Never posted before... just not sure where to turn. My fiancé recently informed me that she finds my turn ons to be "creepy"...always has. Anything to do with her feet or tickling them, is over. I have a beautiful 5 year old boy I don't wanna lose in addition to not wanting to lose my fiancé. But a lifetime ban kinda blows. I think I'm in the minority here, but I curse this fucking fetish daily. I would remove my own spleen with a fork to not be this way. Basically just wondering if anyone else has had similar feelings/experiences.
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For me, I can't say that I've ever really encountered this type of situation before. I mean, I used to find my fetish awkward, but I've never really been with a girl who is absolutely appalled by it (granted, I don't exactly have a foot fetish as well as a tickling fetish).
I definitely feel for you. That said, what I'm going to say next may come off as somewhat abrasive, but I'm of the mind that we all need some sobering up occasionally.
Considering she's your fiance, I can't help but wonder why this subject wasn't breached sooner (like, before she became your fiance or, you know, before the child). Doesn't seem that the communication is very open or honest to me, but that might just be some Monday Morning Quarterbacking on my part.
Good luck, dude.
I definitely feel for you. That said, what I'm going to say next may come off as somewhat abrasive, but I'm of the mind that we all need some sobering up occasionally.
Considering she's your fiance, I can't help but wonder why this subject wasn't breached sooner (like, before she became your fiance or, you know, before the child). Doesn't seem that the communication is very open or honest to me, but that might just be some Monday Morning Quarterbacking on my part.
Good luck, dude.
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Wow that sucks.
That seems so sudden considering you must have been together for a long time. A relationship is about give and take. It seems like there is a whole lot of taking and not much giving. I guess it comes down to if she is still worth it without that, stick it out, man. It just sucks if it becomes a stay together for the kids situation; I was in that growing up and did not like it at all. Good luck. I hope it works out.
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As a man who's been happily married for years, I can offer you this sound piece of advice. A marriage won't work unless you're willing to compromise. No relationship is perfect and there will always be times when you and your partner don't see eye to eye. With that said, this is a big issue because sex is a big part of a relationship and for people with a fetish like ours, there's additional pressure. This is where compromise is important. Speak with her because I'm sure there's things she'd like you to try for her.
If you both love each other, compromise should be possible.
If you both love each other, compromise should be possible.
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I would ask her if she's comfortable with you indulging your fetish elsewhere to a predetermined non-sexual capacity with someone else. Not fucking around, mind you; but maybe finding an outlet for the piece of yourself since she isn't comfortable with it.
It's not like its fair for her to tell you that you're basically not allowed to have that attribute anymore; nor is it fair for you to ask that she alter her perspective. I honestly can't think of anything other than involving some form of third party within you marital boundaries.
It's not like its fair for her to tell you that you're basically not allowed to have that attribute anymore; nor is it fair for you to ask that she alter her perspective. I honestly can't think of anything other than involving some form of third party within you marital boundaries.
Outstanding people. Can't say how much I appreciate the response. Wish I'd posted sooner instead of lurking for so many years. Just the feeling that I'm not alone makes all the difference. I can't force someone to do something they dont want to, and I'd feel like a scumbag even putting pressure on her. It's an issue I'm sure I'll deal with somehow. Many many thanks to all!
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Glad to be of service? Lol Whether or not this actually helps you remains to be seen, but my heart goes out to you.
I can't even imagine how actually finding a tickle-partner will go for you. I mean, there's always the married dating scene, but it could be iffy considering what your and her limitations are. There are some couples out there that like to incorporate a third in their play; I'd start there.
I can't even imagine how actually finding a tickle-partner will go for you. I mean, there's always the married dating scene, but it could be iffy considering what your and her limitations are. There are some couples out there that like to incorporate a third in their play; I'd start there.
