An Unfortunate Encounter

[AcornaMordor]

Tonight I came out of the closet...... well actually it was more like I was grabbed by the hair and hauled out.

My Mother... asked me if I was having cyber sex. I said No, because I'm not. She brought up a log from an IM about a year ago and yes it was a little explicit but it never actually evolved to sex... she asked me what else I was hiding on my laptop. I said nothing. So she said "Then you won't mind letting me search it."

And I panicked. Of course I would have a problem letting her search it. So after a roundabout way of trying to explain it I shot back at her "What about your BDSM?!" And she accepted that and went into too damned much detail about it, for my tastes... and then it came down to that inevitable question you've probably been waiting for... she asked me what MY fetish was that I was hiding.

Of course, I balked. I looked at anything but her.. I believe I debated for about 15 minutes whether the shiney thing under her dresser was a large earring or a quarter.

I sighed, quite loudly, and mustered some courage.. then a little more... and a little more.... and a Liiiittle more...

"It's a tickle fetish!"

And she sat there... and looked at me a minute... and said "Are you making this up?"

Yeah THAT made me feel relieved..


In summary, cause it's midnight and I'm not thinking straight anyway, y'know... there's just SOME thing you should NEVER talk to your mother about... fetishes being one of them.. I'm very very creeped out by this.. NESSY I NEED TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT SOMETHING, OKAY?

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Keep Your Chin Up And Your Shoes Off

Sorry About The Scene Between You And Your Mom, 'bama Babe. You Know You'll Always Have Most Favored Tickle Vixen Status With All Of Us Here At Tt.

 

[MistressValerie1]

Sorry to hear of this difficulty, Acorna 🙁 If you want to talk to me about anything, please send me a PM.

All the best,

 

[TickleMantis]

How did your mum get an extract of an IM you had?

 

[mabus1]

Wait, wait...your mom's into BDSM, but your not allowed to have a tickle fetish? Do the words "jawdropping hypocrisy" apply here, or am I mistaken?

 

[sole seeker1]

Almost everyone has something out of the mainsteam that turns them on. If not, if they truely only like sex in missionary position with the lights off... then they're truely kinky! IMO it does sound like your mom is being a touch hypocritical.

Personally, I wouldn't be comfortable discussing my sexual likes/dislikes with family - except perhaps in the most general terms.

 

[MayDay1]

"I learned it by watching you!"

Seriously though, this does reek of hypocrisy. Does she thing she's the only one allowed to be kinky without being veiwed as a pervert? That's a move straight from the Republicans.

 

[masterandticklee]

Sorry girl,
I had a similar experience 3 years back. After returning from school for the summer my mother decided to arrange my things. While doing this she found my pair of furry cuffs :amazed: .And she actually had the audacity to confront me about it!(19 going on 20 at the time). She automatically assumed that it was a sex tool..which it was, and tried to debate with me about how the girls I meet are currupting me LOL(honestly who was currupting who? 😀 ) It was pretty embarrasing...but now just a funny story to be told. You're a young woman now...don't stress it too much.
G Quizzle

 

[Midnight Circus]

*shrugs* It happens. You'll lie through it. Some of us are just luckier than others, I guess; my parents have no clue what my particular fetish is, as we operate on a "don't ask, don't tell" basis.

If all else fails, there's always matricide.

 

[AcornaMordor]

Well see that's where it gets kind of creepy on my side. It's not that she says it's a bad thing, it's just that she doesn't get it. And I'm too damned MORTIFIED to explain it to her. I said the word "tickle" just that one time and REFUSED to mention it any more. And you know, there's none of my friends IRL I can discuss it with because - well, let's face it, that's just not something you want other people to know.

I realize now, after much sleep and beating my head on my desk, that I skipped over a few key elements of dialog in our conversation... she has no problem with my fetish... in fact, strangely enough, she's delighted we have something in common..........

... Ew...

*snuggles Missy Val* Thanks for the support all of ya.. She claims she wasn't pillaging through my computer, but how she even found it afterwards is suspicious to me.. she went "C drive" "My Documents" "Logging" and it was the only file in there.... where she got it from or why it was there is beyond me...

She still wants to Talk about it... I'm using her Master (her b/f and hopefully soon my new dad >.> He's a great guy ^.^;; all icky things considered.. ) as a shield, as usual, to keep her off me about it because she will bug and bug and bug and bug until she knows what the Hell I'm doing... I'm 19, for God's sake... and at Least she didn't ask me to let her read any of my fetish stories on my laptop o.o That would have just done me in right there -.-;;

 

[Kalamos]

What about a password and a linux multiuser os?

