Being Human

[midnightlord619]

Sooo....I know I'm not the best person in the world. I have flaws, I've made mistakes, I've done this, that, and whatever in between. I've apologized, tried to make up for things, moved on, forgive and forget, etc. But yet...even when you turn a new leaf, even when you try to change yourself to someone better...because of what you've done, people continue to hang it over your head or flat out think you can't change. Therefore, you're treated like an outcast. Shunned and nothing wanting anything to do with.

So let me ask this: Who are you to judge me? What gives you or anyone the right to say or do the things you say and do to me??

I'm not perfect, but I'm still human. I have a heart like a human, feelings like a human, and can sure as heck be broken and mended like a human. Is it so impossible to sit and be civilized? To talk things out and find middle ground? This world has enough hate and brokeness in it...why should we add more to it?

(Btw, this is just me speaking my thoughts out loud, so please don't feel like i'm trying to point anyone out in particular)

 

[CrystalLight]

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[General Zod]

Sooo....I know I'm not the best person in the world. I have flaws, I've made mistakes, I've done this, that, and whatever in between. I've apologized, tried to make up for things, moved on, forgive and forget, etc. But yet...even when you turn a new leaf, even when you try to change yourself to someone better...because of what you've done, people continue to hang it over your head or flat out think you can't change. Therefore, you're treated like an outcast. Shunned and nothing wanting anything to do with.

So let me ask this: Who are you to judge me? What gives you or anyone the right to say or do the things you say and do to me??

I'm not perfect, but I'm still human. I have a heart like a human, feelings like a human, and can sure as heck be broken and mended like a human. Is it so impossible to sit and be civilized? To talk things out and find middle ground? This world has enough hate and brokeness in it...why should we add more to it?

(Btw, this is just me speaking my thoughts out loud, so please don't feel like i'm trying to point anyone out in particular)

The reason people judge you? Look down their noses at you? It is so they can feel better with their own miserable lives.

 

[Bothersome]

It all depends on what you've done.

Judging people is a right that all humans have. Everyone does it, and everyone will continue to do it for the rest of our existence as a species. Now, what actions they take based on that judgement may be subject to they law, but the judgment itself is not.

If you threw a rock at my window and broke it, then sure, we can find middle ground about that. You pay me for the window, and it's water under the bridge. What about if you killed a person? Raped a person? You were convicted, did your time, and then was released back into the world. Would you expect people to simply forget that you did what you did? Even if you killed the person on accident, they'll still know that you killed them. That's something that you cannot find middle ground on. You cannot repay someone for a life taken.

Again, it all depends on the action that caused people to judge you. Some actions will haunt you for life, and some will be gone by next week.

 

[Soda Bobinski]

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Tsk.

So pessimistic like a human.

 

[Simon Mills]

I could be guessing, but it may be that people judge you because you spontaneously scream out in public "Don't judge me! I'm only human!" which strikes me as being a little off. If you're not specifically talking to us, a better way to approach the matter might've been to ask for advice in the area where you feel like you are being judged, instead of going off on a rant that seems to be directed at those who are reading it and then ending with a disclaimer to the contrary. If you feel like you're being judged in general by everybody you see as you walk by them, shrinking into the shadows to avoid their hateful, judgemental stares as they drop whatever they're doing to pass horrific sentence upon you in their minds, one of two things is true: 1. you're a terrible person, or 2. you need to get over what other people think of you, to a certain degree. Just between you, me, and whoever else reads this, I'm going to guess that you're at least an okay person, if not better (I've no idea, but I give that much by way of benefit of the doubt) and that you need to take door #2.

What people who don't know you, and who don't really care enough about you to consider your feelings before they darn ye most thoroughly unto hecks, think about you--or what you do, or say, or think--doesn't matter. Try not to miss the rare individual who is honestly trying to help you realize that you're your own worst enemy (a statement which applies to many of us) and ignore the rest of the single-minded organisms.

 

[alchemy]

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Yep

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[Saeria]

I honestly don't know you (the OP) from a hole in the ground so surely I could pass no judgement on you, but I am also human so I can be judgemental. With me, I can't take a whole lot of hell, but it seems I've discovered even I have limitations. Anger and Resentment are miserable monsters, and even long after the negative behavior has stopped, the rememberance of those things will still evoke the same emotions. It's much like touching a hot stove. Most normal people won't intentionally do it more than once. We're creatures of learning and habit. We avoid pain, seek pleasure, apperciate comfort and are driven to react when uncomfortable. Certain things will bring back the same reactions each time. It's like having that friend that used to be a crack head and habitually borrowed (stole money from you). Even long after the person has stopped using, you still feel uncomfortable having your valuables around while they're in your home. Learned response 🙂.
To drive this home, if you've made a habit of negative behaviors in the past, and have since changed.. be sure to give those around you time to change as well. In the end the only true control you have is over yourself and your own reactions. The rest of those around you are still trying to figure out whether or not the proverbial stove is still hot.

 

[c7_assassin]

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"Who am I???" 😀

Dude, I don't know who you are. A guy who occasionally drinks too much and gets dramatic, I'm guessing. Have one for me, I'm about to make love to a woman.

 

[midnightlord619]

Martel, thx for giving me the benefit of doubt. And yes, i believe you were right in saying that i could've gone bout better of this. Unfortunately, my temper got the better of me and i needed to vent out in some manner though this may have not been the best idea i ever came up with. Also, your idea of door #2 would be the best option to take. Again thx u.
Saeria, your post has also given me some peace of mind. thx u