Could you be with someone who hates tickling?

[GroovyBaby]

This poll in no way affects my relationship. Obviously by asking it you assume I'm with someone who doesn't like tickling, which is the case. Just wondering how others handle it.

You are with someone for a while, and you love them. You tell them about your fetish. They respect you, but want NO part of tickling, period. What would you do?

 

[melanie2]

Obviously i'm not about to divorce him now, not after thirty years of marriage lol..i chose option four...i'm still happy even though he hates it..i think he hates it because his feet are super ticklish..

 

[maniactickler38]

Hell no! :thumbdown

 

[TickleTheater]

Hmmm, after thinking about it for a bit:

If she was totally 100% not into tickling at all, not even having acceptance of playful tickles, then I don't see it working out. I'd rather be with a non-ticklish love who would accept this part of me because you can still have a loving trusting bond, and hey who knows, maybe they'd rather just tickle you... 😉

 

[Excess]

Wouldn't happen, wouldn't want it to happen, unless of course I didn't have any interest in tickling at all.

 

[tklmaestro]

I'm married to a woman who hates being tickled or tickling me , but she lets me explore my fetish with other women we both know. So option 4 for me, hates it but still happy.

 

[TKLVR181]

You mean be with someone other then Senshi?


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*shudders* Don't even SUGGEST sucha thing! ><;;; 😀

~K

 

[jessieticklish1]

Id have to break up, i think if someone loves you enough to be with you for life they should atleast be fair and explore yours and their fetish/interests even if they cant stand it.

 

[meteor]

I'am in such a marriage, have been for over thirty years, (second marriage on rebound)far from happy but too late to change and it would cost me a fortune.but i'am near to it.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I could work through it as long as he was into at least one of my other major fetishes 😉

 

[kered]

All's fair I guess. If I were to give something up then she should be willing to also give something up.

 

[FT Tklr]

I'm a divorcee and I was with someone that let me tie her up and tickle her. I know I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum here, but there is more to a relationship than just that. And I gaurantee my fetish is as strong as most.

The funny part is, she hit me up on gmail the other day and asked me to tie her up and tickle her again.. After 3yrs of being divorced.. We obviously keep in touch. She said I got her hooked on it and everyone she has met thinks she is a freak... But as far as being soul mates, it just wasnt there.

I'm only 28 by the way

 

[kopfhorer1]

I was with someone once who hated tickling (gettin' it or givin' it). Needless to say, though the other aspects of our relationship were all right, I was not an entirely happy camper.

 

[sabaki]

As long as it isn't a hard limit of theirs, their hating tickling makes me want to tickle them even more, and I'll enjoy it more than if they liked it. (At least, if/when I get secure enough in the relationship to start getting into serious sadism).

Anyway, tickling as a hard limit isn't a deal-breaker. That's what polyamory is for.

 

[sXeTickleDiva]

I would never break up with someone I love, just because they weren't into my fetish/hated it. I'm sorry but to give up love over something like that is stupid. My fetish doesn't define me. Its not life or death, its not like I can't live without it.

And for the people who say "If they really loved you, they should be able to explore your fetish/interest whether they hate it or not." Same can go for you, you should be able to respect their desire to not be tickled, no matter if you like it or not.

 

[*Shadow10*]

she hates being tickled but makes of for it by tickling me into humble submission. I love it.

 

[CellarDweller]

I voted for "I don't know, that would be tough"

Tickling is not all important for me, however, I'm a playful person, and if they were even against playful tickles, we'd be fighting all the time, because I know I would slip up.

 

[NachtKreatur]

Well, let's see... I'm halfway in this situation. He hates to be tickled but he loves to tickle me, which isn't too bad. But, it would be much, much more enjoyable if he would let me. I suppose I shouldn't complain though. I'll count my blessings.

 

[melanie2]

I would never break up with someone I love, just because they weren't into my fetish/hated it. I'm sorry but to give up love over something like that is stupid. My fetish doesn't define me. Its not life or death, its not like I can't live without it.

And for the people who say "If they really loved you, they should be able to explore your fetish/interest whether they hate it or not." Same can go for you, you should be able to respect their desire to not be tickled, no matter if you like it or not.

applauds this post..thank you, i couldn't have said it better..

 

[jk666uk]

no it would not work

 

[Duke Diablo]

No, I don't think I could be in such a relationship. Now, for a time, we'll neglect the fact that I'm not interested in relationships and am avoiding them because I see little to no use in them. We'll just suppose that I am interested in relationships.

Now, in such a case, I would be entering a relationship for enjoyment, not obligation, and I would be looking for us to be equal in this. That means us both being happy.

I would never break up with someone I love, just because they weren't into my fetish/hated it. I'm sorry but to give up love over something like that is stupid. My fetish doesn't define me. Its not life or death, its not like I can't live without it.

And for the people who say "If they really loved you, they should be able to explore your fetish/interest whether they hate it or not." Same can go for you, you should be able to respect their desire to not be tickled, no matter if you like it or not.

Id have to break up, i think if someone loves you enough to be with you for life they should atleast be fair and explore yours and their fetish/interests even if they cant stand it.

Now, in the above quotes, at least one partner is being neglected, at least their sexual desires are. One would have to 'adjust' to the other, either by accepting tickling, or accepting no tickling in a relationship.

To me, sex is important in a relationship. If we're not having sex, best be friends. And no, I'm not willing to sacrifice my own needs in a relationship, because that would make me unequal. And for a girl to have sex with me just to be in relationship, I couldn't accept that either, because she would be unequal then.

The same goes for tickling. If I was forced to take out tickling, I wouldn't be happy with sexual life, and I would be more and more unhappy and frustrated. Even with the most sweetest of girls, if she was the reason I was blocking what I like, I would slowly become annoyed with her and would slowly start hating her. Again, if she was forcing herself into my fetish, she would be unhappy, too, and would start hating it more and more. Either way, one is unhappy, and one must give up their needs for the other. That is not equality and happiness one needs in relationship.

So, call me superficial and whatever you like, but the answer is no, I wouldn't be with a person who hated/couldn't accept my fetish.

 

[gilmourwaters]

simple answer to a simple question...ABSOLUTELY NOT