Can TICKLING fantasies really be fulfilled 100%?

[THEO]

Fantasy vs. Reality

I wonder how many of the tickling fans out here have wrestled with the issue regarding "Fantasy versus reality"? That is, the age old stigma that dictates that it's impossible to fulfill our fantasies 100%, without disappointment or regret.

I for one, beleive it's a catch 22 situation. We either do not attempt to fulfill our fantasies (or can't due to realistic obstacles), and therefore are forever frustrated or wondering what it would have been like......or, we go ahead and attempt to fulfill our fantasy, and possibly be very disappointmed and forever wreck our preconception of it! Which is the lesser of two evils?

I believe this is true of all fantasies, including the TICKLING fantasy. I have not had the opportunity to even come close to fulfilling my TICKLING fantasy, and that fine line to cross always seems tempting! I would ask then, to those of you who have been fortunate enough to cross that fine line and fulfill your fantasy...was it what you expected? What would you advise those of us who have not crossed that fine line between fantasy and reality yet? Thanks
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[TickledToDeath]

That all depends on what your fantasy is.
Is it realistic enough to be obtainable or so far fetched and out of reach that you have a better chance of taking an escelator to Jupitor!

If your fantasy is to have the female cast of Cyote Ugly gang tickle you for a weekend, well, Watch your step as you are getting off that escelator.

IF you fantasy is to have several of your girlfriends or female members of the TMF tie and tickle torture you for an evening at a gathering.....there is a fairly good chance that will happen.

I am sure you see my point.


TTD

 

[THEO]

Point well taken, and thanks for the reply. True, but even as my fantasy is quite obtainable (and not far fetched), there are still realistic obstacles around. There is the fear that those in out everyday life will find out, and the embarrassment factor plays in. It's all because the general public considers tickling to be taboo, and unacceptable.

Although it would only be my fault for not trying to fulfill my fantasy, I still would like to hear what the disappointment factor is, from those who have already crossed that line from fantasy to fulfillment. Give me a roadmap, so to speak, so that I can judge the pros and the cons.

 

[Blackstar216]

You mean....one of yall actually put money on Coyot Ugly?

 

[Haltickling]

Hmm, interesting question! IMO, you'll always have to make some kind of compromise to match your fantasy with reality. I'll gladly settle for a 90% rate of fulfillment, and I've been able to fulfill several of my dreams.

About 25 years ago, I had my first tickling session with 2 gorgeous girls, in a hotel room in Cairo, of all places. Later, I've always dreamed to repeat this experience, and on two occasions I hired 2 professional BDSM 'slaves' for this purpose. It didn't come near to my original experience, but it was good enough to satisfy my desires.

Many of my fantasies became true when I married a woman whose enjoyment of tickling even surpassed mine. We explored most of my fantasies, but she never consented to a threesome play with another girl. It was okay with me, I was satisfied to see 90% of my dreams become reality. After 13 years, we divorced for entirely different reasons.

About 10 years ago, I constantly fantasized about tickling a female colleague of mine, and when I had changed my place of work, I was able to fulfill my dream. This time, reality was much better than even the wildest of my dreams! I brought her into the world of tickling, and she was so much into it that she infected her boyfriend with our fetish. Two years later, I was best man at their wedding, and my wedding present was her favorite set of my leather handcuffs… 😛

To bring some of my dreams concerning tickle videos into reality, I ordered a custom video from Jeff, and again, my expectations were surpassed (For You #12, Ticklish Triangle). But of course I had to compromise with the action: To satisfy my desires completely, the tickling would have to be integrated in some girl-girl sex action, and no video producer could settle for this because of legal restrictions.

Some of my fantasies are simply too unrealistic to fulfill. So I wrote them down, as tickle fiction stories and novels. It's far from approaching reality, but it's a good valve for any fantasy. Some are better with drawings, or expressing their emotions in music.

So it always comes down to adapt your expectations to reality. Then you have a good chance to be satisfied with 90% probability. And it's still good to have some unfulfilled dreams, or life would quickly become very boring! 🙂

 

[THEO]

Thank you very much for sharing your insight and experiences! That helps me a lot! Actually, it doesn't sound as hopeless as I thought. Now all I have to do is arrange for my fantasy to be fulfilled.

