Bad Experiences in chat

[The_Raptor]

I'm wondering why do i almost always get bad experiences on the theater chat?,
I'm always looking for fun and playing, never tried to ruin anybody's fun i always seem to be misunderstood and faced by strange rules like "help the tickler or stay out of the way" and another stuff, well i'm only teasing and playing not stopping anything actually,not forcing anything and not even being nosey on ppl!
well thought i would share because i had 2 bad experiences here on theater chat :hammer:
Also is there such a rule to not tease ppl and play with them in chat here i don't understand!

 

[millergirl]

i agree people need to be nice and not mean your a great person i dont see why they have to be that way

 

[The_Raptor]

i agree people need to be nice and not mean your a great person i dont see why they have to be that way

oh thankies alot 🙂 am not great or anything, and am not whining or attacking anybody i only want to understand why some ppl are so aggressive here on chat? or if it is my fault?

 

[Beckers1]

Depends on the situation Raptor, but yes there is a respect peoples boundary rule. It's not a rule of the forum, but a rule of social etiquette. Now the person cursing you out is certainly at fault. That's bereft of any sort of social tact and hardly defuses a situation. In that scenario it'd be best to block one another.

That being said if this was in the cyber room then you kinda have no say in the matter, these people probably had it planned prior and wanted no makeshift arrangements. Had this been in the chill room though, you had every right to converse with fellow people and them cybering in the wrong room is their foul.

 

[TKLVR181]

Meh, people being idiots isn't your fault. If they *ask* you to stay out of it and not talk to them while they're busy, that's one thing. And yeah, I can kinda see where they might think that talking about it to the lee might make them think you're trying to butt in, but if you just say you're not they ought to back off.

As for the whole 'help the ler or do nothing' rule, it kind of is an unspoken rule. Like Beck said, they might have planned it out ahead of time or something.

My advice is, if you're looking to do something and you're not sure if in front of everyone is appropriate, try PMing them and talking instead of just sitting there and getting disappointed.

I've gone in there plenty of times hoping for something, ler or lee, and come away frustrated 'cuz everybody's busy or I can't find someone willing to ler to my lee or vice/versa. Lots of people go in there wanting to lee, and the ler supply seems to be way lower than demand-be patient, hopefully someone will get to you.

If it's lerring you want to do, maybe you should try to get to know the lee first, or pm them and ask. Lots of people are uncomfortable cyber-tickling with someone they barely know.

Hope this helped!

~K

 

[Beckers1]

If it's lerring you want to do, maybe you should try to get to know the lee first, or pm them and ask. Lots of people are uncomfortable cyber-tickling with someone they barely know.

~K

I believe he is purely a lee, so that only adds to his troubles of finding a partner. And yes TKLVR18 couldn't be more right about the stranger danger aspect. Quite a few people, myself included, will not participate with a complete stranger on the web. It lacks any sort of connection to tickle or be tickled by a faceless nameless person.

 

[The_Raptor]

Thankies Beckers and Karen i understand what you both are saying and i sure do respect boundries but was only kidding(not much) and teasing with them dunno why the reaction and judgement i got here for the 2nd time and it was in the chill room from people who i thought more fun,
And actually i'm alittle shy to even pm, it always feels for me like i'm in a party and whispering only to someone i barely know while neglecting the whole party,
Also i'd like to know ppl abit also before cybering too, and am here for fun and to make friends as well not only for cybering,
but again thanks for your words they cheered me alittle i'll keep them in mind

 

[Beckers1]

it was in the chill room from people who i thought more fun

After hearing this, you are completely in the right. I have no issue with people cybering in chill if the chatroom isn't active or there are no other people, but I cannot count how many times I've had to talk to good acquaintances over an abundance of "Heeeeeees" or *Tickles body part* And frankly it irks me. Cause I know it's not enough that they have a session, they have to subject the rest of the chatroom to it and that isn't right.

There's a room designated specifically to cyber tickling people, in this room is where people WOULD like to watch. Some people really don't care to watch cyber sessions so as a courtesy please don't have it going on while people are attempting to converse

 

[MistressValerie1]

I'll look into the matter.

 

[Beckers1]

Well it was in Tickling Discussion for a bit Major, but it was moved here cause it's more befitting. This is a place to discuss the site and the chatroom is part of the site. I agree though, it'd help for people who are in the dark about how to properly integrate into the community.

 

[Beckers1]

I would love to see you stop by sometime though Tom! Nice to just shoot the breeze and get to know members without the wait delay of forum posts 🙂

 

[Beckers1]

Good stuff! I won't be on tonight but you'll probably catch me sometime tomorrow. Please enjoy yourself!

 

[MacD]

I'm wondering why do i almost always get bad experiences on the theater chat?

I do not know this chat but lots of others and all are the same. Actors, idiots, fakes and sex sex sex everywhere ... They only differ in intensity of a-holes 🙂
It is the anonymity that makes people start to be freaks. "you" on the other side do not have any value in their mind because you only are faceless text on the screen which makes you the perfect toy for boring moments to them.
Women complain about being sex toys only, no wonder you often get no answers or hardly find any (real) women in such chats anymore.
This of course affects men in this chat. Those with working brains are effectively reduced - which guy with serios chatting intention would need all that rubbish and unfriendly behaviour? This again rises concentration of chat-spoilers and voila... no more fun in a chat.

That is my explanation for why chats are the way they are. Unfortunately I do not have a solution but it might help to understand what's going on.
Most important fact: assumed you know how to behave, it is not essentially your fault if you do not find the atmosphere you'd like to have.
Try to think like your counterpart in a chat, maybe you find a way to "address" even the frustrated or silent ones and can make them talk to you. Forget those who only want to play with you! It helps!

 

[MistressValerie1]

This would make a great thread for general discussion. I'm sure that everyone has their boundaries when it comes to the chat rooms here and being ex-military, I want to know the rules of engagement before I've broken them without knowing what they are. I'm certain that others would as well.

This thread, although unofficial, might be of help: http://www.tickletheater.com/showthread.php?t=64594

 

[MistressValerie1]

Major Tom, those "guidelines" are unofficial and only apply to role play. Please feel free to visit the main chat room any time 🙂