Does anyone else do this besides me?

[alchemy]

Ok, so I had to re-word this post.

Now, maybe I'm a freak or something, but I like LOTS of foreplay before sex...LOTS. I'm talking like 2 to 6 hours worth. I mean, how else can you properly explore a woman's body and find all of her little "hot spots" (which are usually located around her most ticklish spots). I'm asking because most of the girls I've dated have not really been into foreplay...at all (and don't get me started on the tickling thing), and it's the stereotype that most guys are like "Foreplay, what the hell is that?". In fact, that's a discusion in and of itself: What has happened to foreplay in our society? Maybe it's a product of our culture. I mean, everything else is fast or instant gratification oriented.

 

[Capnmad]

I think you'd be hardpressed to find anyone who doesn't like any of the things you suggest, Alchemy... I'm a great lover of foreplay myself, erotic tickling, and inducing all manner of related reactions. 😀 It's only that most people, I suspect, either extraordinarily rarely have the 2-6 hours you describe available to them, or for those that do, simply lack the discipline. But yeah, I love those lengthy explorational tickles that lead to crazy ticklish climaxes. Foreplay I've always viewed as a complete act in itself, and a great stage for pleasurable tickling... And indeed, thanks to the difference between the length of a woman's resolution phase and a man's, once you get them going through one climax, provided they're up for it, and with some breathers in between... ...well, it can be a long night of laughter... 😀

 

[tickledgirl]

What Cap'n said. It did sound a little more like a boast phrased as a question. Something along the lines of "Y'know, I was just wondering. Are any of you other gals 36DD-24-36 gymnasts who can fold origami with their tongues and suck an orange through a straw"?

But I'm probably just bitter. Two to six hours of foreplay? I'm guessing you don't have kids... 🙂

 

[alchemy]

I think you'd be hardpressed to find anyone who doesn't like any of the things you suggest, Alchemy... I'm a great lover of foreplay myself, erotic tickling, and inducing all manner of related reactions. 😀 It's only that most people, I suspect, either extraordinarily rarely have the 2-6 hours you describe available to them, or for those that do, simply lack the discipline. But yeah, I love those lengthy explorational tickles that lead to crazy ticklish climaxes. Foreplay I've always viewed as a complete act in itself, and a great stage for pleasurable tickling... And indeed, thanks to the difference between the length of a woman's resolution phase and a man's, once you get them going through one climax, provided they're up for it, and with some breathers in between... ...well, it can be a long night of laughter... 😀

See, that's MY thought on in man! I'm like, who wouldn't like this? I've just had lots of bad experiences with this...a few good, but mostly not.

 

[alchemy]

What Cap'n said. It did sound a little more like a boast phrased as a question. Something along the lines of "Y'know, I was just wondering. Are any of you other gals 36DD-24-36 gymnasts who can fold origami with their tongues and suck an orange through a straw"?

But I'm probably just bitter. Two to six hours of foreplay? I'm guessing you don't have kids... 🙂

You know what, after reading what I had writen, I completely understand why you got that impression. I was like "Damn, I'm sprouting a little ego huh?" Yeah, can't have that. Sorry you got that impression, brevity is still something I'm working on.
Nope, no kids...just a fish.

 

[Redmage]

"Foreplay" is relative. Since many (maybe most) women are multiorgasmic if their partner is attentive, it's certainly possible for a play session to last 2-6 hours with multiple "peaks" for the woman or women involved. I don't often go 6 hours myself, but 4 hours isn't too uncommon in a scene like that.

 

[Ace Riley]

"Foreplay" is relative. Since many (maybe most) women are multiorgasmic if their partner is attentive, it's certainly possible for a play session to last 2-6 hours with multiple "peaks" for the woman or women involved. I don't often go 6 hours myself, but 4 hours isn't too uncommon in a scene like that.

Maybe most? Kind of generalistic no? 😛 How many women have you been with? Alot of women I've known say they even find it difficult to reach one at times. The female sex varies from person to person, perhaps you're just lucky, or damned good. 🙂

 

[Redmage]

Maybe most? Kind of generalistic no? 😛 How many women have you been with? Alot of women I've known say they even find it difficult to reach one at times. The female sex varies from person to person, perhaps you're just lucky, or damned good. 🙂

How many women have I been with? Considering that at least two of them are active on this forum, it'd probably be indiscreet to post an estimate. However, I've been sexually active for 30 years now, and I'm polyamorous. I'd hate to do the math, but I think it's safe to say "a fair few."

As for how good I am, there's no way in the world I could presume to answer that. 😉

There isn't a lot of hard data on this. However the more recent studies have been fairly consistent. Darling, Davidson, and Jennings (1991) found about 42% of women in the study group experienced multiple orgasms. Kratochvil (1993) reported 39% in that study. Patterns in the evidence suggest that whether or not a woman can do this depends greatly on her own knowledge of herself (and what turns her on), and her level of comfort with her own sexuality. Those factors are at least as important as her partner's skill, so I couldn't take all the credit even if I wanted too. This means that becoming multiorgasmic is at least partly a learnable skill. So I feel comfortable saying that "many, perhaps most" women have this ability.

 

[kis123]

Alchemy, you answered your question in your last sentence of the initial post. Everything's about instant gratification nowadays-I guess sex has finally joined in that group too. 2-6 hours?? Someone should consider herself a lucky girl-I darn sure would if I had a man who'd be willing to spend that much time with me!

Personally, I'm a chick with a very slow burn-a man who doesn't want to take time with me is a man who won't get any! I have a big body and it takes time to explore it, if you know what I mean! I was once told that my body was like a playground and he wanted play on all the rides (and that's exactly what he did)!

I don't know about the younger women since I haven't been one in awhile. But I know plenty of old-schoolers who would appreciate finding a man with your "approach"

 

[lk70]

Alchemy...in no way do I think this is likely the case with you (and having met you, I have some data to go on) but.....

I have been part of discussions where women say that they have instigated a quick jump to intercourse (or a blow job) just to "get it over with."

I figure there are two possible reasons for this (possibly related):

1. The gentleman is fumbling around assuming he knows what works for this woman (because hell THIS works for all women doesn't it) and he just won't take any guidance. I've had this happen. I'm not terribly shy about saying what I want. I'm not shy about moving someone's hand from here to here but it has often been the case that he just keeps moving his hand back! Somewhere, sometime, that worked for him and he's quite sure it's going to work again. I've whispered a request to have it go completely unacknowledged let alone fulfilled. The older I get, the more it pisses me off. When I was younger, I'd fake it or do something else to make it all stop. Ok, so that's one.

2. The gentleman isn't hitting good marks and the woman is too shy to say so or doesn't know what she likes. She hasn't learned to enjoy sex, to see it as a process rather than something heading for a specific main event. So she goes through the motions but rushes the happy ending (if in fact it is happy).

And you know what? There's a third possibility too.

Maybe some woman don't like foreplay? Seems unlikely but you have to allow for it I suppose.

 

[BellaRisa]

In the B.C. (Before Children ) era of my marriage, my husband and I spent *all day* on foreplay on Saturdays, the one day neither of us worked. Especially in the winter (we lived in Vermont), we'd grab munchies and old movies and big blankets and never touch a stitch of clothing, just spend the whole time driving each other crazy. Frankly this is why I lived in VT for 8 yrs and never learned to ski 😎 . Since our girls came along we have less time, and we fall asleep a little faster, but several evenings per week after bedtime are devoted to keeping this part of our marriage alive-I can't imagine going without it

Bella

 

[Headsnap]

Alchemy...in no way do I think this is likely the case with you (and having met you, I have some data to go on) but.....

I have been part of discussions where women say that they have instigated a quick jump to intercourse (or a blow job) just to "get it over with."

I figure there are two possible reasons for this (possibly related):

1. The gentleman is fumbling around assuming he knows what works for this woman (because hell THIS works for all women doesn't it) and he just won't take any guidance. I've had this happen. I'm not terribly shy about saying what I want. I'm not shy about moving someone's hand from here to here but it has often been the case that he just keeps moving his hand back! Somewhere, sometime, that worked for him and he's quite sure it's going to work again. I've whispered a request to have it go completely unacknowledged let alone fulfilled. The older I get, the more it pisses me off. When I was younger, I'd fake it or do something else to make it all stop. Ok, so that's one.

2. The gentleman isn't hitting good marks and the woman is too shy to say so or doesn't know what she likes. She hasn't learned to enjoy sex, to see it as a process rather than something heading for a specific main event. So she goes through the motions but rushes the happy ending (if in fact it is happy).

And you know what? There's a third possibility too.

Maybe some woman don't like foreplay? Seems unlikely but you have to allow for it I suppose.

DJ Lady is smart and, if I'm honest, a bit sexy 😀

I'm not really experienced enough or female enough to presume to know why your previous girlfriends haven't been loving the befores as much as you, but perhaps Redmage's "some, presumably most" has some bearing here? I mean, maybe some women are like most men when it comes to sex and orgasms and stuff; maybe there are some that just want to "blow their load" so to speak and then roll over for a kip afterwards? 2-6 hours of foreplay would, in my humble experience, usually be enough to facilitate said load-blowing, and anything after that is just a bit dull and uninteresting.

Personally, I like foreplay. However, whilst I USED to think that I liked it because I was some sort of "real man" who put his partner's pleasure ahead of his own, I'm starting to realise that the reasons I like it are not all that altruistic. I'm a bit mouth-and-no-trousers when it comes to sex; I talk a good game but when it comes down to actually stripping off I turn into Chandler from Friends. I don't tend to go off early or fail to get it up or anything like that, it's just that as soon as the talking stops and it's time to lie back and think of England I come over all panicky and start WORRYING about all the stuff that could potentially go wrong. After a very short while of the kissing and caressing and non-penetration she usually starts getting suspicious, so that's when I get all attentive and stuff. Shuts her up for a while, gives me a bit of time to regroup.




