Do you believe that things happen for a reason?

[njjen3953]

I have always agreed with that concept and now more than ever. I can't say why, but I do know that fate plays a huge part in my destiny and everything that has happened in my life has happened to make me learn something valuable. Even people have been brought into my life for a purpose. I will love and cherish each one of them forever.

Jen

 

[rpgiles]

do you believe that things happen for a reason

Hold to that belief, Jenn. For that is what makes this life , liveable.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Most definitely...

There are so many things that have happened in my life that I can't wave off as concidences. I believe in fate and destiny. Sometimes I can actually see myself in the future and I can almost taste, almost touch the happiness that must await when I finally fulfill my life long dreams.

This remindes me of my favorite scripture in Romans... Chapter 8.

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

So many things have happened to me that I know I shouldn't have made it through...but He carried me. And I honestly believe that we are all here for a reason. A good reason. But it is up to us to live up to our potential and our destiny.

LOL... that's what I am going to name my first daughter, Destiny. LOL I'm probably predestined to have all sons. *giggle*

Sunrise

 

[venray]

Let's see.....

I'll answer this one with a little story..

My wife was discussing parents with my little one the other day and he asked who her mom and dad were and she said grandma and grandpa...she then asked him who my mom was and he answered Mima..then he got a blank look on his face for a second and he said "hey,,,who is daddy's dad?" To which Tracy had to say that my dad had died before he was born so they never got to meet but that we had given him the same name as my dad to remember him by....

My son looked very thoughtful for about 40 seconds and turned to her and sad..."Well, that's ok mommy because if he were still here I probably wouldn't be." My son is 3 years old.


Yes Jen everything happens for a reason...typing the word "tickle" into a search engine some 8 or 9 years ago has resulted in me meeting some of the best friends I will ever know..and in getting to know hundreds of others on line......go figure....😀




Ray

 

[Krokus]

Hm...

I certainly hope they do.

 

[AphxA]

fate

Yeah i ran into my old teacher one day. Well technically i seem him from afar and walked the opposite direction. I hate long talks with teachers. Unless the teacher was hot. then i can talk all day!😎

 

[amk714]

Playing devil's advocate here...

Not necessarily, Jen, though sometimes it seems that way. I chalk it up to coincidence. (Just my $0.02) 🙂

 

[inkling]

I firmly believe the opposite: we find reasons for the way things happen.

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The man who sets out to carry a cat by its tail learns something that will always be useful and which will never grow dim or doubtful. - Mark Twain

 

[QBWeaver]

I firmly believe that everything happens for a reason. From every experience, both good and bad, a lesson is learned. Those lessons are what make me who I am today.

Those times when everything is going horribly wrong, there is always a lesson learned. It might not be realized for awhile but one day you'll have one of those "Ah ha" moments when you find out what you learned.

And those times when things are going wonderfully there is also a lesson there as well.

Everything that has ever happened in my life has brought me to here, now. I wouldn't want to change any moment in my life because I've been fortunate enough to survive some horrific moments. Through those rough times I've realized that I'm a survivor and I have learned so much. And I've realized that I am truly blessed with the family and friends who surround me. For all that I will be eternally grateful.

 

[4Pawz]

So many excellent responses. I do agree for the most part, I think some things do happen for a reason. Sometimes things happen in life and we have no idea why, or wonder how could this be happening to me, whether it is a positive or negative experience. Sometimes I feel like why do I have to go through this, why? Why would any person choose for another to go through such events. Then I look at where I am now...I would not change a thing. I think the trick to understanding life is to appreciate the good things in my life, accept the past, and know that if I really wanted to, I could change my future. If I want something, I have to go for it. Just my 2 cents as well

Pawz

 

[TicklingDuo]

I absolutely believe that all things have a reason and purpose. There are times when I'm not able to see it at the moment. But, I can always look back and see that I learned from something that happened...or that it made me stronger.....or something similar. I personally believe that God allows things to happen and allows us to make mistakes (since He won't go against our free will). But, if we cooperate and listen to ourselves and the world around us, there's always something that comes out of it.