 

[TicklingIsLife]

Here is my view on the difference of fantasy and reality:

The chance of you haveing a tickling session with your favorite celebrity is what, 1 in a billion. It is possible, but not really.

The chance of you having a tickling session with all of your friends like a night of tickling is what, 1 in 50? That is very possible, all you have to do is make it happen.

You are not going to be able to call up a celebrity and actually talk to her. Calling up your friends is very do-able, you just have to do it......

The only thing that is real, is what hasn't happened yet.
(try to guess what book I got that from😛 )

😀 😀

 

[THEO]

Hey, thanks so much for this flood of helpful info. This is so great, being able to tap your experience! thank you! Gee, with more input like this, I'll be brave enough to try. Might even post it. haha. Seriously, thank you! Any other suggestions?

 

[TickledToDeath]

Yo Theo!

Who cares about the general public. Unless you plan to post your pic and your desires on telephone polls and phone booths, chances are the general public will not find out.

Secondly, even IF by a long shot they did find out, so what? You are not a rapist or a pediphile or a producer of snuff videos.
Tickling is a harmless playful passtime and makes you(us all) feel great!
All you have to do is confide in those you wish to partake with in this venture.
The worst thing that can happen is that they say NO and those fems will forever tease you with their bare feer or something.
The best case senario is they say YES and , well, the rest will be history and ONE HELL of an experience!😉


TTD

 

[THEO]

Well, yes, you are absolutely right. There will be, however, a certain degree of privacy needed, in pursuing one's fantasy. But you are absolutely right in saying that I should not worry about the general public's opinion.

Now, the next question is: How do you go about finding the right women to fulfill these fantasies? Many of the women I've had relationships with in the past, had absolutely no interest in the tickling scene. Try finding one around here based on that preference, and they will think you're a little sick. These forums certainly provide the opportunity to correspond with others who share tickling interests. Yet, there's still problems in trying to pursue one's fantasy this way too.

You have definitely inspired me, and given me great help in understanding my situation. It's so nice to be able to hear your views from experience! Keep em coming.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Theo

Well bro, you said that many of the women you had relationships with in the past showed NO interest whatsoever in tickling....well through the process of elimination, you can safely conclude that they are not the ones to approach about your quest.

Find those who show any interest at all. At least find ONE. If she has an interest, she MAY have a friend or three.

While you are hanging out with a female friend or two, try a bit of instigation.
Playfully tickle her/them. Thus making them/her want to get you back.
There are so many subtle hints you can drop from time to time without coming right out with it, or you can just take the direct approach.

There is nothing to be embarassed about.


TTD

 

[THEO]

This is great, being able to bounce ideas and questions about fantasy with those of you who are more experienced. here's a brief overview of exactly what my fantasy entails. It's not so wild, or off the wall, but still very difficult to fulfill.

TICKLING FANTASY

Actually, my tickling fantasy is quite simple, based on a scenario where tickling is used as an "interrogation" method against me, and the female is trying to get me to "talk". I imagine myself as a prisoner, tied helplessly spread eagled across a bed naked, and a female arrives to perform the interrogation on me.

There's a thrill in being completely helpless and vulnerable, knowing you're going to be given a merciless tickling. No control, no way to escape, just completely at her mercy.

The ideal way of fulfilling this fantasy, would be not knowing who the female is who's coming to interrogate me. For that matter, not knowing if there might be more than one female arriving to perform the tickle torture interrogation! That would be the ideal set up. However, to do this, one would have to use a trusted go-between, to make all the arrangements.

They say that anticpation is more than half the fun. Well, in this set up, it certainly would be a tense and anxious anticipation, laying there staked out across the bed, not knowing who or how many females will be walking through the door to "interrogate" me! But most of all, the "not knowing" what it's going to be like, having this fantasy finally fulfilled. Not knowing how it will feel to be mercilessly tickled, with no escape. The unknowns will intensify the anticipation, but then the actual tickling torture will be another thing!

