't as much of a problem as people sometimes make it out to be, as long as I have it under control and keep it under control I should be okay. Hence me now training like a bitch to get fit and lean enough to make a second attempt at getting into the RMC ^_^