Does Size Matter?

[ticklemad]

I have always been honest in my postings and described myself as a very large person. I am lso extremely ticklish and I consider myself a pretty mean and merciless tickler too. Why then do guys reply to my ad if size is a problem? I'll mention no names but I was told by one person that they would rather tickle Britney SPears than Hatty Jacques - fair enough, but don't do it just because of the persons size and apparance. If you are true ticklephile surely what should be important is who is the most ticklish of the two, who laughs the most, who will you get the best reaction from. If that happens to be someone who is 20 stone or whatever and not twig thin - so be it. I know who I'd go for if I was choosing between Mel Gibson and Pavarotti - the most ticklish one. I'm beginning to wonder of you guys only want the thin good looking girls because you'r hoping for a few extras at the end. Surely all that should matter is the persons level of ticklishness and what it means to you both, not who's got the biggest jugs, slimmest legs and is likely to give to get me horny and give me a blow job!! Is it any wonder from the responses some of you guys email me with that I prefer to tickle females - not because I'm gay as one of you suggested (I'm certainly straight), but because tickling means something different to me than sex all the time from it and it give us woem a means o fulfilling our tickling desire together safely in a f/f situation. How does everyone else feel about the size/looks issue?

 

[Shem the Penman]

It's the same as anything else, I expect. Guys want the women they see in the videos and pictures, not really caring if they're really ticklish or just good actresses, or whether they actually love tickling or if it's just something to do for rent money. It's just human nature to want perfection. Some folks can see past those desires, some can't.

Me? Well, my fiancee weighs about as much as I do, and I'm not short. She's also intensely ticklish almost everywhere, loves being tied and tickled (or doing it to me), tolerates my sense of humor and all the weird things I'm interested in, is smart and funny and always a joy to talk to, and fits very nicely into my arms. All in all, I think I got a damn good deal.

 

[Blackstar216]

Like with anything, everyone has different tastes. There are people who like tickling. There are people who consider a certain build to be most attractive. And when you combine that build with that amount of ticklishness, the tickler gets nirvana.

You'd be surprised how many ticklers have no preference of build atcually. But I think most people love to tickle those they are attracted to most. And no matter what that build is, that's just their preference. *shrug*

 

[janedoe1]

Preferences

I think that everyone is entitled to their own preference. I know what I like. I know what turns me on and turns me off. If I desire to tickle or be tickled by a man or woman who looks a certain way, that's my preference. There are soooo many different kinds of people within the tickling community. You don't have to cling to the first person that comes along. Just sit tight and wait for the person you click with. It's much better if both parties are comfortable with each other.
😉

 

[dvnc]

Does size matter? Your specifics seemed to indicate a question here in regards to tickling specifically, so I'll limit response to tickling alone.

Unfortunately, tickling is like kissing - it means different things with different people. Do I sweat it that my aunt is big as a house? No. Would I tickle her? Sure. Have, too. It's just a casual thing there, without any sexual content, thankfully. Therapy for such would be otherwise too expensive. Would I sweat it at a gathering? Nope. Ain't prowlin' for lovers at a gathering. I'm there t'meet our kind, and the fact that you're guaranteed a play partner that digs bein' tickled is REALLY COOL! At that point, while I prefer that folks are clean and sanitary, I don't sweat it if someone ain't a model for a local gym. I ain't, either. While I ain't huge, I'm no longer young, and no longer skinny. Doesn't seem to stop anyone from playin' at Gatherings.

When looking at lovers to tickle, I want someone that looks like they care about themselves, and will live to our retirement. Again, don't much matter if they're not weirdly skinny (who is, past 30?). I'm more interested in that attraction, which for me is more head-wise than physical.

Then again, I could legitimately be called a mutant without any strong argument against it, so mine's an odd perspective, but it IS my $0.02. Size, in tickling, doesn't much matter, compared to ticklishness.

Too bad you're overseas from us, Ticklemad. Sounds like we here would be a welcome change.

dvnc

 

[MadKalnod]

I don't know if it's all that important, as I'm 300+/- lbs. and the only woman I can say I've ever loved was heavier than me. The only thing that mattered in that case was how skillfully she tickled me when we were together. (She didn't mind being a 'lee, but she got a bigger thrill from being a 'ler. Oddly enough, she wasn't into tickling when I met her, but I suspect that she found being in control of the situation a refreshing and empowering change from the long unpleasant marriage she had just gotten out of. It can be good to be the Rebound Guy.)