So here I am, still behind that fine line that seperates fantasy from reality. Although I've come close to getting up the nerve to follow through on my fantasy, I never quite did (to my loss, especially when I had one opportunity in the past). Which is the lesser of two evils? Having to endure the frustration of not fulfilling one's fantasy, or cross that line of no return and risk disappointment (and forever destroying the mind's perception of the fantasy)?
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So, that's it. No big deal. I once had that opportunity to have this fantasy fulfilled, and had a trusted friend who helped me by arranging for it. Everything was to be kept secret from me, so as to keep the suspense. My friend managed to recruit several women, who reportedly were more than eager to particiapte in doing this. My friend had even led the women to believe that I truly would be held against my will, as some friendly payback scheme. Well, it was all arranged, but I chickened out at the last minute (please no lecture...haha). My friend was disappointed, and would not reveal the identity of the women recruited, nor was my identity revealed to the women. To make a long story short, I blew my chance. Now, that I'm older and wiser, I'm ready! But, now I have to start all over again.

 

[P.H. Tickler]

Here's a thought...

Sure, it would be cool to have a go at the feet of my favorite actress (Ashley Judd), but SHE is not integral to my deepest desires.
You need to break down your desire into identifiable parts, and THEN discern if they are attainable... If it's the actual act of tickling someone, it is more attainable than tickling asomeone in particular (like a celeb). Above everything else, this forum seems to be filled with honest, revealing discussion... so I'll draw out my list as an example.
What is is that I most desire?
1. Tickling a woman's feet in nylons.
2. Sucking her toes in nylons.
3. Rubbing her feet (in nylons... lol, I detect a pattern)
4. Kissing her feet in nylons.
5. Making love to her while doing the previous 4 things.

So, I would have to choose wisely... Tickling and rubbing could be carried out harmlessly with a female friend.. but the rest would require a lover, because even a paid submissive 'lee might not go for #5

Enter my wife... ;-) I loved her from day one, BUT I needed to see if she'd go for all of this BEFORE the wedding. Sometimes opportunities don't happen, you must CREATE them. When we would go out to fancy places, she'd have the little party dress and hose on. SO, for the first few times, I would pull her hose down to about her knees and we would make love... but i'd skip the tickling. Then, one time, during our "encounter", I began caressing her feet. I just asked her if she would mind having her feet kissed. "go ahead"! During this time, I think she was getting the idea that I had a thing for her feet, but it wasn't until the next time ,that I tried tickling her. I did ask first. Afterwards, she asked me why (be sure you have an honest answer). I just told her straight... Playing with your feet in nylons turns me on. I asked her if she minded ,and she didn't. In fact, that probably helped our relationship. From that point, she was sure that we'd have an open, honest relationship (unlike the rather bitter time she had with her ex bf).
I was glad that I risked it, because that is such an integral part of what makes me ME, that i would have done us both an injustice by suppressing my feelings. What if we got married and THEN I tried it, and she DIDN'T like it? We are open and honest, and at that time, it WAS important to risk everything to find out. If you have someone you care about like that, you owe it to BOTH of you to check compatibility before the relationship can truly progress in a mutually beneficial direction. She also knows that she can be open with me (BTW, licking her feet and sucking her toes doesn't especially excite her, but having her palms licked and fingers sucked DOES... Ladies, what's with that? (not the first woman who requested it) ).

In conclusion (Finally, I type too much LOL), Although it might have been a cool idea to have at Ms. Judd in the manner described above (If I weren't married, But I love my lady and se will forever be my "sole" 'lee), She wasn't the REAL fantasy...

P.H. Tickler
Founder
http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/ticklefeetinhose

 

[THEO]

Hey, your last message came in as I was posting my latest. Almost like a delayed instant chat.

Yes, you are right about if I could find one woman who's definitely into tickling, she may have a friend or two, or three. As you will no doubt see in my last message, I came very close to this.

It's very hard to identify women who might have an above average interest in tickling. I'm well aware that there are women out there who are aggressive enough to enjoy subjecting someone to a merciless tickling, but they are so hard to identify. Most women, that I've known, would rather be tickled, instead of doing the tickling. Time will tell, and maybe my participation on these forums might connect me with the right parties.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Theo Theo Theo TheoTheo...

There is all the lecture you will need to endure from me bro.

I presume you are unable to contact that same friend and RE arrange that scenario?!

IF so, you are in a quandry that maybe only $$$ and a mistress or fetish escort service could could remedy.

Other than that, you have to seek out that same set up with another friend.
This time or next time, leave yourself NO OUT.
Tell your friend that no matter what you say , not to let you off the hook.

Opportunity does not knock too often my brother.
Next time. Answer the door.😉


TTD

 

[THEO]

And, to be fair......

