Any of you women actually read the tickling personals?

[chode]

Just curious, I shit load of guys post in the personals, but i havent read one reply froma woman that was interested. Is there a point to posting a personal?

 

[chode]

Someone better reply to this, i will keep doing it myself to keep it on top of the forum.

 

[MrHighArches]

no

 

[Grad]

I'd say that's pretty accurate.


NOPE!

 

[heronflight01]

replies

perhaps we ought to consider why? tickling is a form of power-exchange, although a tickler who doesn`t switch ever is not exchanging power...he's merely exerting control. the person who submits to this must have some fairly specific reasons for doing so. that leads to a very rare condition to be met. the chances of getting any kind of a reply is slim to none. the other (and i think more important) reason is that there is a lot of trust involved in what a "tickler looking for cute female ticklees" ad is suggesting. heck, theres a tremendous amount of trust involved in our community as a whole. go ahead and post on the personals page, but never expect a reply. or even anticipate the outside chance of one. women are in the extreme minority on a forum like this (geared towards heterosexual tickling) and those that are willing to entertain the possibility of replying to an ad thats worded exclusively are nearly non-existent. were there a more positive way to accomplish the meeting of the opposite sex, then it should be implemented. lets discuss, yes?

 

[Raya]

I, luckily, am married to my favorite tickling partner, so I would not go to the personals looking. For those that are still searching, I would expect that you would be luckier by showing a bit of yourself through posting in the discussion forums, or in the chat room. (amazing how much of a feel for a person's ideas and values based on the things you see posted in various discussions)

I also know that quite a few of the women I have gotten to know since we became involved in the TMF have had bad (in some cases horrifying) experiences with people taking advantage of them in a very vulnerable state. These women are not likely to take a second chance.. maybe even attending gatherings would be a good start if there are any in your area.. much like dating.. meet.. learn to like (trust).. then play

 

[chode]

Well not all of us are sick freaks. Andi for one would love to let a girl tie me up and tickle me, ihave no problem giving her control. There doesnt even need to be bondage involved. Just something i have been thinking about.

 

[arion30]

and even when you do get one to talk with you yuo have to tread very lightly. I met a pair of girls online a couple weeks ago and after talking a few times we agreed to meet up. they would tell me where to meet them and wed go have some fun. well the day came and went without a peep from them. needless to say my weekend was spent at home with nothing to do. When next I saw them on line I asked them why they hadnt told me where to meet them. Innocent enough I thought. But they thought I was getting all mean and agry and wouldnt talk with me. It turns out one of them got into a fist-fight with an x-boyfriend and they were more than a little upset, understandably. I wound up apologizing for something I didnt even do, but were now back on track and Im going to try and meet up with them again.

moral of the story, be very careful when meeting online, cause you never know who he/she is and what theyve been through.

 

[heronflight01]

further thoughts

i certainly was not suggesting that any of you are sick freaks...but venraya has the right idea. i am very happy for you btw, that you are married to your tkl partner. thats great. i am also married, but my spouse has absolutely zero interest in the scene. oh well, such is life. so *sigh* i persue a purely academic interest in tickling at this point. i posted on the personals board to seek out new tickling life; of any kind, not just the exclusive "boy meets girl" bull that is fairly common. and OH MY there were many people into this in ohio. that thread is big to this day.

 

[Raya]

Thank you, heronflight!

yjgfn, I certainly did not intend to imply that you are a "sick freak" in any way. I was simply suggesting methods that would allow you to meet women with the same interest in tickling, in a way that would make them feel the comfort level they need to have to meet you in person, let alone allow you to tie them down (a very vulnerable state, don't you agree?) and tickle them.

Main stream media loves to play up the big story about the people who have met up with people from online with disastrous results. Shows the ilk of the Jerry Springer Show and Sally Jesse Raphael (inspire a lot of trust, don't they?) are the only places that seem to like to mention the success stories, where people have met life long friends or even lovers. Therefore only someone who has a death wish or who has been living under a rock would not have mixed feelings about taking that step..

Just a woman's perspective..

 

[Dave2112]

I agree with Venraya here. I don't think the personals are a bad idea, I just think you need to know what to expect. There are a lot of sincere people trying to find others in that section, so give it a chance.

And by the way, heronflight...I LOVE your quote! "Lock and Key", right?😎

 

[njjen3953]

Personal ads really can work

I posted this ad a little over a year ago on many tickling sites. Those of you who are familiar with my relationship with GuitarPeteTklr know that you can find what you want online. He answered this ad and the rest is history.


