Bad problem (mature?)

[glorbnik12]

I don't know if there are guidelines here regarding how explicit a post can be...but I'll try this........I've found myself with quite a problem. It appears that unless tickling is present, I am unable to acheive or sustain an erection. I had an experience recently where this caused me quite a bit of embarrasment, and needless to say I don't want it to happen again. I hope someone who reads this will have some sort of suggestion or advice. Thank you.

 

[naveltkltr1350]

yeah..the little blue pill..i think its called Viagara.

 

[blingman]

Hmmm, well unless you want to use Viagra, either tickle your partner, or take a minute in the bathroom and remember a tickling clip you've seen. I don't see why that shouldn't work. Once you start actually having intercourse the feeling should keep you erect.

 

[HOLLYWOOD]

the hollywood brother thinks you trained yourself this way without realizing this. just tickle your love during foreplay until she is ready to ride space mountain and scream woo!

 

[blingman]

until she is ready to ride space mountain and scream woo!

That is perhaps the funniest sexual inuendo I've ever heard

 

[-Kunoke-]

That is perhaps the funniest sexual inuendo I've ever heard

I concur! 😛

 

[alchemy1]

Relax

Hey, it happens sometimes man. Hell, it happens all the time to boring people who DON'T have cool fetishes like us. Lets face it, unless you're Gene Simmons, it's gonna happen from time to time. Don't worry about it. I mean, maybe there is something to the whole -you trained yourself to only get off on tickling so that is all you will get off on- argument...I don't know...I'm not a doctor. For god sakes man, what ever you do, don't blame/put down your fetish if you have problems in the bedroom. It's people like us that keep things interesting in the world. Who wants to be normal? Normal is boring. But hey...If you are really concerned about being able to get off on all the normal stuff, the LAST thing that you want to do is worry about it. If you worry about it, you start becoming self conscious about it. If you become self conscious about it, you will suffer from anxiety over it...and anxiety and sex don't mix my friend. In other words, the more you worry about it, the more of a problem it will be. My advice...RELAX. Enjoy the situation, enjoy the sensations, and above all else, enjoy the woman. Have fun. Trust me...it'll come (pun intended). 😎

 

[jj82277]

why wasn't extensive tickling involved in the first place Glorb. It appears that you know that you are truly a phile, why not interact and play with other philes. You will never be able to fit a psychological round peg into a psychological square hle, trust me i've tried. we all deserve to have life long tickle partners. "Life will give you what you are willing to accept. Which is stronger, your love for tickling, or your fear of openness?" (inspired by Napoleon Hill).

 

[-Kunoke-]

Hey, it happens sometimes man. Hell, it happens all the time to boring people who DON'T have cool fetishes like us. Lets face it, unless you're Gene Simmons, it's gonna happen from time to time. Don't worry about it. I mean, maybe there is something to the whole -you trained yourself to only get off on tickling so that is all you will get off on- argument...I don't know...I'm not a doctor. For god sakes man, what ever you do, don't blame/put down your fetish if you have problems in the bedroom. It's people like us that keep things interesting in the world. Who wants to be normal? Normal is boring. But hey...If you are really concerned about being able to get off on all the normal stuff, the LAST thing that you want to do is worry about it. If you worry about it, you start becoming self conscious about it. If you become self conscious about it, you will suffer from anxiety over it...and anxiety and sex don't mix my friend. In other words, the more you worry about it, the more of a problem it will be. My advice...RELAX. Enjoy the situation, enjoy the sensations, and above all else, enjoy the woman. Have fun. Trust me...it'll come (pun intended). 😎

That's exactally how I feel. I've been told by about 85-90% of the girls who know I have a tickling fetish, that there are weirder things out there, and they'd rather have me tickling their feet than fondling their boobs anyway. I've also been told by practically 100% of the girls that they think it's kind of sexy, as LOTS of girls like to have their feet kissed. Just because the girl doesnt have a foot fetish wont mean she doesnt like it. I've met many girls like that. Fetishes give great alternatives to real sexual activity, while having the same effect for most, and most girls would be more willing to indulge your fetish than have sex with you. Even if this isnt the case with a certain girl, lots of other girls I have met let me play with their feet purely as a friendly favor. Furthermore, it's not that big of a deal that you only get sexually excited by your fetish. Lots of people are that way, and the solution is simple. When you wanna get up, tickle a girl. If you can't tickle a girl at that moment, browse the wide variety of videos around the forum! There are some great ones. Don't consider your fetish a problem, a nuisanse, or a bad thing in any way. Embrace your fetish, because it's a part of you. You have to remember, how can you expect other people to respect you if you can't respect yourself and how you are? Don't bottle yourself up, not completely anyway. I believe someone here said "It's human nature. If you tell someone what you like to do, they'll help you do it." If you're open, you'll get a lot more oppertunities. If girls know you need to tickle them to get an erection, they'll probably be just fine with it. Sure, some of them may think you're a little crazy, but it's better to NOT be a stereotype. Indulge it, have fun, and live life.

