Can tickling be overwhelming as a ler?

[Inverse]

Been a bit since I've made a thread. ♥

Lately I've been getting into my local kink community, and it's been a really fun ride. I've been exploring a lot of things here in Portland, and the people are super fun and warm. I can't believe it's taken me so long to get out of my comfort zone and meet people, I was always so afraid of just opening up, but bit by bit I have and my love for tickling has been something I've just worn on my sleeve. ^^ It's nice seeing how even those who don't share the fetish can still find a lot of understanding in it, and have helped me accept it further.

Despite this, I've learned recently, that, in the presence of tickling... like, not casual tickling but, like anything more fetishy like, in bondage, or in a stricter setting like it being used to punish or humiliate, I can be so, overwhelmed by it that I can almost hardly be in the same room as it. I haven't really had it as a part of my life for so long, I thought I'd be super excited to be around it, or even share it with my partner, but it can sometimes be so emotionally powerful that I have to leave or stop just to keep from going crazy. xD

I breath harder, and feel warmer, and can hardly keep still. I try to keep it hidden and to well inside me, but my energy is obvious. It doesn't matter if I lee, or am just watching, just the fact it's happening can be so deliciously overpowering. It's even worse when I tickle, but, different~

When I tickle my girlfriend, I can only do it for short periods sometimes before I feel like it's just overwhelming me physically, emotionally... not in a bad way but, I'm just not used to this powerful energy. I always thought it would just be a mere turn on, but it feels like it's more than that. I feel so much, just power in my fingertips, and knowing she knows how important it is for me and still embraces it is something no amount of storywriting or roleplay or fantasy has ever prepared me for. She's asked me sometimes why I stop, even though she even likes it, and I can't always give her an answer.

Am I just being weird? x.x I always thought I'd be able to just enjoy this kind of thing, but not I wonder if I'd even be able to go to a tickle gathering without blushing and gasping at even a playful session. It's so embarrassing.

 

[dalekfire]

Is this a TNG group, by any chance? 🙂 I've heard that Portland is a real jewel of a city where kink is concerned. (It certainly is a beautiful place in general!)

I don't think that feeling overwhelmed when physically dealing with our amazing fetish (or even simply being in the presence of it while it's happening) is weird at all, especially considering you're just now really coming out of your shell and experiencing it from a fresh new perspective. It could be (and this is probably true for so many of us here) that you've envisaged tickling to be what you've constructed it to be in your mind - while roleplaying, writing about, or chatting about it with others online - that when finally getting to actually feel it "for real," or as you say, feeling the "power in your fingertips," the sensation of it is so potent and different than what you've been so used to in your mind that it's like taking a sledgehammer to your chest. Could that be the case?

I can imagine it's a very thrilling sensation! 😀 But if it is in fact simply a shockwave from the new experience itself, I'm sure you'll start getting used to it, and the overwhelming effects will eventually subside to normality. As you're becoming familiar and comfortable with the kinky community there in general, that's perhaps a good sign that that'll be the case. And good for you too, Inverse, that you're taking that big and exciting step. All the best with your future adventures! :happy:

 

[LadyInternet]

I think I get it, Inverse. There's something amazingly powerful about that connection. They way such simple little touches to your lover's skin can do so much to them. The feel of their skin under your fingers. The way it jumps and shakes from the softest touch. How something so small and simple can be so overwhelming. The look we share, one of us mischievous and powerful, the other giddy and anxious. And ideally, both of us excited in more ways than one. That combination of physical and psychic touch that passes between us.

Especially since she seems like she's willing to do this with you. Honestly, I feel like the way you get as a ler incredibly endearing. If I were her, I'd love to hear that from you. I think you should tell her. It shows how the energy and dominance goes both ways. And it shows how much this means to you. It makes me envious, honestly.

 

[Rox_My_Sox1]

Overwhelming how exactly?

Do you mean running out of stamina during a session or just plain getting in over your head via the situation? If it's the latter, yes, there is such a thing as "too much of a good thing" and like any source of pleasure people can become overwhelmed by the experience let alone the situation of being involved in the BDSM community. It's important to KNOW YOUR LIMITS and only try to expand them with someone who KNOWS THEIR OWN LIMITS and are not willing to try anything RISKY or DANGEROUS.

That said, after reading your post a bit more, it sounds like your really love your girlfriend. Remember to be honest and develop trust with each other and you both should do fine. Remember the most IMPORTANT THING in BDSM play aside from safety is TRUST. If your girlfriend trusts you and you two are intimate then as long as that trust is not violated then you both should do fine.

 

[Beckers1]

I had a boyfriend that shared the fetish, but his tickling was in short bursts. He'd gently caress to get a giggle, shortly after we'd be making out. I didn't mind it though.

 

[oldskool]

Just my opinion but it might be a type of inner conflict... On some level part of you might feel guilty like you shouldn't be enjoying it on a sensual level. Or you deep down are afraid that people might find out how you are so sexually excited by tickling and think you're weird. It takes you out of your comfort zone. So you feel overwhelmed.

If you really want to move past this you probably need to start smaller. Maybe instead of total bondage you just start with a blindfold. Then if she's in bondage maybe she's fully clothed, and you just tickler her feet so it feels slightly more casual. Then you just take time and work your way to more sexual, dominant forms.

 

[Mastertickler69]

I think you get so turned on that you get overwhelmed. I can tickle for a few hours without getting so horny i can't take it. Try rubbing out a couple of orgasms, before your session. You will be fine. :U)