"I always thought that with my many "alternative" interests, I never
could find ONE man to meet my needs. I am going to give it a try.

I am looking for a nice, caring, loving and affectionate man who
enjoys the same activities that I do, for a long term relationship.

1)He should be a tickler. One who takes the fetish seriously and
doesn't give up easily.
2)He should be Dominant. Not a lifestyle Dom. Just when the mood
strikes him, or when I have it coming. LOL
3)He should be willing to OCCATIONALLY, have a bi-female join us for
some fun.(To satisfy my bi urges).
4)He should have a definate "Vanilla" side as I do.
I teach, do theater and singing and enjoy most "Vanilla" activities.

I am a 35 year old, white, female living in the Poconos in PA. I am
5'3, with blonde hair, green eyes, fair skin, full lips, a busty 46DD
and a BBW. I consider myself to be attractive and have been told by
some that I am sexy.

I would be interested in meeting a SINGLE male, between the ages of
30 and 50 who wants a life partner who shares his interests and
really wants one woman in his life.

Location is somewhat important in the beginning, but if a
relationship developes, I am in a position to relocate eventually if
necessary.

PLEASE, NO MARRIED or ATTATCHED MEN!!!!!
If you can't give me your home phone#(not a beeper or cell phone),
I'll know.

I am very serious about this and hopefully will find someone who also
is."

Keep looking and good luck. He/She is out there.
Jen

 

[Sunriseticklee]

To Answer Your Question

Ok... I AM a gal. LOL
And yjgfn I DO read the personals for people in my area.


I suppose I agree with you somewhat. It seems like it is almost a waste of time. I have been waiting for a year or so for someone to prove me wrong.... maybe there are some decent ticklephiles in Georgia. And maybe some of them could even be women and not just men. I have been actively searching... and although I have met a few that I chat with once in awhile, it is obvious that they want MORE than fun tickling. I'm just not that type of girl. Just because I desire to chat with other ticklephiles from Georgia, that doesn't mean I am desperate. Some guys just don't get it.

Yet and still.... I keep my post up, hoping that one day I will meet some Georgia Grown Tickle-lovers who are awesome just like my friends on the West and East Coast!

Until then,
Love, Laugh, and Tickle (even in the good ol' South)
Sunriseticklee


PS...I have made a lot of wonderful friends since I decided to start posting to TMF. Thank you all for making me feel welcome. And for those of you who ARE stepping out on a limb and answering my ad (even if you aren't from Georgia like I am asking... LOL) I appreciate it. Friendship- May take but a moment to create, but hopefully it will last a lifetime.

Love ALWAYS!

 

[heronflight01]

dave...

yup that sure is lock and key. it could be my favourite rush song ever. very possibly. incidently dave, your art is great. absolutely mah-velous🙂
returning to the issue at hand: i hope there is hope for platonic tickling in the future, even through personal ads...because that is all an awful lot of us are looking for. its a waiting game that takes some courage and a little luck. until then, we amuse ourselves with stories and art, photographs and memories.

 

[njjen3953]

Re: dave...

i hope there is hope for platonic tickling in the future, even through personal ads...because that is all an awful lot of us are looking for. its a waiting game that takes some courage and a little luck. until then, we amuse ourselves with stories and art, photographs and memories.

If it is platonic tickling you want, GO TO A GATHERING!!!!

Jen

 

[tcrewme]

Another thought...

The poster may have gotten a private email in response, but not placed a reply on the board itself.
The important thing about a personal posting is to make sure you have your location spelled out, and now of course they are sperated by locations.
But also, come by the chat room, post a message...
It helps, in the last 3 weeks I have made alot of new friends, that I never thought I would know, from the chat alone.

 

[bickee]

As a woman, I don't think I'd feel safe meeting someone through the forums. There are a few people I've chatted with in the chat room who I probably feel comfortable enough with to meet on a one to one basis. But that's after months of talking. Women have to be extra careful about who they meet. As Jen said, go to a gathering!

 

[TickledToDeath]

Technically I did not meet anyone through the personals here, however I did start a relationship with someone who responded to my ad here in the TMF but we actually got together in the Chat room which is where we MET Prior to her responding to my personal ad.

The rest is history and is still being written....

TTD

 

[bickee]

Is there anyone happier than TTD right now? Always Patti this, Patti that. So cute...😉

 

[njjen3953]

As Jen said, go to a gathering!

*Wonders when bickee was going to her 1st gathering*

Jen