 

[SAIXA]

Dude This Place Is So Freakin Awesome Thats Some Of The Best Advice I've Ever Heard!!!!! Im So Glad I've Found This Place

 

[ticklish_spirit]

I've got a little bit I can add to the discussion here. I don't know how helpful it will be but I hope it helps at least a little. Way back when I was a little baby I had an opperation done to correct something. I had an undecended testicle. Now here I am at 20 and through out my whole teenage life and now on into my adult years I am stuck with a peculure condition. My hormones are rather out of wack. For the most part, my hormonal chemical makeup is that of a female. Though I am very much so male in my anatomy. And yes, everything works and works well. The doctors have told me that in order to lead a healthy life I need to be taking pills to correct the imbalances. But I don't. My father tought me how to meditate shortly before I began going through those "akward changes" we all experience. And though any doctor I've spoken to tells me that it's just luck or coincidence, I have managed to balance myself through my own will over the years and continue to do so. Having so little testosterone does have it's effects. For example, I have very little body and facial hair. Hehe, the girls in my gymnastics class used to tease me for haivng smoother legs than they did. But the point is that I should not be able to function sexually at all as I am. Hehe, in fact I've even been told that as I am I should be groing breasts. But I'm not, and my sex life has been a very fun one. Though femminine I may be I'm still very much a boy. And against all odds, I'm able to maintain a happy and active sex life. If I can do it, anyone can. My advice is that it's all in your head and it just take a little effort, will power, and discipline to do anything.

 

[mdizzle]

glorbnik, i had the same problem man. only thing i could suggest to totally clear up the problem would be to condition yourself out of the fetish

 

[-Kunoke-]

glorbnik, i had the same problem man. only thing i could suggest to totally clear up the problem would be to condition yourself out of the fetish

That's not a great thing to try...it's almost unheard of to be able to rid yourself of your fetish. Easiest thing to do, and the best thing in the long run, is to tough it out and accept your fetish.

 

[jj82277]

why does everyone view this as a problem or a disease.

We are by definition sexually incompatable with those who do not share our sexual interests, that's what sexual incompatability means. stop trying to change the situation to fit the personel, and change the personel to fit the situation. we are the way that we are, stop trying to change that. there are too many pretty girls out there that love to be tickle tortured for us to be mulling over ways to get the same pleasure from those outside the community, isn't that right ladies.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I agree with JJ that sexual variations should not be considered "diseases" unless they result in harm to someone (like pedophilia). It's also normal for sexual interests to evolve and change gradually during one's entire lifetime, for reasons that are not fully understood. If the fetish isn't hurting anyone, it's usually best to accept it and not try to fight it. It shouldn't be too hard to find an understanding partner; after all, tickling barely registers on the "weird-o-meter" compared to some of the strange practices out there 🙂

 

[fabian]

Well first I would try to be open about it, if you get a bad reaction but really want to be with this girl (or guy, i don`t know) then try to relax and remember there´s more to sex than just tickling, i know it can be heaven for us but that doesn´t apply to everybody so keep that in mind

 

[jj82277]

the serpant was chosen, not because he was the most grotesque in the field, but the most subtle. the idea that you just ignore something like that is why our divorce ratio is so high. because after a while, with a person you know isn't compatable you won't be able to function at all.

to make my point clearer, you see all these commercials on TV for cialis and Viagra, why, because in our society we are so scared of our own friggin shadow, that we have been beaten into so much of a pulp that we need chemical aid to sleep with our wives. and that saddens me. If it isn't all that you want, why do you really want to be with that girl. because you think she is the only option. that is called needs based relationships and they never work. 3 billion females on the planet. that means that at least 750 million of them have our fetish. why not just find one of them, and be totally happy for the rest of your lives. would that be so wrong.