Even tragedies that occur can bring good. Just look at how people pull together to help one another rather than ignoring others and thinking only of themselves. That's how we should act all the time! Some of the most traumatic events in my life have taught me the most ABOUT life and how to properly live it. To some degree, I find myself grateful for those traumatic times. I wouldn't give up the lessons they taught me to take away the temporary pain I had to endure.

Ann

 

[BigJim]

Without any shadow of doubt, it is true Jen. Things and people are attracted into your life all the time because of things you need to learn, different experiences you need to enjoy or occasionally......suffer.

Whatever the experience, be it negative or positive it will help you grow if it doesn't kill you.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

i believe in fate

but not to the exclusion of coincidence. some things just seem "ment to be". and others are happenstance. (i get the feeling that something big has happened in your life jen, and i'm affraid to ask what it is.)
the smart person learns from experiences.
steve

 

[phfttklr]

I have to agree with Alexander and Inkling on this. I think people
look for reasons after the fact but,if it makes you happy,keep believing in it.


I do have to say that it bugs the hell out of me when they say in sports "They control their own destiny". You are either in control
or it is destiny.

 

[JPie1]

things happen for a reason,

On a rainy day 12 years ago when there was supposed to be a gang of 20 people on a whitewater rafting trip but because of the weather almost all backed out, I ended up on the same raft as my unknown to me husband.

4 years ago a 6 week old baby was placed into my arms, my son born on my 6th wedding anniversary unknown to me at the time. This would be the star in my life, my adopted child, after years of struggling to become a mom. Fate that this should be my child, yes things happen for a reason..

I am a true believer.


JPie

 

[guitman69]

Some people might find comfort in the idea of fate, or something controlling your destiny, but I don't.

After my accident (which left me a parapalegic) people told me that there's a reason for everything, it's all a part of God's plan, ect. How is that supposed to make me feel better?

It was hard enough to deal with the accident, and the change it made in my life, then to think that someone or something did this to me on purpose?

With all the needless and pointless suffering that goes on in this world, if there is a person or force out there controlling everything, then is it one cold sadistic bastard!

And you can't have it both ways, just as phfttklr said, you can't have it both ways. If this controlly force gives you all the good things, then it give you all the crap too.

Now, my life hasn't been all bad. I have a wonderful wife, a nice home, and a job that I love. To say these things were given to me by fate diminishes the work I had to put into them.

 

[JoBelle]

I never thought I'd be the person who went against the majority on this, but I guess I am. 🙂

I don't think things or events are "meant to be." I'm not the soulmate/predestination chick. I think as you travel through this life, the same opportunities are offered to us all and it is the choices we make that molds the outcome. I've had hard and harder 😉 issues in my life. I don't blame them on destiny. Singing that same tune, I don't believe that the good things were "supposed to happen." I think I applied the unirverse to my life and made it what it is. Any other way seems to hint that we aren't responsible for ourselves or our actions. "It's not my fault....it's MEANT TO BE!" BLERG! That is something that makes ME insane!

The interaction of souls is something different to me. The spirit is drawn to another in ways that we'll never understand. Meant to be? Still not to sure about that. Perhaps more like, pieces of the whole coming back together. I feel interpersonal relationships belong in another category. Events and people are tow TOTALLY seperate things.

Joby

 

[Moses25]

Do I believe that...

Nope.


Cheers.😀

 

[Myriads]

No. I do not believe that things happen for a reason.

Things happen based on probibilistic confluance. One can influance the possibilities that are open to oneself by the choices oneself makes, but random factors caused by other individuals and natural forces always blur the paths, closing some, and opening others.

Or more simply: The things that happen to you are simply sum of the choices that you made in the past, stacked upon the environment of natural circumstance to produce the path you are now on.