Let's face it. Most tickling community forums seem to be dominated by males. Yes, there are some females, but they always seem very quiet and rarely participate. But let's be fair. Lots of people (males) frequent these groups with only one motive...sex! That's got to offend many of the female members out here, and no wonder they are very cautious and reserved.

I hope that the women who are here can give some of us the benefit of the doubt, and at least speak their minds about tickling...especially those women who like the idea of giving guys a good clean, but merciless tickling.

 

[THEO]

Good advice. I certainly will not back out, should I ever get the opportunity again. I'm hoping that I'll connect with someone out here who will point me in the right direction. Maybe even be that go-between. There are so very few women who particiapte in these forums, but I can understand why. Most of these male dominated forums have motives of sex only. So, I can certainly understand why women would be hesitant about getting involved, even in a discussion..even the aggressively tickling capable!

 

[apologetick]

Can tickling fantasies be fullfilled...?

I have had the opportunity to have several of my tickling fantasies explored and fulfilled with my sexual and tickling partner. Initially the intensity and level of arousal amazed me and made me want more. I had numerous reenactments over the past 7 years with same partner. I am fortunate to trust him completely and have never had concerns about my secret getting out. One of the things that keeps me with him is the fact that I know I would never trust anyone again with my secret or the open-ness and vulnerability I allow myself with him. It evolved with us, slowly and became deeper and more profound over many years. To move on to another relationship sans tickling is a difficult thing for me to do. So yes, I am fortunate to have had the wild ticking over and over to have had "enough" plus, but now to move on from here with another would mean closing the door on tickling forever. Would keeping it a fantasy have been better? Perhaps....

 

[THEO]

Thanks for your input and perspective, Apologetick! You are fortunate to have a partner who you can share your tickling fantasy with, as well as keep secret with. I'm not sure why you would think you'd have to keep your fantasy secret from another relationasip, should that ever happen (let's hope not), but I respect your statement.

 

[dvnc]

Can they? Heck, yeah. I'm havin' t'invent new ones, 'cause I've done all the ones I dreamt up as a boy. Lucky for me I didn't have non-consentual or illegal fantasies.

A number of my favorite adult fantasies awaited the gatherings out here to come to life. All of those HAVE come to life, though. Several things have happened that I'm sure I'd've dreamt up, had they not presented themselves so quickly.

It's a big advantage in meeting and playing with folks into this - you have a greater chance for doin' what you always wanted t'do.

dvnc

 

[THEO]

Well, ok then! You all have convinced me that I should go for it, and I will. Any final words of wisdom, encouragement, or warning?

 

[TickledToDeath]

Just don't back out this time bro.

One of the worst things in life is to live thinking, "what if..." and in regret.

Good luck!


TTD

 

[THEO]

How very true! I just hope that there are no "regrets" in fulfilling it either! Wish me luck! Thanks!

 

[THEO]

Ok now. If I'm going to try and fulfill this fantasy, let me bounce some questions off the minds of you out there who seem to have all the answers so far.

In your opinion, would I be better to recruit a woman (or women) who shares enthusiasm for tickling (especially being aggressive), or should I focus on finding a woman who I know better (although not enthuastic about tickling the way people here are) so as to be more familiar to me (and for me)?

 

[THEO]

SO WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT TO HAPPEN TO ME?

That's the big question. Sure, it's easy to imagine what the onset of this fantasy fulfillment might be. But what all exactly will transpire, when it really happens?

That is, in general, how long would an aggressive female subject a guy to a merciless tickling/interrogation? As thrilling as this fantasy is to imagine and anticipate, the realities of these factors elude me. Is it a matter where the more I react to the female's tickling attacks, the more she enjoys doing it and therefore intensifys her merciless tickling? Also, I would assume that a female can resist the temptations of sexual arousement in performing such merciless ticklings, longer than we males could. So if that means she could extend her attacks to unknown limits of endurance and periods of time, then how long would that be? Is there a general answer?

Being staked out spread eagle across a bed, at the mercy of a female who's going to give me an unbearbale tickling attack, how long could it be. Giving the possible break downs of repeated sessions after rest breaks and all, what could I expect (or fear)? Half hour? An hour? Two hours? Longer? I guess the only answers would come from those of you out there who have had such fantasies fulfilled.