Am i loser for Not Getting Tickled much at all anymore or Not tickling people in RL

[tummynavelboy]

Because it is not like i wanna be this way. I wanna explore tickling more then i do onw by Being tickled once and awhile and as well as Tickling others in Real life. But the fact being im not the biggest talker in the World (online I AM) but in real life im not. I just mainly stick to myself and stay in my room alot. Yeah i do get out and hang out with friends and with my family alot also. But with Girls its hard to me to apporch them and to even began to talk with them i cant seem to get up enough nerve to go do it. I have had one Girl friend in Real life but pssth that only lasted about 2 weeks at the least. But i find myself to be a pretty Good looking Guy. and Yeah this may be weird a 19 year old soon to be 20 talking about his shy-ness and non talktiveness on a Tickling discussion board. But this partally is i feel also why i Haven't really explored tickling more because of my shyness and that fact that i dont talk to many People (My Guy friends i do though) sorry for rambling on about theses stupid problems of mine. Just felt like getting this off my chest so to speak maybe people are going through the same Problems as me i dont know. I dont mean to turn this part of the forum into a Help Center hehe😛. Just saying what i have to have so i can talk to people on here thats all and make friends.

Thanks for listening to all my ramblings

 

[THEO]

It's always good to get things out and into the open. You're not alone in your frustrations, and as Ive posted in other threads, tickling is a very misunderstood subject, and extremely difficult to fulfill in fantasy versus reality.

As for your "shyness", it may seem like a barrier for you, but it's not. It's a good quality to serve you if you ever do get an opportunity. Good because it can make the difference between you going all out and not realizing common sense or risk, andnot!

 

[frye45]

I know it's frustrating right now, and you probably don't want to hear the words "Be patient", but it may be the best advice. I have always been shy and not a great conversationalist in general, much less about tickling, but for me at least, age has lessened it somewhat. When you get older, you realize that whatever fear you may have about talking to women is just that--a fear, and can be overcome when you realize that, with most fears, the anticipation is worse than the fear itself. I'm not saying you should approach a woman and say "I'd like to tickle you" right off the bat. That would scare them away, but don't be afraid to start a conversation with something simple and honest. And I've found the best way to keep a conversation going is just to listen really well. They're bound to say something that will open up more avenues. Good luck. You're not alone out there. We'd all like more tickling than we're getting.

 

[nessonite1]

I agree with the thing about it being easier as you get older. I am 23 and it is definately easier for me. Now, I am still 100% freaked about it in public. But I won't run and hide which in retrospect would probably make me look all the stranger.
But at least now I can talk online in these forums which before I could not do. And most of the people older than me are far more comfortable than I am. So that's my theory anyway.

 

[Goosebumps]

I totally understand where you are all coming from. Believe it or not, what made the topic of tickling come out in the open for me was having children around. I'm sure everyone would agree that playfully tickling of children is acceptable as long as it isn't taken to extremes. The time that my boyfriend found out that I had issues around tickling came when we were at his house for Thanksgiving. After dinner, my b/f and his brothers and father were in the family room with the kids when a wrestling match started to unfold. When have you ever witnessed a wrestling match with children ending before they are tortured by tickling resulting in the adult claiming victory? Being the youngest and only girl in my family, I was subjected to numerous tickle fights growing up, which is why I was sitting in the corner of the couch in a tight ball watching the fun. (which the kids loved because they kept going back for more) Anyway, when it was all over, my b/f came over to me and asked me what was wrong. I told him that watching him with the kids brought back memories of me being tickled by my brothers. His dad then asked me to share some of the memories (which I did) and they reminisced as well. At that point, I felt much more relaxed because tickling really happens in every household and there is nothing weird about it.
If however, a discussion doesn't unfold, you could say something along the lines of "wow, Johnny, that was quite the tickling you had; It reminds me of the times when my uncles would tickle me")...etc, etc

So, having said that.....I believe that if tickling becomes an obsession, then you may want to keep it private so others don't judge you; But if you want to open the discussion of tickling in general, then I suggest you initiate a tickle fight with the kids.......Has worked everytime since the above happened many years ago.