Did I do the right thing?

[Biggles of 266]

I need some advice from the more experienced members floating around the board. There's a girl I talk to on yahoo a lot, and we're really good friends and pretty close. I decided last night to tell her about my love of tickling. I'd like some opinions from everyone about whether it's a good idea to tell people, or whether it's better to hide it and never run the risk of scaring them off. Thanks.

 

[FungusMungus1]

dude, in my experience, no one really cares. all my friends know that i like tickling. thats what we call it - "he likes tickling" or "tickling turns him on." nobody even thinks of it as a fetish and even if they did i dont think it would matter. everyone gets off on different things no matter if they say that there is a "norm" for sexuality. everyone's sexuality differs just a little bit. some people like asses more than others and some people like boobs more than others. i think we make our fetish out to be more than it really is. dont be afraid to tell anyone.

ps: i live in philadelphia though so i dont know about like how mormons or people from nebraska would feel about it

pss: completely joking. i love mormons AND nebraskans

 

[dig dug dog]

How did she respond? Did she seem weirded out in any way?

 

[Biggles of 266]

hmmm...

She wasn't weirded out or anything, I was lucky there. I've been blocked by girls on chat just for asking if they're ticklish. Some people totally freak out and shut down when you ask them that, which is pretty stoopid.

She is a bit religious, Roman Catholic I think. I don't want to voice my ignorance of organised religion and be shot down by the christians on the board, but aren't they a bit right of centre? I was afraid in the wake of all the recent disappearances from the TMF that have been fired by religion that she might think it's too against her religion, but she seems ok. She should be coming back online tonight, so we'll talk more about it then. She's too ticklish for me to use 'the T words' as she calls them, so I decided to use 'Eileen' instead of 'tickle'. If all goes to plan, she should be alright with it and have some questions to ask me about my eileening tendencies.

Can anyone reccomend a good site to show her to introduce her to the harmless and fun world of tickling on the net? I was thinking magic touch, anyone got any different ideas?

And fungus, it's too hard to come out with an admission like I love tickling while you're still at high school (but still over 18 if any mods are reading...), hanging out with friends and trying to get a girlfriend. It would make my school and social life more complicated and difficult than it already is, I'm afraid. Thanks for the advice anyway.

 

[dig dug dog]

What does that mean she's "too ticklish" to use the words? Is that what she literally told you? Or is that a metaphor about being sensitive to the topic?

At any rate, in my opinion, I wouldn't show her a tickling website yet. Could be too intense. I would start perhaps by e-mailing her a fairly mild tickling story or a true incident that you are comfortable with and getting her reactions to the incident. Go slow and don't let this topic dominate.

Good luck.

 

[Biggles of 266]

ah, damn...

well, it's an hour after she told me she'd be online and no sign of her. I guess I didn't do the right thing after all. She was supposed to be on at 11 sunday morning her time, it's 12 her time now. I'm going to wait as long as I can for an email or message from her, but I'm afraid the person who understood me the most (well, I thought she did anyway!) has freaked out and ditched me. Thanks for all the advice anyway guys.

Biggles

 

[MistressMia]

Biggles,

Hopefully she's come around by now. If not, then look towards a better day.

BTW, yes, the mods read EVERYTHING (we just don't always post). 😛

Be well.

 

[babinsky]

In my limited experience I've always used test questions or tried to ease the subject to tickling. On the web people are quick to "disappear" if they suspect, pardon the expression, nut cases.
That seems to be part of the allure of the inter-net. I might make a statement like "well, I'm a tickle freak from way back", and then see
where it leads.

 

[TheRhythmDoctor]

Re: hmmm...

She's too ticklish for me to use 'the T words' as she calls them, so I decided to use 'Eileen' instead of 'tickle'. If all goes to plan, she should be alright with it and have some questions to ask me about my eileening tendencies.

Now I suddenly have that song "Come On Eileen" stuck in my head after reading this post. LOL


The Rhythm Doctor

 

[Biggles of 266]

no need to panic...

ah, well, I kinda feel like an idiot. She *was* online at the right time, and was trying to talk to me. At that time I was sitting next to the computer reading a book and I could have sworn I heard the noise yahoo messenger makes when a new message comes in. However, it displayed her as offline and no messages were appearing on my screen! Yahoo will be getting a very politely worded email from me asking to explain that problem.
Anyway, back to my point. She gave up, got some lunch and came back an hour later (when I was feeling very sorry for myself and posting depressed messages on the tmf). This time my computer recognised her and we talked for hours. Damn my nerdbox! She was very cool with the tickling thing, but she said she had no idea anyone could enjoy it sexually. She asked a couple of questions about it, and then we had to change the subject cause talking about tickling makes her laugh out loud (that's why I've gotta use code words) and she gets weird looks from the other people in the computer lab. I've used that to my advantage before, making her scream using only the power of my typing and her over-active imagination!
To all that offered advice, thanks a lot. I think some people were a bit confused as to what I really meant. I don't want to get her into tickling cause that's never going to happen. I just wanted to tell her how I feel about it so I can be honest with a good friend. Well, thanks anyway. Seeya

Biggles

 

[FungusMungus1]

im glad it worked out but i wanted to say a few things anyway. im in highschool too (im 18 - just made it) and no one really cares. and what i really wanted to say was about the eileen thing. isn't there a movement to come up with a code jeff could put on shirts that means tickling? we could all wear shirts that say "eileen." or would that be too noticeably strange?