Solemates:
I have to agree with the original poster. You either don't seem to have read or just didn't understand his question.
Mch5 ALREADY ADMITTED that they had never tickled anybody due to their DISABILITY.
They ADMIT their own lack of experience, and that their opinions are GUESSES.
THAT'S why they said:
"being cautiously optimistic I'd say that 5% of those showed real tickling and reactions...".
It was their PERSONAL EXPERIENCE watching videos that:
"...so far, I've only seen 2-3 times what I really wanted to see (probably not part of the %5)."
And finally, "even if one day I would magically be able to tickle, the 'lee probably won't react the way I wish her to."
The word that they used was:
"PROBABLY"
These are ADMITTEDLY all guesses from somebody who so far in life, has only been able to enjoy sexual fantasies in their imagination or through online videos.
NOT because they're "weird" or arrogant in the way that you're suggesting.
But because they're DISABLED.
In fact, the OP ALREADY accepted that:
"Fantasies are easy. You have full control of the environment, the action and the, reaction.
But the reality is always different. And even I, someone who doesn't actually tickle anyone (due to disability), can easily understand that."
He has stated and clearly DEMONSTRATED an understanding that imagination is not equal to reality.
So again, I agree with the OP that you are projecting a bunch of prejudices ideas that YOU have about him rather than READING HIS ACTUAL QUESTION.
Their question was NOT about determining "legitimate ticklishness".
They were:
"How many times did you get the exact response you were hoping for? I'm willing to bet that at least once! But what if your desired reaction were so extreme, it'd be unrealistic?"
"How do you handle such disappointment in reaction? (not talking about non-ticklish lee)"
And finally, in regards to people's answers of learning from real world experiences to deal with disappointment of expectations, the OP asked:
"But what if such a relationship isn't possible?
What if your fetish world is limited to the virtual only?"
This is again, due to their DISABILITY.
NOBODY here is trying to state what is or isn't real ticklishness.
The OP is simply asking:
1: How do people react to disappointment of expectations?
2: How can THEY THEMSELF deal with disappointment of not seeing the reaction that they want to see in a situation they expected to see a good reaction from.
This is important to them because EVERYTHING that this person believes about ticklishness HAS TO BE made up in their own mind due to an incapability of experiencing it.
And again, their incapability of experiencing it is caused by their DISABILITY.
Basically, when a tickling video with a setup that they THOUGHT/HOPED would result in a certain reaction doesn't even work, they don't know what to expect or hope for anymore because THEIR LOGICAL EXPECTATION IS ALL THEY HAVE TO GO OFF OF.
In their situation where their tickling experiences are limited to fantasy, when something doesn't work the way they expected, they have no idea whether it's because the video went "wrong" or because it's all a fantasy that only works in their own mind.
It probably makes them wonder how to even view their fetish.
It's a tough question for somebody who never thought about being in this situation to answer. And if you don't have an answer, that's understandable.
But Solemates, you are technically saying that he has "weird" ideas for no good reason.
And you were talking about him as if he didn't ALREADY ADMIT that he has no real world experience due to his DISABILITY.
Solemates, you said:
"Imma take a stab and say that such a relationship isn't possible because you have some absolutely weird ideas about how human beings are "supposed" to react."
He was VERY open about his situation and the problems that come from only being able to experience things through fantasy due to his DISABILITY.
"Such a relationship" isn't possible for him due to his DISABILITY.
NOT his ideas.
And finally, you just called his "ideas" "absolutely weird" when he never even stated what his ideas are.
I personally don't think that you read or understood his post, and in my opinion, he explained himself enough that it's NOT his fault if you misunderstood.
But still, accidents happen.
I think that you could apologize for the misunderstanding and move on from this.