 

[AcornaMordor]

already done - the only reason she found it or was even in my computer was because our power was out for 6 days and I let her log in to talk to her b/f..

 

[steph]

Holy crap! Talk about awkward situations (shudders) But you're a grown up now. it's nobody's business, IMHO. Hang in there! Maybe if you take a "so what" attitude, she won't think it's a big deal either? (My guess is your obvious discomfort at the initial start is what set her into "attack" mode...) Good luck.
XOXO

 

[Kougaiji-sama]

that must royally suck. i love at home cause i still go to high school. i dont post anything cause i want no record. its sad but i use the comp in my kitchen when noone is here. i have no choice. when i started comin on here my comp was well away from everything in the basement office. oh well. good luck. i know i would be a little more than angry. c ya around
Ko

 

[Ticklekiller1]

WOE! That really sucks BIG time! You need to tell your mom straight up that it's none of her business and that if she keeps badgering you about it, you'll tell everyone about her bdsm.

 

[Kalamos]

WOE! That really sucks BIG time! You need to tell your mom straight up that it's none of her business and that if she keeps badgering you about it, you'll tell everyone about her bdsm.

Technically speaking, she has already - here. 😉

 

[AcornaMordor]

mrrr... problem with that is.. majority of the people I know are people she knows that they are in her bdsm group.....

 

[drew70]

I'm betting that Mom will ask her BDSM friends if they've ever heard of a tickling fetish. I have to believe she'll get at least a few answers like, "Tickling fetish? Course I've heard of it! Who hasn't??" and "It's the fastest growing fetish out there! What planet have YOU been living on??"
😀

 

[AcornaMordor]

PFT. Yeah right. Trampling is known among them, s/m both orthodox modern and Gorean.. foot, shoe, etc.,.. and she asks me "Now is this something you're making up..?"

 

[BigNorm]

i had the EXACT same thing happen to me. luckily my mom doesn't know anything about computers except to type. but she found my stash of renfaire pics in a random search for drugs that she heard in a commercial for talking to your kids about drugs. it was so incredibly embarrassing, luckily she didn't wanna talk about it. except 6 months after that in a family reunion of 20 or maore family members she mentioned it jokingly in a conversation, which put everyone in a hush (musta been red as a beet as i froze with embarassment like a deer caught in headlights.)

but luckily i'm much more computer saavy, even though i live somewhat alone now, i still keep my tickling media very secure.

acorna: is your mother computer saavy? i know how to 100% protect anything tickling media, chat logs, whatever so this never happens to ya or anyone again.
just tell me if you want some security tips.

 

[nessonite1]

Ohhhhh Acorna sweetiheart!! Im so sorry I didnt see this thread earlier. 🙁 🙁
If you need to speak with me Im afraid it'll be through PMs as Yahoo just REFUSES to cooperate with my computer for more than 30 seconds.
I can't begin to imagine what an awkward situation you found yourself in. Your mother's audacity to go through your personal files and then to confront you about it is amazing, not to mention her flippant attitude at what must have quite obviously been an uncomfortable thing to discuss.

Oddly enough your mother doesn't seem all that different from the way mine was. I saw 'was' not because my mother is gone but because her life has done about a 180 and she's much more reserved now. I clearly remember seeing all manner of "toys" and interesting...um...people when I was a tot not to mention the things I have overheard. Not that it's a bad thing and I never minded my mother's lifestyle(s) but I am not nearly so open and would NEVER discuss my own "private" life with her.
I don't know if my mother "knows" or not. She's certainly never hinted that she does and if she did know I'd just rather live blissfully ignorant of it.
It really doesn't seem like your mom understands that you are uncomfortable sharing with her. A simple "I'd rather it not be brought up again" should suffice. I say SHOULD. Maybe just asserting your desire for a bit of privacy would be enough.
I really dont know what to say...
I mean...I can't tell you what I would have done in the same situation cause you are radically different from me when I was your age and your mother's, I dont want to say 'control' but I cant think of a better word, control of you is much stronger than my mother's was. She never would have thought to ask much l;ess demand a look at my PC and even if she did I would NEVER allow it. We've never had much of a parent/child relationship so I'm always a bit surprised to actually see it in action.
*sigh*
Sorry, Im rambling. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you. I mean that.