Considering introducing my foot fetish to my relationship.

[Dark56756301]

Now bare with me even though I probably sound like an idiot, because this is my first time attempting to bring it up in a relationship. During my previous two the girls told me on numerous occasions that they hated feet and would never let me touch them. Bad luck I guess.

There's a few reasons that I'm considering being open about things with this girl:

She was on my computer a few days ago and I'm pretty sure she saw something like "Foot Model Content" linking to The Mousepad. A foot fetish forum for those of you who don't know. I'm not sure if she did see it or not, but it was right on the dropdown menu on my address bar and that's what she'd been using to get to sites that were already on there.

Even before this, though, she rubbed my member with her foot once or twice just out of the blue. Last time we hung out she was on my computer and since I don't have two chairs I was on the floor in front of her. (Around the same time I think she probably saw that link) and she was like dangling her foot in front of my face. I played it cool and asked if she wanted a massage and I ended up massaging them both for a while, while she would either rub the other foot on my chest or rest it on my "lap"...

When I stood up she placed her foot on it again and jokingly said something along the lines of "I should give you a footjob lol" in a somewhat sexy voice.



Still, I'm not sure how she's going to react to me straight up saying that this is what I'm into. I don't know whether I should say it to her in person or over AIM/text messages. (Since the relationship began we usually say things we're less comfortable about saying in person over text. This is obviously one of those things for me.)

I don't want to say it anywhere that she'd be able to use as future evidence to prove to someone that I did say I have a foot fetish, in case she tries to use it against me or something. You never know what might happen. Then again it's easy enough to fake stuff over AIM or texts if you really wanted to.

In the end I don't know. A lot of times we're in situations where we can do everything but and although she likes making me feel good I'm sure she'd like it if I came quicker so I could get started on her. This would surely accomplish just that.

 

[Duke Diablo]

M8, the only advice I can give here is to talk to her in person. Such important issues really need that personal approach no messenger or text message can give. Just my opinion. Be honest with her, don't rush it, and have a good time. If she is such a tease about her feet, then she certainly must like it. She's prolly as embarrassed about this as you are.

Then again, that's just my opinion. Good luck, m8.

 

[Dark56756301]

Thanks for the quick response. I've been thinking it over and there was something I forgot to mention.

Ever since I met her like a year ago she's always had a thing for keeping her feet really clean and in good condition. It almost seemed as if she was a bit obsessed at times. I don't know if that's good or bad for the situation but it's definitely good for me because I like them in good shape lol.

 

[Budweiserbob!]

Hmmm... kind of a tricky dilemma you got there. Sorta like when you try an work out if someone "likes you, likes you".

From the sounds of it she seems like the kinda girl who's open to these types of fetishes, and chances are she's noticed your foot fetish tendencies (The websites, the gawking / staring at feet, foot massages etc.) so it may not be as big a surprise as you think.

Well, let's get the more obvious stuff out of the way.

I don't know whether I should say it to her in person or over AIM/text messages.

My opinion is to always do it in person, no matter how awkward it may make you feel. If you do it in person, it shows her that you are willing to keep no secrets from her, that you are willing to fight back your emotions, your feelings, and tell her anything. If she cares about you as deeply as you care about her then she should take this to heart, appreciate what you've done and then give you room to talk instead of freak out.
Text Messaging and IM'ing shows weakness, like you're trying to avoid her which, in a relationship, is something you don't want to express. So take the time to muster up your thoughts and tell her in person. 🙂

I don't want to say it anywhere that she'd be able to use as future evidence to prove to someone that I did say I have a foot fetish, in case she tries to use it against me or something.

There's always the possibility this may happen in any relationship. My wife may do it to me someday (I really hope not though). 😛
But if you two are willing to go the distance with this relationship then you should have no problem telling her personal things like this. In fact, she may be willing to tell you personal secrets about her afterwards. 😀

But in the end, things like this will have to come out in the open eventually. That's why you need to find a time where you feel most comfortable telling her this.

So take the time to think about your relationship, where you want it to go and then think about a time to tell her. 🙂

I hope what I've said has given you some help. Good luck man. ^^

 

[Dark56756301]

You're right Budweiserbob, I shouldn't give off any weakness about this. Although I do like a slight taste of domination I by no means want to give her the impression that this is an open door for her to begin walking all over me. (Literally at times...) So I think being more in control of myself and what I like should give off the impression that she's not going to be able to break me.

