Do you believe exes can be friends?

[Ticklerguy4u]

When we break up with someone or they break up with us. There is always the sentence "we can still be friends." I think its possible if two people are adult about it. My ex and I are good friends, we would never get back together but we still like hanging out and we still care about eachother like good friends would however some think we are dating or more. Its not true.

So the question is...Do we really think its possible or do we just accept it when the relationship is over?

 

[jhop220]

It doesn't really work. Very rare that it would happen...that whole "we can be friends" schtick is bullshit.

 

[voided9]

Only if they weren't "in love". The only exes I'm friends with are guys that I dated for less than 6 months, never really considered ourselves serious or "in love". But I had 3 very serious relationships that were way longer, and I don't want anything to do with those people. It's better that way - I'm happily married.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

It doesn't really work. Very rare that it would happen...that whole "we can be friends" schtick is bullshit.

why date someone then if you really are only with them because they are with you? Why say I care about you as long as you are only "with" me. That never made sense to me. A bit egocentric don't you think?

 

[jhop220]

why date someone then if you really are only with them because they are with you? Why say I care about you as long as you are only "with" me. That never made sense to me. A bit egocentric don't you think?

Sure is, but once you cross over into romance....it is hard to go back. Sure if you have short relationships like Brandy pointed out...you can have a friendship. However, if you had been with someone for years...and then break up...the friendship thing is not going to be easy because those relationship don't end on good terms 9 times out of 10.

I go through relationships differently than most people. I've learned the hard way that when you jump into something...you are building a house of cards and pretending its made of brick and mortar. There is no foundation to support it and any little problem....down that house goes.

Relationships are built on trust and respect. When you do that the right way....you usually end up with a fantastic long lasting partnership with someone. I've yet to find that person...maybe I will...maybe I won't...time will only tell.

I see people fall into the "puppy love" and pretend its real. It isn't...they end up breaking up and never seeing one another again.

Ego-centrism is usually how average relationships start. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people jump into things without even knowing much about who their significant other happens to be...The fall in Lust and it fools them.

 

[chicago]

I think some people can do it. It's always been too hard for me.

 

[Dandy Jack]

No I do not!

Just kidding depends on the facts and the people involved...

Dandy Jack!

 

[milagros317]

Yes, I have remained friends with one of my ex-girlfriends for many years.

 

[Gothika]

Im good friends with mine

 

[Mane'o]

One of those "it depends" questions. No single yes or no answer straight up will suffice. Works for some and not for others. And people tend to answer based on personal experience or observation. Not always the best predictor of what the general population will do.

 

[Jagermeistered]

It doesn't really work. Very rare that it would happen...that whole "we can be friends" schtick is bullshit.

Because they are bed buddies. 😛

 

[Comfort Eagle]

My ex of a few years back is one of my closest friends, we get along better now than we ever did.

 

[kis123]

It depends on the circumstances, IMO.

I've had a couple good friends that were former lovers, and others I had to let them go and keep it moving. But usually by the time the breakup occurs, I'm pretty much done.

 

[TiickleNiicole]

I'm friends with 2 of my exes but we weren't in love or anything although the one relationship lasted a little over a year.

 

[Sandrock74]

Just speaking from my own life experiences, the answer is no.

I know this will sound sexist, but the only time I even hear from female friends is when they need something.

 

[chicago]

Just speaking from my own life experiences, the answer is no.

I know this will sound sexist, but the only time I even hear from female friends is when they need something.

You could also say guys only try to befriend a female when they want her.

 

[C.A.B.]

You could also say guys only try to befriend a female when they want her.

GASP!

 

[ChosenofMystra]

I've tried in the past and find it just too painful to try and pretend everything is all hunky dory between us....when really it was awkward and stilted at best. That constant thought of "what might have been" and "can we truly salvage any relationship, be it romantic or platonic?" from the wreckage of a breakup is just too much for me.

So no, when a partner and I have parted ways in the past, I learned my lesson about just walking away from it and letting it be so we could both heal and move on....

 

[Bothersome]

Sure. I'm not exactly 'friends' with my ex, though I wouldn't say that it's awkward at all or anything.

The only reason we're not friends is because we have nothing in common, which brings us right to why we broke up in the first place.

 

[fireguardian]

Depends on the situation and cause of the split. I broke up with a guy I was engage to in 2008. It was a bad situation, a lot of pain and anger, and the relationship probably should never have lasted as long as it did. To this day I still haven't talked to him post breakup. He's a good guy but sooooo not the right or healthy choice for me.

On the total opposite end I dated one amazing guy who we both agreed we were better actually going back to friends. I still hang out with him on a regular basis. In fact he and I hang out almost once a week and we even went out for dinner tonight along with my roomie.

It's just a matter of personalities and circumstances.

 

[ticklishdanny]

Nope