chemical castration

[MrPeanut]

Is there anyone here who knows what kind of substance/medication is used for this? Because after 36 years of virginity and frustration, I'd like to get on with my life without these sexual urges.

 

[red indian]

I listen to Celine Dion, that usually does the trick mate.

 

[Bugman]

Here's a starting point for you.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chemical_castration

 

[desdemona]

Well, it's popular in veterinary medicine.... but it hasn't caught on as much as surgery. Not sure about human males.

 

[rdhd]

hell...tell them it's Viagra.....

 

[Myriads]

Is there anyone here who knows what kind of substance/medication is used for this? Because after 36 years of virginity and frustration, I'd like to get on with my life without these sexual urges.

I have to ask. What is it that you are looking for exactly? If it's sex, then a few hundred dollars will get you a nights worth of a top end escort that will solve the virginity and 'urges' issue in one fell swoop. Failing that, your own hand can provide all the sexual release you need for free. The orgasm you get that way is not too different from that which you get by anothers body.

If it's the desire for intimacy you are really longing for, then no chemical is going to put that urge down outside of some severe mood altering sorts, that will do wonders in making you a human zombie and muting all feelings you may have about everything.

Getting laid takes only a few things. Self Confidence, Good self hygiene, enough cash for a few nice evenings out (dinner and a show, or other entertainment, which might even cost less, where you get to know your partner a bit) and work on your part to be out there meeting folks. (You can't win if you don't play)

And if you have some mental/emotional condition that is preventing you from going out and meeting folks, then your #1 issue is not sexual frustration, but the greater psychological issue that is hindering normal social interaction. Solve that one and the sex one is self solving.

Your sexuality is part of who you are, and chemical castration is an extreme (and not so effective) method that tends to be reserved for people who have pulled a sexual paraphilia that is contra indicated to a culture's moral and ethical values. It's an elephant gun, and you don't use it to shoot gnats.

Myriads

 

[MrPeanut]

You understand nothing.

 

[Myriads]

You understand nothing.

I probably understand a hell of a lot more then you might think.

I've read your full posting history. And it's not unlike dozens of others I've read in the 13 years I've run this place. And I wager you are not very unlike those folks also. Oh, true there will always be some differences between you and they, but from a pure psychological and sociological one you are probably in the mean group.

You are depressed, and feel trapped. You feel that most of the cards you have been dealt by life have been crappy ones and have been beyond your ability to control. You feel you lack the Will to make changes that could alter your overall life structure because in the past you've met with failure, and the idea of expending energy to fail again is a strong contra-stroke to your motivation.

So you've come here to vent that frustration, to others who share a paraphilia that you do, perhaps because you'd feel we'd understand, or that some of us might be in the same boat and have advice to offer. And being an open forum people did reply to you with suggestions, ideas and sympathy.

But none of those things were what you wanted. You wanted affirmation of your state. How bad it is, and our approval of your choice to give up. And no one here gave it.

Why? Because your problem is not that you have a tickling paraphilia. It's because you have other issues, which I am sure you never asked for, but were dealt by life. And THOSE issues are the ones that are mostly responsible for where you are, and why you are not where you want to be. And working on those problems is HARD FUCKING work. And no one wants to do that. It's no fun. It takes a long time. It's tiring. It's easier to just give up, or look for a fast chemical fix that paints a smile on ones mug.

So tell me; what don't I understand?

Myriads

 

[MrPeanut]

Ah, yes. Without the judgemental attitude of your previous post, you indeed give a pretty good analysis of my state of being. I don't know what you want to achieve with this, however. I just wanted to vent. I harbor no illusions of there being a solution. I've had multiple therapists and have been on medication for half my life. It's not working for me. I've given up. Is that a crime?

 

[Myriads]

Ah, yes. Without the judgemental attitude of your previous post, you indeed give a pretty good analysis of my state of being. I don't know what you want to achieve with this, however. I just wanted to vent. I harbor no illusions of there being a solution. I've had multiple therapists and have been on medication for half my life. It's not working for me. I've given up. Is that a crime?

No judgement here. I don't know you well enough to judge. You're just a collection of displayed facts to profile from my viewpoint. And that I do without judgement.

There is no crime in giving up. It's always a valid choice. But if it's a mindfully made choice, it also precludes one the right to bitch about the situation where that choice has led one. Because that place is then a mindfully chosen place to be. Not a destination of circumstance that one might have been washed up in by lives waves.

The issue is that almost everyone here has misunderstood the intent of your posts. You want to vent, fine. But the membership as a whole has seen it as a request for support or aid, and tried to render it, then became confused when you rejected it and them. Things got grumpy on all sides after that.

Look, it hasn't take the best among us to understand that you are hurting. And you've reached a point in your life that you are very unhappy to find yourself at. I believe that I can speak for most of the membership, that we find that regretful. It's a sucky situation.

But I and others were not being condescending when we suggested hiring an escort. Nor spending time out and about building interpersonal skills and meeting folks. Depending on what issues you are struggling with both might be very difficult goals. But they are not unreachable ones. You clearly are intelligent, and communicate in this medium well, and that is the foundation for the next levels of interaction. It is something that can be achieved. But as I said it's damned hard work. But, and perhaps it's my perspective, but hard work is better then laying down and dying second by second for decades. At least it's something to fill the time.

You want to get fucked? Figure out how. Then work toward it. Identify the things that are stopping you and find ways around them.

I've known full blown agoraphobics whom have managed the trick. And that's a pretty steep hurdle to leap. Just because everything you've tried up to now has not worked doesn't mean there is not another path.

And Chemical castration is reserved for sex offenders, and is not something that an ethical doctor would prescribe for a situation like yours. And even if they did, while the drugs can kill the physical wants, they don't do so well with the emotional and psychological aspects, which end up requiring a full pharmacy of other things to stop up those areas. And when you are done, what's left is a zombie that wears your face. Not feeling much of anything about anything. Not a good solution.

Vent away. Tell us why you feel you can't do this. But also know that people WILL make suggestions in the spirit of wanting to help you. It's how this place is.

Myriads

 

[obama666]

Just get married that will put a damper on your sex drive.