Attention To All Who Know Me

[flightless_me]

IM NOT LEAVING however, im changing my account name getting a new one i guess. I wish there was a way i could delete everything on this one to get my current bf to stop searching at EVERYTHING i have posted. but i cant. So im making a new account where there arent posts i have made when single and i had made that i thought noone important in my life would read. Im doing this because im thoroughyly *or howwever you spell it* tired of being so embarressed every time he says he saw me post this or that. it's not really his fault it's his freedom to see it and i havent told him he couldnt. Please dont think he is a bad person for doing that because i wanted to be open with him. However the more im open with him about this the more im scared to death of him seeing it. I cried today when he said that my search engine was saved and he could see everything i searched for on here. I dont know why im so scared to death like this. Maybe just hormones..but this is my new decision. So my new account name will be. uh..let me think...

Flightful_me ha ha!

 

[SyDemon1]

All the best to your new account. If it would serve as a psychological renewal and would rejuvenated your spirit, it is a good thing. To suddenly throw your door open to an important person in your life like this will definitely take some getting used to, so I would think that it is natural to be so fearful about it.

You might wish to continue to communicate with your bf about the fears you have (if you haven't already done so). I believe your internal struggle between your desire to open your life to him and your fear of losing him as a result. My advice would be to invite him into this side/phase of your life so that he can share with you what he really thinks, and you can sure with him about your struggle with it. Easier said than done, I know, but I believe if accomplished, this will only serve to strengthen your mutual trust and respect.

 

[Budweiserbob!]

Well I wish you all the best with your new account and your relationship! ^_^

Rock on dudette! 😀 *headbangs*

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Some Guys Have All The Luck...........................

Let Me Get This Straight, He's The Jerk, But You're The One Making Changes??? Good Luck With That. I Take It His Favorite Jelly Is "schmuckers". I Hope The New Name Will Fix Some Of The Issues/ Problems. I Hope He Can/will/does See How His Actions Have Hurt You. Maybe If He Pulled His Head Out Of His Ass....

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother gonna give you some advice. if you change your name that is fine but do not tell it to all of us. pm the people you are most close with and let them know. also post a final farwell thread that will make it look like you are never ever gonna post here again. this way if your boyfriend peeks, he see nothing! Now what bothers the hollywood brother is that he reads and attacks you with what he reads. I am sure you are very deeply in love with the gentleman but the hollywood brother thinks that something is bad in mudville if he spying on you. The hollywood brother thinks that a man should love a ticklish lady with all his heart, trust, soul and everything else he has. The hollywood brother is sorry if you do not likw what i am saying but it sounds like there may be problems with you and your boyfriend that need to be owrked out before you give him your hand in matromony down the line and get your beautiful heart broken.

 

[a1532b]

Well fightless, I hadn't talked to you too much, unfortunately, but I will miss reading your posts. You always seemed to be a really nice person. It's a shame that he's making you leave. A bit scary too... I mean, it sounds like he's using scare tactics to get you to do what he wants. If he is reading everything you say, watching everything you do, then making you embarrased about it...Well that's not right. You should really go to couples counceling. The way you describe it, it's almost like he's trying to make you afraid to come here, which is a very dominant and abusive characteristic. It may not be physical abuse, but mental abuse is just as bad. I've seen this same thing happen way to many times. Talk to him and ask him to stop. Oh well, it's not my business. Sorry for trying to pry, I just ramble sometimes. Good luck!

 

[TheChameleon]

*gives Flightless wings*

"There ya go."

 

[flightless_me]

Well it looks like im stuck with this account because i cant get the other one to make a post cause its not letting me. Says its not allowed for that account or some shit. So im stuck with this one. Which just scares me to death but oh well what can you do. Alot of you have gotten (thats not a word) the wrong impression. He is very very open about my ...likings...and actually keeps trying to indulge in them to make me happy. "i want to make you happy i want to fullfil YOU" is what i hear every day from him. He wants to make me happy and im just scared in sharing it with him. Which is why i am trying to make changes. He is a sweet heart ya we have our ups and downs so big fucking deal. I mean hell i have a mouth. I always get on the offense when mad and i get mad alot due to personal reasons and such. Some here know. But he doesnt do that. When he is mad he isnt like me at all. So if anyone is going to play the "whose worse" game id win by a land slide. This is a relationship a give and take and give back situation. ill explain more when i have time

 

[nessonite1]

Just get a new email addy. Should let you then.

 

[Sockstickler]

Getting a new email addy would work. Then if you want to use your old one, the one you use on your current account, then go to "change email address" or something in your settings and set it to the new email address. Then you can just make the new account on your current email. It sounds like a bit of work, but it's really not 🙂

 

[MistressValerie1]

Flightless, I don't think that opening an account with a similar name and telling everyone about it is going to protect your anonymity at all. If you want to become invisible, you should do as the Hollywood Brother recommends and create an account with a totally different name, then use your old account to PM your friends the identity of your new account.

A random-word generator is here: http://unique-name.perceptus.ca/word-generator.php -- I find it of help when I need to create a stealthy screen name.

Best of luck,

 

[Abadon XXX1]

A couple ideas from me, you can choose not to do them or not:
1) delete all cookies. Save your important links over an email address and then go back at your leisure.
2) delete history. This had always been useful when I was using IE.

 

[-Kunoke-]

Well I use firefox, and the best way to go about it is by going to tools, and Clear All Private Data. Hey, even FIREFOX knows what it's supposed to be! 🙂 As for IE, deleting History and Cookies is really all you gotta do.

I'm really sorry again to hear you're having such a struggle with all of this. I wish you good luck once again and hope you can fix things and feel better. Doesn't sound like you're having a very fun time right now. But if it's bothering you that much....I guess I should echo what some have said and tell you....you should tell him how much it bothers you to be spyed on like that, if you haven't. The way you're describing him, he seems like a nice fellow. I'm sure he'll take that into consideration.

Hey, who knows...if he's spying on you, maybe he'll read all this hullaballoo and back off a bit :happy: :weird: