Do you think safe words are needed?

[P[a]pi]

I was looking on the TMF and Jeff of MTP made a thread asking this question. I thought it was interesting, so I decided to post the same thread here.

My girlfriend and I have never used a safe word and the thought has never crossed our minds. We didn't even discuss safe words before I tied and tickled her for the first time. When I tie and tickle her I usually kill her (exhaust her), but nothing bad has ever happened and I don't think it ever will.

She ties and tickles me too, but she likes to tickle lightly and more playful. We just have different styles and we like it that way. She and I still think of ourselves as really only lee and ler respectively though. I've never used a safe word with her either, not even my first time as the lee.

So what do you guys think. Do you use a safe word or not? And why or why not?

 

[the_jimmy_james]

It's just that some lee's capacity isn't as high as what some lers can dish out. There has to be a way for the lee to communicate that they simply aren't comfortable with more.

It's a security and safety thing for the 'lee. That's all 🙂

 

[Reed_7891]

Personally me and my GF DO infact use a safe-word, its not that it's always needed, its more to provide comfort for her.

....she's never used it 😛

 

[MistressValerie1]

For safety's sake, it would be wise to use a safe-word any time bondage is employed, or in any role-playing scenario where "stop" doesn't mean "stop." In my relationship we don't use bondage or role-play, so we have not felt the need for an official safe word.

 

[TKLVR181]

I always use one, and I think it helps with trust, and also with security. I always want the person I'm tickling to know I'll stop if they truely want; my 2 cents XD

 

[Camel26]

Karen--you ROCK MY STOCKS!!!

My ler and I recently discussed the use of a safeword...she, as the ler, is afraid of not knowing when I really need a break, so she asked me to come up with one...

And THAT, ladies and gents, is why I love my ler...

 

[TKLVR181]

*giggle* Thanks Camel! Glad to hear you can trust her so totally :super_hap

 

[Wade1]

I've never had a safeword, because when I've gotten tickled it's never been a planned scenario, and it's never involved bondage--not planned-out bondage, anyway. When I'm tickled by a gf or a friend or a group of friends or coworkers it might just be for a few seconds or it might be until I'm a hysterical basket case and beyond, but their enjoyment of it always hinges at least in part on their knowledge that I'm pretty much helpless to make it stop.

It almost always involves my crying out "Stop!" or "Don't!" (or, when I'm really unfortunate, "Don't! Stop!" which leads to the predictable acceleration of the taunting and teasing predicated on the exaggerated pretense that I'm asking for more), and I always mean it. But they rarely care. And after they finally finally do stop, no harm's done...

 

[lordvelic1]

I have been tickling for 45 years, fairly regularly, but in the past few years I have started using safe words with new partners. Some of my playmates are half my age and the safe word makes them feel as if they are in control, and as a result many of them have "tested" thier limits more each time we "play". I for one feel that safewords have opened a whole new vista of oportunity for me.

Lord Velic

 

[P[a]pi]

Just so everybody knows I'm not judging anybody. My girlfriend and I don't use safe words and we have our reasons. I was just wondering why other people use them or don't use them.

Here is why my girlfriend and I don't use them when we tie and tickle each other.

We thinks its the lees job to take it as long as possible and the lers job to know when to stop. To us a safe word shows lack of trust by the lee in the ler and takes control away from the ler.

That is why when one of us is the lee we don't tell the other to stop, unless the one tied up is turned on and ready to do other stuff haha.

 

[Camel26]

My ler is kinda new to the whole tickling thing...and she can't tell when I say stop and when I really mean for her to stop...so she wants me to use a safeword...not that I use it, but she wants to have that in place for me just in case...

I love her...safeword or no, I think it's awesome either way!!! And if it makes my ler more comfortable, I'll do whatever it takes!!! 😀 😀 😀

 

[P[a]pi]

I definately understand "do what ever it takes" haha. I mean its tickling. Tickling is the shit no matter what the scenario.

 

[chickles_:)]

Just so everybody knows I'm not judging anybody. My girlfriend and I don't use safe words and we have our reasons. I was just wondering why other people use them or don't use them.

Here is why my girlfriend and I don't use them when we tie and tickle each other.

We thinks its the lees job to take it as long as possible and the lers job to know when to stop. To us a safe word shows lack of trust by the lee in the ler and takes control away from the ler.

That is why when one of us is the lee we don't tell the other to stop, unless the one tied up is turned on and ready to do other stuff haha.

Hiya :flower:
Hmm, that's interesting.. I guess it was when my b/f actually tied and tickled me for the first time he was the one who insisted on it... Me? I was too caught up in the wonderworld of him actually arranging to tickle me to death!:laughing:😀
But in the end it did feel like a good idea,,, I preferred it not so much because i thought i'd need it - though i have used it a few times 😱
But it made him feel safer knowing that he wasn't going to push me too far. And as a 'newbie/convert' to the whole tickle game - i want to do whatever i can to keep him playing comfortably. :super_hap 😉 :note:

Many blessings,
chickles😍

 

[P[a]pi]

Thats understandable. Maybe my girlfriend and I are how we are because we met on this forum. Once we met in person, and realized we both thought the other was atttractive physically and mentally, we knew I was going to tie her up and tickle her. It was part of the plan. I was looking for a girlfriend though and she wasn't really looking for a relationship, but fortunately we fell in love with each other.

Only recently have we switched the roles of lee and ler. When we met I was only thinking about tickling her and she was only thinking about getting tickled.

 

[ticklingfeet4fu]

Yes I do believe that they are needed for medical reasons.

 

[TickledToDeath]

NEEDED? No.
Required? Depends on the Lee and the trust in the Ler to know what the frig he or she is doing.
Control is in the hands of the ler and the ler only. Unless there is a motive to make the lee say a safeword as part of the "game", then fine. Otherwise...leave the safewords to those who are new and inexperienced.

Personally, I don't care for them but will IF I have to.