Coming out of the closet

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How have the people in your life reacted when you told them about your tickling secret. Or how have they reacted if they found out on their own?

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

Well I just told my friend Rachael the other day... I felt she needed to know would explain a lot...such as why I (used to) tickle her a lot. There was also the question on why Jonathan ( staticshock21) would want to meet her so badly. I told him she has nice feet and is very ticklish. But Rachael didnt know this. So I had to tell her. I couldn't speak it, so I typed it in Microsoft Word and let her read it. She even replied her thoughts in Word. Here read:

Have you noticed how often I tickle you or anyone else? Not THAT much but I do. Or how I act when I see Jason get you? It’s because I like tickling. I always have. But I don’t tell anyone because most people hate it, or think I’m weird, or will not be around me if I’ve mentioned it. I just like it because I love to make people laugh. I love to laugh and I love it when I’m “forced” to.

So the connection with Jonathan is that I met him through a chat based around tickling. He likes it too and We’ve just grown through there. I know I told you he has a foot fetish ( and so do I, but I’m not as bad as he is. I don’t get aroused from seeing or touching feet, but they don’t disgust me) I’ve told him how you have the same viewpoints that I do about feet and he thinks that’s hot. He’s asked me if you were ticklish and where. That time I was on the phone w/ him and I kept tickling you? He wanted to hear you laugh, then after that, it was just me tickling you 😛. So he’s seen a picture of you and thinks you’re very beautiful, and he wants to see your feet. I told him that’s crossing the line and I wouldn’t take a pic of your feet. Lol. But back to square 1; the whole you being his girlfriend thing was us joking because he always asks how you’re doing, and if you’ve been tickled lately and if I was the one doing it. But I told him I’m too shy to even try because I’m afraid you might get pissed because you TRULY hate it. And I would hate that so I try to keep my distance in that area. So I think that’s it. It would make me feel better if you at least asked me ONE question about the whole thing so that I know what’s on your mind.


Your very shy about this whole subject friend,

Lena


Her Response:

There is not too many thing to be said, I understand if it is something that you like to do…as long as you’re not getting wet doing it I am fine with it, but I jus don’t like being tickled because my brother does it all of the time…so it does not seem so weird because it is something that I have grown to accept…but if there is ever anything that you want to tell me feel free to talk because I am almost always here to listen and I am not judgmental, I do not care about peoples strange mishaps because we all have them…but for the record don’t tickle ME…




And there you have it. 🙂

 

[Camel26]

I've only told a couple of friends...and all of them said, "That's cute!" or "That's your big secret?!?!?!" or (if they knew me in high school), "It all makes sense now!"

No one has stopped talking to me...I feel a little awkward around them now...but I'll get over it...

I haven't told more than a few people in my life...they don't need to know!!! Especially my classmates...that would be a poor choice on my part, as we all have to touch eachother so much for class...I just don't think it's a good idea...

I figure, unless a friend of mine is really into the fetish scene, and we're discussing our own tastes openly...well, then there's no reason to discuss it for me. My ler knows...and she loves me anyway...and is VERY indulgent...and that's all I care about!!!! 😀 😉 😛

 

[CheshireCatNY]

I'm such a.....we'll say "quirky" individual....most people I tell aren't really surprised in the least....hell one male friend I told actually got into it himself....

 

[guest5]

i almost told my gf this weekend. i was so close. i need to tell her because i shouldn't have too keep a secret from someone that im so close too. i don't feel the need to tell anyone else because its very personal too me.

bonster27

 

[CellarDweller]

Well, I've never told any of my friends in "real life".

I'm a member of a different forum, that has nothing to do iwth tickling, and I've posted things to other members there like

*sneaks up behind "Member_X", tickles him, and runs off* and now when they want to joke with me, they call me "Mr. Tickle".

Met a guy in Florida, and we're seeing how a long distance thing goes. Told him about the tickle thing, and when I was there, he let me tickle his underarms, sides, and feet. He is a pretty ticklish guy.

 

[MiggieTomGirl]

New Here

Hello, fyi I am new here. I just registered.

I haven't come out with anyone yet. I want to but most of the people I know will think it is weird and I know that for a fact. I hope one day I will be able to meet someone who I am comfortable enough with to tell but for right now I am the only person who knows about my fetish.

 

[conehead180]

Hello, fyi I am new here. I just registered.

