er quick question

[slinky1]

Er, not really sure if this is the correct forum. I am almost physically ill just posting here, so forgive me if I don't sweat the details.

Is it normal to feel like a perv for wanting to be tickled? Does anyone else ever feel like this, or am I just the special one?

 

[Oni]

Hahaha, my friend, you are not a pervert at all. I find myself wanting to be tickle and be tickled all the time. Why would you even ask that? Have you not even taken a look around yet? It is perfectly fine to want to be tickled, that's part of your sexuality, embrace it, don't get sick over it. Nothing to be ashamed of.

 

[DancingFool]

I would never ask for that up front, to give or receive, which I love equally--I'd have to know the girl naturally--I don't know frankly how there are people who are 'upfront' with their fetish--I would have to work my way in slowly.

 

[Oni]

Me neither, but the point is, him feeling that way does not make him a pervert.

 

[slinky1]

I would never ask for that up front, to give or receive, which I love equally--I'd have to know the girl naturally--I don't know frankly how there are people who are 'upfront' with their fetish--I would have to work my way in slowly.

I honestly cannot see telling anyone period (that I am close to)
The only person that I would even consider telling has admitted that he has a very closed mind when it comes to things of a sexual nature. (Which frankly pisses me of cause he's a got-damned hypocrite; but that's neither here nor there.)

As for it being part of my sexuality, you could say the same thing about a pedophile as well, couldn't you? That being attracted (for lack of a more graphic term) to children is a part of theirs? Just because something is a part of you does not automatically make it right. And what's may be right doesn't feel so. I still feel like a perv when I pay a 'little too much' attention to a random scene on T.V that features tickling.

 

[XaviarRkR]

I don't see wanting to be tickled as perverted. (Ok why did my screan just spontaniously refresh?). Perversion, well, a pervert, is a hard thing to define. I see it thus:

One is only perverted if one is forcing one's sexual preferences onto someone who does not like it. Rape is perverted, but anything between two concenting parties where there is no pshycological manipulation or abuse is not perverted.

It may be that some feel perverted because tickling is usually ascociated with parent/child play or just children playing. I dunno really.

'nuff pshycobabble on my part. tickling is not a perversion, and I have a strong feeling that it is far more common and popular than we generally think it is.

 

[Japp]

As for it being part of my sexuality, you could say the same thing about a pedophile as well, couldn't you? That being attracted (for lack of a more graphic term) to children is a part of theirs? Just because something is a part of you does not automatically make it right.

But it doesn't automatically make it wrong either. Look, pedophilia is a whole other kettle of fish because it involves people that can not give consent. Do yourself a favour: Don't draw comparisions between a ticklingfetish and childmolestation.
And when it comes to telling people, I've never been able to figure out why some people would want to give intimate details about their sexual desires to friends. Those things are reserved for your partner, in my opinion.
But hey, that's just me.

 

[-Kunoke-]

But it doesn't automatically make it wrong either. Look, pedophilia is a whole other kettle of fish because it involves people that can not give consent. Do yourself a favour: Don't draw comparisions between a ticklingfetish and childmolestation.
And when it comes to telling people, I've never been able to figure out why some people would want to give intimate details about their sexual desires to friends. Those things are reserved for your partner, in my opinion.
But hey, that's just me.

And it's all a matter of what you're comfortable with. By being open with my fetish to girls, they open up to me more, and I manage to make more friends. Besides, they love to tease me, which while it can bug me, is actually okay, because I know they're just trying to make me feel comfortable. Besides, you'll get the ones once in a while that are fascinated, and will let you play with their feet as a favor.

 

[coloman]

Wanting to be tickled does not make you a pervert and wanting to tickle someone doesn't either. I agree with XaviarRkR in that pervertion is the act of forcing your own sexual preferences on another person. Tickling is something most of us experience from the time we are babies and while you may have a fetish if you enjoy being tickled or for example like tickling feet or armpits it does not mean you are a pervert.

