Do we get more blunt as we get older?

[Ticklerguy4u]

As I get older I notice I have become more and more outspoken about my opinions and desires. It seems at one time I was afraid to ask a girl to dance whereas now I'm like.."Hey, let's dance."

 

[Tamia78]

As I get older I notice I have become more and more outspoken about my opinions and desires. It seems at one time I was afraid to ask a girl to dance whereas now I'm like.."Hey, let's dance."

But.....but.........you told me you CAN'T dance!!!!


As I get older I just find that I don't really give a f*ck what other people think. I do my own thing, if someone doesn't like it............They know what they can go do.......

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

But.....but.........you told me you CAN'T dance!!!!

Shhh..I can't, its just a metaphore.

 

[aun_existe_amor]

I can teach you to dance 😀

I think we all get more outspoken as we get older. My gran is 99 and has to be the most embarrassing person on earth but also the funniest. I sometimes take her out in her wheelchair and whatever enters her head comes out of her mouth. If she doesn't like someone she tells them straight to their face. If she doesn't like what someone is wearing or their accent she tells them (even complete strangers). She doesn't like Americans or Germans and I'm marrying an American/German man. I was absolutely dreading taking him to meet my gran. I warned him about what she's like. Luckily for me the worst thing she called him was Cowboy Joe, which he finds hilarious so that's not too bad.

 

[PainTrain]

I think the older we get, the more we realise what little time we have left. Why waste time with reservations?

 

[just4fun618]

As I get older I notice I have become more and more outspoken about my opinions and desires. It seems at one time I was afraid to ask a girl to dance whereas now I'm like.."Hey, let's dance."

it's because you getting closer to death that you find out that you really haven't lived yet. When we was younger we believe that we had all the time in the world. As we get to our 40's and beyond we see our time slipping away and don't have time for bS.

well that how i think.

 

[lk70]

I think we start to worry less about what others think and also have more confidence in ourselves. And of course, realize what BS it all is anyway.

 

[Coffee]

It seems to me anyway that the older i get the better i become at giving political answers (answers that wont hurt peoples feelings etc) but as i get older i prefer to be more direct, blunt and straight forward. I just dont have time for the BS

 

[RobAce]

For me its a matter of growing up. When I was young I was taught, respect your elder, give respect...all that jazz. When I became an "elder" LOL, although Im only 34 I feel that I now have the right to speak to any adult on a one-on-one level and not have to "dumb"things down for them, and I can speak my mind. With expierence comes wisdom...and Ive learned sometimes its best to come out and say it, dont hold back.

Rob

 

[TicklishLurker]

Well, my bluntness is more along the lines of being mean.

In my case, I don't think age has anything to do with it. I've always been a little opinionated - but the longer I remain single, with no one to hang out with or anything - the bitterer I get. And the more bitter I am, the more blunt I get. The more I feel that the whole world is stupid and letting morons like Dr. Phil run their lives.

I think if I got asked out once in awhile, if people would prove that they're not shallow and are willing to be seen in public with a fat chick, I wouldn't be so bitter, therefore I wouldn't be so blunt/mean.

I might be wrong. But that's what I think.

 

[DannyMc]

As I get older , I still if I can be kind with people and less judgemental towards them . I try to find a way to get across what I need them to hear . I work very hard not to let the little things bug me and to not hold any grudges if at all humanly possible . I also try not to be bitter for things that have passed me by . I feel the older I get the more happy I become , meaning I keep looking at the bright side of things and hold on tight to them . It'seems in life the only real chance at a happy survival is to move ahead with the good things and let go of the bad .

 

[nowayjose]

The older I get, the more cynical I become. I think it's called "experience".

 

[qjakal]

Yes.

 

[steph]

Lol!

Yep, pretty much what QJ said.
Now, if you're someone whose feelings I care about, I do try to be a little more sensitive about my comments, I'm proud of that, I think it's a nice quality in a person.

On the other side, if I don't like you~I'll say whatever the hell comes to mind and if it bothers you, well then, you know...it starts with the letter "f"... 😛

Yes.

 

[kered]

Yeah, I'm more blunt. So what?!!

 

[Illtcklu]

To put it bluntly NO!!!!





BTW I just celebrated my 70th Birthday!!!!

 

[MrMacphisto]

The older I get, the more cynical I become. I think it's called "experience".

I'm on the same page, man. Bluntness often follows....

 

[Strider]

Possibly, my real personality didn't start to emerge until I was around 17 or 18.

 

[Vae]

I'm not old at all, but I've noticed that I am far more confident than I was five years ago. Also I have a far less tolerance for bullshit. In general, I've always been very blunt and opinionated. Why waste time with beating around the bush when you can just be blunt and get it over with? The older I get, this becomes more and more true.