Myriads

 

[TicklingDuo]

I really believe things happen for a reason and God has a plan for each of us. After 37 years of being on my own, I met the woman who became my beautiful wife, Ann. When I think of the direction my life could've took 7 or 8 years ago, I truly feel I've been blessed.🙂


Drew😉

 

[Flatfoot]

I believe God may have a "Divine Plan", but as far as determining every possible outcome for everyone ahead of time, I don't think I can believe that. That would eliminate the principal of free will, which is considered one of his greatest gifts to humanity. This is something that has confused me, for I don't know how long. A long time ago, I think it was a CCD teacher who told me that yes, we have free will, but God still knows exactly what you plan to do and what the outcome is going to be. I can sorta understand this, I mean, God is supposed to be omniscient, after all. Of course he knows what's gonna happen next. However, it all seems to ultimately tie back to fate. It makes me think of the Calvinists, who thought that everyone was either destined to go to heaven, or to hell, regardless of what they did in life. If we were going to do something stupid, but God didn't want to interfere because it violates free will, are we the death of ourselves? Are we merely that girl in the horror movie who slowly approaches the creaking door that you know she shouldn't open, and you shout out to the television, "No, don't go in there!" even though there's nothing you can do about it? This thought kinda bothers me a little bit, because suppose God knew that I was going to end up in hell, and I had a foreknowledge of this. I could try and try all I want to be a better person to do whatever it would take to "change my fate", but ultimately, God already knows what will happen based on the course of my actions, and you can't argue with God, because God's infallible! I apologize for going off on a tangent with this thing, which completely strayed from my original belief, which is that God has a destination or purpose for us, but we can make the journey to that destination/purpose as straight or winding a road as we like. However, I just argued myself into a brain fart, and I'm not sure what I should feel...

 

[Bagelfather]

True story of fate, or... (emotional story)

This is a very very true story...

My cousin Ro' has a daughter named Zoe, who almost died at an early age.

Several years ago there was an eccoli (I think it was that, and that's how it is spelled) problem with unpasturized juice. The problem came about because the fruit landed in manure and was then used in making juice. Since it was unpasturized the bacteria got into the juice which resulted in a number of people getting sick.

Zoe was only a year or two old at the time and got very very sick. She was in the hospital in the ICU (Intensive Care Unit) with her vitals getting worse and her kidneys failing.

At the same time my grandfather (from Zoe and my side of the family) was in a nursing home (very nice one too) and very ill.

It came down to an hour by hour watch to see if Zoe would make it. Our grandfather seemed to be doing okay at the time, then suddenly he died. Almost immediately after he died (based on phone calls) Zoe peed and started to recover.

To this day our family attributes her recovery to my Grandfather's sacrifice. Skeptics say it is coincidence, but I don't think it was.

 

[JoBelle]

BF, lovely story. I don't doubt the merit considering the source.

I wouldn't say that was "meant to be" though. I'd say that was simply and without fail a perfect example of the love of a spirit tending to one that couldn't tend to itself.

Joby

 

[Texas_Tickle]

I do believe in God and I believe that everything does happen for a reason. You may not know right away what that reason is, but everything you go thru has a divine purpose.

I should have been killed about 10 times over (literally).

I was born with a very bad heart and was told I would not live to see 5 yrs of age....then I was told I would not live to see 10 years of age....now I am 30.

I have defied every odd against me. I take Karate and am a 2cd degree black belt. I work out 3 times a week. I am doing the same things that the "medical experts" said I would never be able to do.

My heart is now fine....all by itself. The "medical experts" did not have a "scientific answer" for it. They stopped close of calling it a "miricle from God'. But I knew that's just what it was.

The greatest miricle came during Feb of 1996 when I was driving home from work one night. I was changing lanes and did not see another car coming right in front of me (I was in the wrong lane when I was changing) and I hit the car head on.

I blacked out but was told my car flipped about 5 times before resting upside-down. Some of the witnesses say they saw me get out of the car and walk away.

My car was literally sliced in half and I had only a few cuts and a bloody nose.

So when I hear people say there is no thing as miricles, I set them down and tell them my story.