 

[shinzaraki]

*rubs hands together in excitement* dude SHES A KEEPER its obvious she knows you have a foot fetish hell shes showing you and shes kool about it telling her you have one is like telling a baby ?you cant talk yet? ITS OBVIOUS since im sure she knows already DONT TELL HER SHOW HER but not on some fiend mess do it....gently and the rest'll play out just go with the flow

 

[CheshireCatNY]

I say what do you have to lose? The simple fact that she uses her feet in such a way at least proves that she's not grossed out by them. So even if she's not necessarily into it herself it at least means that she may be open minded enough to give it a try...

Thats actually what happened with me. I'm the type of person who's very straightforward with everything about myself. I met a girl online who I was completely honest with and told her about my kinks....even though she wasn't into ANY of them, she was still willing to give it a try....even now she's still adjusting but has admitted she's starting to enjoy it......and on a side note I think this may be "the one" 😉

 

[Dark56756301]

I say what do you have to lose? The simple fact that she uses her feet in such a way at least proves that she's not grossed out by them. So even if she's not necessarily into it herself it at least means that she may be open minded enough to give it a try...

Thats actually what happened with me. I'm the type of person who's very straightforward with everything about myself. I met a girl online who I was completely honest with and told her about my kinks....even though she wasn't into ANY of them, she was still willing to give it a try....even now she's still adjusting but has admitted she's starting to enjoy it......and on a side note I think this may be "the one" 😉

That's awesome CC, I'm glad you're having fun with her. Hope it goes well and lasts. 🙂

*rubs hands together in excitement* dude SHES A KEEPER its obvious she knows you have a foot fetish hell shes showing you and shes kool about it telling her you have one is like telling a baby ?you cant talk yet? ITS OBVIOUS since im sure she knows already DONT TELL HER SHOW HER but not on some fiend mess do it....gently and the rest'll play out just go with the flow

Yeah, ever since then it's subtly come up every time we hang out. Next time she puts her foot near my face I'm gonna kiss it. I would have last time but her Mom was in the room lol. Didn't wanna introduce it in that situation.

 

[footkl]

Yeah, I remember admitting my tickling fetish to my now ex. I was really careful about it, and I only did it after about a year of dating, to make sure I knew her really well. Even though we both hate each other now, she doesn't say a word about it to others. If you do tell your girlfriend, make it known that you don't want her to say a word about it to ANYONE. No matter WHAT happens. It does kind of depend on what kind of girl she is too, if she's one who's really vengeful on others if they hurt her or bother her, I'd look out. If not, you should be okay.

 

[GuldenVleugel]

Well, if she's using her feet to seduce you, you might even let her know without saying you're a foot fetishest literally. You can say you like her feet and have fantasies about doing this and that. In my experience, women don't like the word "fetish" that much. They love deeds above words. 🙂

Also, most women will perceive it as an insult if you focus too much on one body part.

Basic knowledge of course, so I wish you good luck.

One thing though: these two other girls who hated feet. Bah! People who hate feet are such a turn off for me. If you don't find them erotic, okay, I understand. But people who hate them get an instant dump from me. Hating feet often is a sign of sexual narrow-mindedness. Feet aren't disgusting unless they're dirty and sex is "dirty" in any form anyway.

 

[Dark56756301]

Yeah, I remember admitting my tickling fetish to my now ex. I was really careful about it, and I only did it after about a year of dating, to make sure I knew her really well. Even though we both hate each other now, she doesn't say a word about it to others. If you do tell your girlfriend, make it known that you don't want her to say a word about it to ANYONE. No matter WHAT happens. It does kind of depend on what kind of girl she is too, if she's one who's really vengeful on others if they hurt her or bother her, I'd look out. If not, you should be okay.

Socially I don't think she has the balls to fuck me over like that. Besides, anyone could lie about something like that just to be mean even if it wasn't true at all. I can just deny it and say she's full of shit and just made that up to try and get revenge.

 

[ILove2Tickle1]

Socially I don't think she has the balls to fuck me over like that.

Of course she doesn't. She's not a he, after all. *rimshot*

Sorry, I just had to do that. 😉

 

[chode]

Dude, it already sounds like she would be into it. I say go for it.

 

[Dark56756301]

I just wanted to thank everyone here for the support and advice. I did it today and it was so worth it. I've never come so hard before in my life. I'm so happy. 🙂