Stop laughing, it's not funny 🙁

 

[maniactickler]

I like to spend hours on foreplay, i prefer foreplay to actual intercourse.

 

[lk70]

Stop laughing, it's not funny 🙁

It is too. And it's ADORABLE!!!!

 

[Headsnap]

"Adorable"?....... I dunno whether to feel all smug and smirky, or like a Winnie The Pooh character and totally emasculated..... Oh DJ Lady why do you confuse me so?

 

[Saeria]

one play, two play, three play, four play...

I honestly can't understand the whole "Get on and Get off" thing. I suppose some people find sex pleasurable and others find it purposeful. I think that so much of the euphoria involved with intimacy for a woman is emotional/psychological... or at least i know it is for me. If i'm with someone i truly care for, lots of things, the tactile sensations, etc. are far more intense. Nothing makes me feel all nice and fluffy like someone wanting to spend ALL that intimate time with me. Hehe i say, if you can find yourself a man willing to expend that much effort as say Alchemy's numerous hours in foreplay, hang on tight and dammit don't let go. There are many more sexually egocentric putzes out there.

P.S. If you're good at what you do, why not boast a little?

 

[wendynpeter]

"Y'know, I was just wondering. Are any of you other gals 36DD-24-36 gymnasts who can fold origami with their tongues and suck an orange through a straw"?

OK...THAT -- was fucking priceless! I'm laughing my ass off. That's one of the funniest things I've ever read on this site! Thank you!

 

[LindyHopper]

How many women have I been with? Considering that at least two of them are active on this forum, it'd probably be indiscreet to post an estimate. However, I've been sexually active for 30 years now, and I'm polyamorous. I'd hate to do the math, but I think it's safe to say "a fair few."

"A fair few," huh? I think that's the funniest thing I've heard all day! 😀

As for how good I am, there's no way in the world I could presume to answer that. 😉

Nope, I changed my mind. That was the funniest thing I've heard all day.

Anyway, like that saying about how "strangers are just good friends you've haven't met yet," I suspect the vast majority of women have the capacity to be multiorgasmic, even if they haven't yet learned how. I believe it takes the proper motivation, comfort with oneself, and patience. The right partner doesn't hurt either. 😉

I'm in the habit of having many play sessions that are all "foreplay," no sex (it's a boundary thing). Don't get me wrong, I love sex, but in my experience, men tend to play differently whether or not they expect to get laid. If sex is on the menu, they tend to jump on it (even the generous, patient ones!). And once the guy's had an orgasm, the session is generally over. But if he's not viewing the "foreplay" as merely a prelude to sex, there's no reason not to spend hours enjoying the teasing, tickling, and lots of orgasms*.

*By which I mean, mine. I know, greedy.

 

[lk70]

"Adorable"?....... I dunno whether to feel all smug and smirky, or like a Winnie The Pooh character and totally emasculated..... Oh DJ Lady why do you confuse me so?

No worries, Piglet, men are often confused by women. It's the Mars- Venus thing. 😀

 

[Headsnap]

No worries, Piglet, men are often confused by women. It's the Mars- Venus thing. 😀

I'm not confused by women in general, just confused as to whether my flusteredness in the bedroom being "ADORABLE!" is a good thing or a bad thing.

And I was thinking more along the lines of Tigger or Eeyore

 

[Coffee]

I am always looking to learn more about foreplay. Do they teach a course at the local YMCA or Community College? If so where do I sign up.

 

[lojak]

2 - 6 hours of foreplay, your face will freeze up and your tongue will be numb, your back will lock up. your knees will hurt.

Damn to be 20 again.

 

[Redmage]

Don't get me wrong, I love sex, but in my experience, men tend to play differently whether or not they expect to get laid. If sex is on the menu, they tend to jump on it (even the generous, patient ones!).

Hmmph. Pikers.

there's no reason not to spend hours enjoying the teasing, tickling, and lots of orgasms*.

*By which I mean, mine. I know, greedy.

Say, rather, "endlessly rewarding."

 

[TickVix]

You pose a valid point, I like foreplay but after a while (before I fall asleep) something has to be done lol. I guess it's the whole build up and anticipation thing. That's great in itself because it allows both individuals to really enjoy their reward at the end, however in such a fast paced society maybe some people feel they just don't have all that extra time to waste on hours of foreplay anymore.

 

[TangerineTicklee]

Ok, so I had to re-word this post.

Now, maybe I'm a freak or something, but I like LOTS of foreplay before sex...LOTS. I'm talking like 2 to 6 hours worth. I mean, how else can you properly explore a woman's body and find all of her little "hot spots" (which are usually located around her most ticklish spots). I'm asking because most of the girls I've dated have not really been into foreplay...at all (and don't get me started on the tickling thing), and it's the stereotype that most guys are like "Foreplay, what the hell is that?". In fact, that's a discusion in and of itself: What has happened to foreplay in our society? Maybe it's a product of our culture. I mean, everything else is fast or instant gratification oriented.

((raises hand))

It would take me experiencing lots of foreplay in order to really enjoy it.