 

[sirbeartotickle]

one more 1/2 cent

Well I think one of the females of the group brought this up a few back about size and looks. She said it seemed to her that nothing seemed to matter to us guys but the fact they may be ticklish. It was a long thread and I think most of us remember it. I myself do not look to looks first in any tickling situation. I look at personality actually. If someone stands there with a grim look and talks monotone with little or no interest in the subject, the fact they may be the most ticklish person I have ever met dosn't matter. I love the sound of a womans laugh as I tickle her. I have always been a frustrated closet comic and I just love to here a woman laugh. It matters little to me about size or looks as long as they didn't hit every branch of the ugly tree (as the female poster said in the other thread awhile back, I like that saying too)on the way to the ground. Pleasant, with a good personality and being ticklish is where its at. I too consider myself the luckiest Master on the planet as my partner/sub is the greatest lover/companion. She is strong, funny, loving, submissive, smart and also laughs at my stupid jokes. She is the wind in my sails and without her I would wither and die. She is not skinny nor do I want her to be anything other than who she is and the way she is happiest. I am not a small man, not huge, but not small. About 5'4 and 190 pounds (last time I had the nerve to stand on a scale).

SirBear

 

[ticklemad]

Does size matter? Your specifics seemed to indicate a question here in regards to tickling specifically, so I'll limit response to tickling alone.

Unfortunately, tickling is like kissing - it means different things with different people. Do I sweat it that my aunt is big as a house? No. Would I tickle her? Sure. Have, too. It's just a casual thing there, without any sexual content, thankfully. Therapy for such would be otherwise too expensive. Would I sweat it at a gathering? Nope. Ain't prowlin' for lovers at a gathering. I'm there t'meet our kind, and the fact that you're guaranteed a play partner that digs bein' tickled is REALLY COOL! At that point, while I prefer that folks are clean and sanitary, I don't sweat it if someone ain't a model for a local gym. I ain't, either. While I ain't huge, I'm no longer young, and no longer skinny. Doesn't seem to stop anyone from playin' at Gatherings.

When looking at lovers to tickle, I want someone that looks like they care about themselves, and will live to our retirement. Again, don't much matter if they're not weirdly skinny (who is, past 30?). I'm more interested in that attraction, which for me is more head-wise than physical.

Then again, I could legitimately be called a mutant without any strong argument against it, so mine's an odd perspective, but it IS my $0.02. Size, in tickling, doesn't much matter, compared to ticklishness.

Too bad you're overseas from u


Thanks DVMC for your words of encouragement - just wish the British Guys were as cool about it. Must admit the American Guys I have tickling correspondence with don't seem bothered by my weight, but then again perhaps that's because they know realistically we're not liekly to meet, I just don't know. I still find tickling to be a taboo subject over here, people think you're weird or a pervert as soon as you mention it, or feel it's only something you do playfully like this little piggy etc with kids, or sexually with a partner. And as for if two female friends tickle one another - well that automatically makes you a lesbian of course - you can't possibly not be and just be two friends enjoying a bit of playful fun. Sometimes I think I should up sticks and move over there with all you guys - you're certainly alot more open about it and less prejudiced and discriminatory than over here.

 

[dvnc]

Actually, darlin', there ARE folks over there that play. I ran a gathering over there last year. There's some cool folks thereabouts. There's more that DIDN'T show, too. It's just tough t'get 'em out. Some deal with the BDSM community there, which was a very kind community (those I met, anyway). That's a possible path for finding play partners.

Oh, and lest I remain a lout, you're welcome. Happy t'contribute.

My suggestion (big surprise) would be to try to get munches going. Getting a full gathering together, initially, seems to be daunting for some, but a munch is just a meeting in a local pub, over brews (or sodas, or coffee, etc). It's casual. If you've heart enough to start such a thing, you might be the very catalyst I was hoping to find there, to bring out the shy kids. Someone's gotta be first, and last I heard, I was the only person to effect such an event. Did meet folks, too. Not many, at first, but there were two woman and five men in attendence. It's a start. Heck, our gatherings, and even NEST, started out small.

Another mention of the bondage club concept for you - those folks play by very specific rules, and don't allow non-consentual play. It means that you can call your scene, and declare what's allowed and what's not allowed. It also means you can play with men OR women, and no one's going t'get weird on you. They're into kink, just like we are. They don't sweat deviancy.

Yeah, it's a bit of a daunting image, but it can be a good one. When you do find a play partner, perhaps you both ought to investigate such a club there in the UK. Perhaps a roadtrip to London is in order.

I hope my somewhat rambling cerebral explosion contains something of use for you. Again, thanks for the kind response!

dvnc