I haven't come out with anyone yet. I want to but most of the people I know will think it is weird and I know that for a fact. I hope one day I will be able to meet someone who I am comfortable enough with to tell but for right now I am the only person who knows about my fetish.

First of all, hi there MiggieTomGirl. Welcome to, well, here :happy:. Hope you have fun, which is a very easy thing to do since everyone here's pretty crazy (well, me anyway 😛)

And to be on topic, I also haven't "come out" with anyone yet. Just really haven't seen any need to since I don't really have anyone that close to me right now. And like MiggieTomGirl (or Mig, if I may) I hope that I can someday with that one special girl.

 

[Senshi1]

I told my father one time. He mouthed the words to himself as if to say "wtf?" and then said "I bet you don't find many websites for that type of thing." 😛

 

[DarthGrinn]

Thanks for sharing your letter Iluv2btickled. My post is somewhat influenced by what you typed, so I just want to tell you that I'm being honest and will be expressing my own personal experiences and philosophies... Hope I don't come across as judgmental:
Regarding "coming out the closet": I would only tell my Significant Other, as she's the only one who should care.

How my gf reacted:

I never made a big deal about tickling. It was always something I casually did with my gf. In hindsight, I realized that up until we talked about it; she just took it in a playful way. Not sexual at all.

We did talk about it once, and I expressed my interest in going all out (bondage, play toys, the whole 9 yards); in other words, now I'm letting her know it’s a sexual thing for me.

I told her that I love her laugh etc etc, and at first she didn't get it. She just never realized that tickling could be sexual, and thought it was silly at first. So we actually had many discussions, and eventually she grew to understand what the big deal was. We also had similar discussions about spanking, and now I know what the big deal is too. Different strokes for different folks indeed eh? 😉

She still pokes fun at my "silly tickling fetish" lol but, to me, that’s part of the fun so I'm cool with it.

Now to show you another side: How a tickler (myself) reacts to people "coming out" so to speak:

A personal experience:

I'm a young adult (just to put things in perspective).

I remember about a year ago, I had a colleague at work (male) that actually used to tickle me. I would be sitting at my computer terminal, focused on my work, and he would sorta just sneak tickles. Naturally, being focused at work (and being a straight male), I never paid any attention nor reacted (and I'm extremely ticklish)… To me he was just a goofy colleague who liked to antagonize me.

Then one day, he comes up to me and tickles me and asks me why I don't laugh. I told him in a friendly/witty tone: "because we are both men". He never tickled me again.

I used to get playful tickles from girls too (there must be a lot of ticklers where I'm at lol)... and I'm equally uncomfortable about that. Now bare in mind that I'm into tickling; its something intimate I share with my gf... but that is exactly why I'm squeamish about being tickled by people who I don't have intimate relationships with (best friends included).

So perhaps the reaction of "fear" that we perceive from others is the same thing?

 

[TKLVR181]

Welcome Miggie!! I'm pretty sure you'll find a lot of friends here, I know I did!

As for "coming out" I haven't felt the need to---I got you guys for that!😛 *huggles everyone*

 

[durandalai1]

Thanks for sharing your letter Iluv2btickled. My post is somewhat influenced by what you typed, so I just want to tell you that I'm being honest and will be expressing my own personal experiences and philosophies... Hope I don't come across as judgmental:
Regarding "coming out the closet": I would only tell my Significant Other, as she's the only one who should care.

How my gf reacted:

I never made a big deal about tickling. It was always something I casually did with my gf. In hindsight, I realized that up until we talked about it; she just took it in a playful way. Not sexual at all.

We did talk about it once, and I expressed my interest in going all out (bondage, play toys, the whole 9 yards); in other words, now I'm letting her know it’s a sexual thing for me.

I told her that I love her laugh etc etc, and at first she didn't get it. She just never realized that tickling could be sexual, and thought it was silly at first. So we actually had many discussions, and eventually she grew to understand what the big deal was. We also had similar discussions about spanking, and now I know what the big deal is too. Different strokes for different folks indeed eh? 😉

She still pokes fun at my "silly tickling fetish" lol but, to me, that’s part of the fun so I'm cool with it.

Now to show you another side: How a tickler (myself) reacts to people "coming out" so to speak:

A personal experience:

I'm a young adult (just to put things in perspective).