 

[Sultrybrunette]

When I was growing up we were taught not to have opinions as children. For me, as I got older, it was kind of a rebellion. I am with everyone else though. As you get older you get tired of the game playing. Just say what you mean. I try and temper it but sometimes I dont feel the need. At least this way you know where you stand with me.

 

[Bugman]

The older i get,the less willing i am to suffer the fool's i must deal with.Getting to be an old codger i guess,oh well.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

thanks for all the great responses..

I think we are all on the money here. As we get older we realize that life isn't fair and always going to go the way we want it to unless we speak up. Whereas when we were younger we figured that there may always be another similiar outcome to a situation along the way...

or maybe life has beaten us older people up so much that we pick and choose our battles instead of letting the wind take where it takes us.

 

[Dussicar]

I'm not old at all, but I've noticed that I am far more confident than I was five years ago. Also I have a far less tolerance for bullshit. In general, I've always been very blunt and opinionated. Why waste time with beating around the bush when you can just be blunt and get it over with? The older I get, this becomes more and more true.

PERFECTLY PUT. You hit the nail right on the head as it apllies to me as well.

I am thirty years old and bitter as a motherfuck. 😀

I really don't care about the over-worn excuse of youth or inexperience to justify stupidity. I see an avoidable problem and I feel compelled to point it out.

Sure it can make me come off as an asshole of the biggest proportions on many occasion. But I have no patience for the time-honored and very flippant response: "eh. every generation thinks things are going to hell right now. They keep talking about the good old days. Well, guess what, there never were any good old days."

As time progresses we see society getting more and more decadent. No, I am not advocating a puritanical lifestyle. I just want to see some people take some fucking responsibility for their own actions.

The aformentioned quote pisses me off because there is absolutely no point to it. It dosen't accomplish anything. It gets nothing done. Just mindless babbling of the complacent.

I don't care if people see me as some freakjob revolutionary. I have made many mistakes in the past and have done many terrible things. I can't stand the thought of seeing anyone else turn out like me. Not if I can help it. Regardless of what I rant about, know that it all comes from experience of( in many cases) the worst kind.

Some might be inclined to call me a hypocrite. Bear in mind that a hypocrite says one thing and does another simultaneously in the present. I am reaching from the past...Some mistakes should not be allowed to be made.

PS: Hey VAE. Glad to see another Firefly fan.

 

[kis123]

I personally think kindness gets beaten out of people over time and they just don't try anymore. They simply are too tired to care so they don't. I try to take the time to plan my words before I say them and avoid knee-jerk reactions when I can. Words can hurt for life and sometimes the truth is going to hurt. But a person can temper their truth with compassion and not rip another person's heart out just because they have a differing opinion or that they're angry.

I went through 10 years of hell in my marriage just because he would say anything to hurt me in order to "win" the arguement. Then that same horrid mouth would tell me he loves me and try to kiss me. It would make me sick!

Nothing wrong with being honest. Nothing wrong with not beating around the bush. Nothing wrong with not being PC. But there is something wrong with being self-centered and careless with one's words.

Do you know how many people are on death row right now because they bought into the words of others? "You're no good!" "You're just like (insert rotten family member here)", "You're never going to amount to anything!" These are all untrue, hateful, spiteful words used to hurt simply because someone got mad or drunk. Words can make your soul bleed if used improperly-it could take a lifetime to break word curses others flippantly and carelessly place on others.

It would be a refreshing change if people would take a few seconds' break before they speak.

 

[Dussicar]

I personally think kindness gets beaten out of people over time and they just don't try anymore. They simply are too tired to care so they don't. I try to take the time to plan my words before I say them and avoid knee-jerk reactions when I can. Words can hurt for life and sometimes the truth is going to hurt. But a person can temper their truth with compassion and not rip another person's heart out just because they have a differing opinion or that they're angry.

I went through 10 years of hell in my marriage just because he would say anything to hurt me in order to "win" the arguement. Then that same horrid mouth would tell me he loves me and try to kiss me. It would make me sick!

Nothing wrong with being honest. Nothing wrong with not beating around the bush. Nothing wrong with not being PC. But there is something wrong with being self-centered and careless with one's words.

Do you know how many people are on death row right now because they bought into the words of others? "You're no good!" "You're just like (insert rotten family member here)", "You're never going to amount to anything!" These are all untrue, hateful, spiteful words used to hurt simply because someone got mad or drunk. Words can make your soul bleed if used improperly-it could take a lifetime to break word curses others flippantly and carelessly place on others.

It would be a refreshing change if people would take a few seconds' break before they speak.

That's why I respect you so much KIS. I see wisdom from many things you say. When posting, the experience exudes off of you. As per your own claims that you come off abraisive in some cases, all I can say is that the battle-scarred will express themselves in many ways. You use it like a scalpel. It works even if others might not see it.