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[Sulaco]

Hey there, I discovered TMF a few days ago and have been reading up on all the posts...very cool! I've loved tickling for as long as I can remember, but I guess I didn't realize there were so many people who have the same interest...anyway, I'm glad there are so many others like me.
Anyhow, I'm M, 30 from NYC, both a ler and a lee (picked up on the terminology quickly, didn't I? 😉 ) Obviously I'm new to the scene....but frankly all this discovery makes me a little nervous. I'm very intrigued by the idea of attending NEST or one of the similar gatherings, but it's all so new...I have no idea what the odds are a single guy can get on the guest list...and I'm afraid that if I go I'll end up feeling like a freak, or a pervert, or otherwise ashamed of myself. (please dont take that the wrong way, I'm talking about me, not you) The issue isn't whether or not I enjoy tickling- I know I do. It's a matter of whether or not I want to share it with other people. I only ever met one other ler in my life and they kinda bugged me out and I ended up regretting the experience...
The flip side of the coin is I don't think it does myself any good to "closet" myself. I believe in consenting adults and if-it-feels-good-do-it and all that, but for OTHER people. Know what I mean?
I guess I'm looking for reassurance, maybe one or more of you has had these feelings/concerns before and you can give me some advice for dealing with them. Anyway, thanks for reading this far, and I'm glad to have discovered TMF.
Take care!
Sulaco

 

[qjakal]

Welcome...

To the TMF aka The Madhouse....lol

As for your other comments about perhaps "one or more of us having those feelings"...I'd bet nearly all of us had or have them regarding our shared fascination. Hang around a bit and you'll be hearing from a few members who specialize in gatherings and can offer you a great deal of information on the subject.

Q

 

[Myriads]

Hello Sulaco,

Welcome! Enjoy the forum, and glad you chose to delurk!

Myriads

 

[amk714]

Hi, Sulaco! Welcome, and do not worry, you are among friends here. 😀

 

[TicklingDuo]

Welcome to the gang, Saluco! Good to have you with us.

I think we've all been where you're at now at one point or another. There's just so much to take in and it may still feel a bit strange. But, you do settle into things and become comfortable. As for NEST (or another gathering) the beauty of them is that you do whatever you're comfortable with. If all you feel like doing is hanging out and visiting, that's cool. You wouldn't be alone in that. One of the original reasons for gatherings was to just be able to know that there are others out there and that we aren't alone. It's a great experience if you decide that you're comfortable enough to give it a shot. If you aren't ready this time around, there's always next time. Be patient with yourself.

Ann

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Hi! I'm new here, too, and have had the same apprehensions that you do. You know what? You go with the flow. I'm gonna go to a gathering, and I'm gonna enjoy myself. Meet a whole new buncha people. Unwind. Relax. The best thing to do is to not let the nervousness and self consciousness overtake you...to let free your sense of humor. It looks, for the most part, that you are among friends!

 

[Limeoutsider]

I lurked for, like, 6 months? hehehehe Welcome to TMF!

 

[Limeoutsider]

I lurked for, like, 6 months? hehehehe Welcome to TMF!

Ok. more like 3, but still seems like a long time!

 

[TickleMantis]

Welcome to the TMF! 😀

Everyone's right, this is why the TMF is so great, even if the people in your regular life don't know/don't understand/whatever about your tickling fetish, most of everyone here does and is friendly to know end. I think I would've been pretty lost without the tmf folks here to answer any and all questions with friendship and compassion, and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

Again, welcome and glad to have you here! 😀

-Scott.



...when you think about we're kind of like the X-men...