I remember about a year ago, I had a colleague at work (male) that actually used to tickle me. I would be sitting at my computer terminal, focused on my work, and he would sorta just sneak tickles. Naturally, being focused at work (and being a straight male), I never paid any attention nor reacted (and I'm extremely ticklish)… To me he was just a goofy colleague who liked to antagonize me.

Then one day, he comes up to me and tickles me and asks me why I don't laugh. I told him in a friendly/witty tone: "because we are both men". He never tickled me again.

I used to get playful tickles from girls too (there must be a lot of ticklers where I'm at lol)... and I'm equally uncomfortable about that. Now bare in mind that I'm into tickling; its something intimate I share with my gf... but that is exactly why I'm squeamish about being tickled by people who I don't have intimate relationships with (best friends included).

So perhaps the reaction of "fear" that we perceive from others is the same thing?

I am the exact same way, I can't really get into it with other people because it's mostly sexual for me, just how my body reacts to it.

Sure I'll tickle someone who I may or may not be with, but unfortunately in a hypocritical sense if someone else tickles me that i am not with in a relationship, or not interested in, I can't get into it because I either won't be turned on or won't want to be.

-Tycho

 

[yami]

Meh, I told my gf I had a tickle fetish, she responds by saying she has a furre fetish... yep. Good stuff!

I was actually more surprised than she was.

 

[DarthGrinn]

Meh, I told my gf I had a tickle fetish, she responds by saying she has a furre fetish... yep. Good stuff!

I was actually more surprised than she was.

LMAO

indeed... good stuff 🙂 It's fun when our boldness encourages our S.O.'s to be brave about his/her dark lil secrets... mutual support is a beautiful thing.

 

[UberTicklish1]

My family doesn't know and never will.

Other people I've told said I'm a sick freak. They actually understand blood/urine/feces play more and are way more accepting. Why do they think I'm sick? Cause I'm into women's feet. And they think feet are gross. *sighs* They now make fun of me.

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

what is furre?

 

[BigNorm]

Well, I've never told any of my friends in "real life".

I'm a member of a different forum, that has nothing to do iwth tickling, and I've posted things to other members there like

*sneaks up behind "Member_X", tickles him, and runs off* and now when they want to joke with me, they call me "Mr. Tickle".

Met a guy in Florida, and we're seeing how a long distance thing goes. Told him about the tickle thing, and when I was there, he let me tickle his underarms, sides, and feet. He is a pretty ticklish guy.

congratulations, cell, he sure sounds like a winner.

 

[MistressValerie1]

what is furre?

Most likely: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Furries

 

[conehead180]

See, the thing is that the problem isn't with us, it's with society. Now days our society just has a huge stick up the ass, constantly taking anything that (to it) seems even slightly perverted (aka things that really are not even perverted at all) and turning them into more than they are. I mean, like in our case, it's tickling. Hello, it's tickling. Stop trying to make it into some horribly freakish and perverted act, because it's not (or at least, it doesn't have to be, though for that matter pretty much anything can be made so now days).

Anyway, enough of my little rant, just thought I'd get that off my chest.

 

[Senshi1]

Rant or not, you've got a point. *nods grimly*

 

[alchemy1]

Things about me are on a "need to know" basis. If I feel like you need to know, I'll tell you. Otherwise, you're screwed. Now, the people that I've told about my tickle fetish have all had the same reaction...hell, they've all practically said the same thing:

"Really? That's kinda cute actually....you um (slightly nervous) have to promise that you wont tickle me to death though."

 

[Zarrow]

I havent told any of my real friends before. Never felt a need too. I can control my Tickling fetish rather easily, Just controlling it WHEN im tickling is the hard part.XD

I did tell a few people and the most I heard was either "WTF?!" or "Oh..cool."

 

[blogger2k5]

Im glad someone started a topic about this,

for me it is hard to accept my fetish, i have often researched to see if there are ways of getting rid of it once and for all, but there isnt so ive kind started acceptin it, i havent told anybody though, well i actually told a guy i thought was a real frien d but he just took the piss and was going to tell everyone else i knew about it so i told him i was only kidding and now he has forgotten the whole thing,

i dont think i can tell people, because alot of people i know arent very understanding about this sort of thing, i cant trust them to keep it quiet, my brotherhad also went on my computer without asking not so long ago, i thought i had logged off, but obviously not, i keep all my tickling clips and pics in hiddden folders which i had forgotten to hide nd he came across said folders and was viewing some of the material i had, he asked me about it but i lied and said that i was downloading it for a friend who is too shy too download it himself.