Any opinions?

[Limeoutsider]

I dont know how to phrase this, but I went out applying for jobs with a friend. Shes going to be graduationg HS in a 2 weeks and has no major bills, all she needs money for is entertainment purposes; magazine subscriptions and such. Im a college student and I have 1 major bill to pay, plus 2 phone bills and various other expenses, and she started an arguement with me that she needed a job more than I did and I brought up thr point that I had bills and she didnt and she STILL insisted that she needed a job more than I did. Im confused, am I correct in assuming that I need a job more than her? Or is she right about her needing the job more than me?

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

She probably doesn't understand just how stressful paying bills can be, and until she becomes aquainted with good old Uncle Sam, she truely won't be able to appriciate your position and what you go through on a monthly basis or what have you.

Then again, theres the possiblity that she feels she needs the job more than you because she needs to get into the work force, realizes her inexperience, and needs to do this more than you so she can prove to herself ,or whomever, that she is a capable person able to make her own way in this world.

Shes probably is just oblivious though, and doesn't have any responsibilities, with all due respect to your friend.

Or, she knows that your right, and just wants to mess with you for fun.


- Damien

 

[The Pianist]

Yeah, if your friend literally has nothing to pay for except entertainment costs she doesn't need the job. Or perhaps she wants the job because it will quite likely be hard to find a job after she graduates (because of every other kid looking for a job at that time). So yeah, unless theres something you're missing, she might just want the job rather than needing it.

Coincidently... I have a job myself... and I only need to pay for my entertainment expenses too... but I manage to get along just fine. But at the same time, one of my friends at uni has a job too... but finds it hard to get through the week with money left over. The only thing is that I earn $20 a week, while he earns at least $200 a week. The difference being is that I can enjoy myself with $20... but when he gets bored he just happens to buy the MP3 player he's desperately needed for the previous 5 minutes. 😛

 

[milagros317]

Your friend doesn't seem to recognize the difference between discretionary income and obligations.

The fact that she wants some discretionary income to spend on entertainment is fine, but you have actual obligations (such as paying tuition). So you do need a job more than she does, IMHO.

 

[TicklingDuo]

Aside from the above observations, I'd just add one little thing. No matter how insignificant they may seem to others, our own needs tend to appear bigger and more important to most people than the needs of others. It's basic survival instinct to start. If there hasn't been the opportunity to see that the needs of others are also important and worth concern, it tends to take precedence. You are correct that ones obligations are more important than simply having fun. But, patience with your friend will likely help her to learn over time. I wouldn't be too concerned about it. I'd just agree to disagree and move on.

Ann

 

[desdemona]

Just to clarify Lime...is this going to be her first job?? And is it a "keeper" or just an in between, looking for something to kill time kind of job? In other words, is she going to be going on to college or other training? Or is she contemplating what she's going to do next with her life?

As to whether or not it's more important than your need to find a job, well, that boils down to perception. You obviously have more need as you perceive it. But if she can't stand the thought of facing an uncertain future, than she may need that secure feeling. Just my thoughts.

 

[JoBelle]

Just to toss in another option...

Your friend may be looking at a need to save money. As a recent hs graduate with the real world looking her in the face, she may be faced with parents who expect her to move out soon. She may have to pay for college on her own, possibly? Who knows?

Anyway, yep...it's a whole differnt world when you have to pay for your own roof, food, clothes, etc. Those first couple of years out there doing it make entertainment a luxury. Sometimes people have to learn that the hard way.

Jo

 

[Limeoutsider]

She's going to college and living with her parents. It would be her 3rd job.