 

[slinky1]

But it doesn't automatically make it wrong either. Look, pedophilia is a whole other kettle of fish because it involves people that can not give consent. Do yourself a favour: Don't draw comparisions between a ticklingfetish and childmolestation.
And when it comes to telling people, I've never been able to figure out why some people would want to give intimate details about their sexual desires to friends. Those things are reserved for your partner, in my opinion.
But hey, that's just me.

Let me be a bit more clear. I don't mean to say that a tickle fetish (or any fetish for that matter) is in the same league with pedophilia.

I simply meant that a pedophile could use the same argument-- that their attraction to children is part of their sexuality; not that having a fetish is the same as child-molestation.

As for telling people, well... you'd be awfully surprised how often such things come up in 'polite' conversation. I don't know; perhaps it's a generational thing. I've noticed that younger people are extremely outgoing with such information. I can be prudish at times, but I can also be extremely go-with-the-flow, and when I'm flowing I'm afraid people are going to tell me I'm a freak and just leave me with my perverse thoughts. As for my so called 'partner' we're not quite at the ‘partnering’ stage yet, but the subject of preferences has come up, and probably will become relevant at some point in time. And I as I said-- close minded. These words come straight from the horses mouth.

I do have other fetishes, none of which bother me like this one. I thought maybe it was common to feel a little weird about new things, but no one else seems to have this problem. This either means I’m abnormal or that there’s something wrong, hopefully it’s the former, because that would be easier to live with oddly enough.

 

[MistressValerie1]

For many years I used to think that I was the only person in the world who had a tickling "fetish." Combined with a strict religious upbringing, it made me feel guilty and uneasy.

As I discovered that these preferences are fairly common and are much tamer than many other paraphilias, I came to accept it as a natural part of my personality. I only play with consenting adult partners where there's no worry about coercion, so I have nothing to feel guilty about.

That doesn't mean that I would broadcast the details of my private life to people I know offline, however. My husband knows about it because he's into the same stuff, but I would never tell co-workers or other people that I deal with in the local community. Remember, discretion is the better part of valour 😉

 

[DancingFool]

of course tickling is sexual--guys, if another guy tries to tickle you, what do you automatically scream out? 'What are you, gay?' And understandably so.

 

[Exile1]

Okay, Slinky I know pretty much exactly how you feel.
Allow me to elaborate.

Like MistressValerie, I was brought up in an extremely strict
fundamentalist home with old-fasioned 'values'. Even simple masturbation
was frowned upon and labeled as a terrible sin.
So you can only imagine how I felt about anything remotely sexual.

For me the tickling fascination began at an early age. As early as
middle school I noticed I was obsessed with tickling. Any time I saw
tickling on T.V. or witnessed it happening I was completely absorbed
by it. I looked up the definition to the word thousands of times,
scoped out it's synonyms in the thesaurus, and did massive research
on the parapsychology of it.

As I grew into puberty, I knew that it held an intense sexual connection
for me. Anything tickling related was a big turn on. I figured this out
when the first sexual dream I ever had included me being tickled by the
girl that I had a crush on at the time.
All of these feelings were strangled by my environment, and I spent several
years of my life in stunted sexual development, believing that I was
a freak of nature for my tickling obsession.

I refused to speak of it to ANYONE. Just the mere thought of baring
my soul regarding my tickling fetish to anyone was enough to make me
go deathly pale (as if I wasn't pale enough, lol).
Exposure of that side of me rapidly became one of my worst fears in life.

But let me tell you that when I finally, in a heart-pounding moment,
told my girlfriend at that time about my tickling fixation, a sense of relief
sweeter than the purest mountain stream flowed through me.
I felt so much better not having to hold in the tide of feelings.

Bottom line: You're not being honest to yourself or your partner if you
aren't honest about your turn-ons and fetishes.
Tickling is not as uncommon as you think as a fetish in any case.
And most women I have told about it since that first exposure have
reactions ranging from curious to extremely positive!

I feel stupid now for having written a book about my life, but I genuinely
hope that my words give you confidence that you are not alone.

 

[-Kunoke-]

Okay, Slinky I know pretty much exactly how you feel.
Allow me to elaborate.

Like MistressValerie, I was brought up in an extremely strict
fundamentalist home with old-fasioned 'values'. Even simple masturbation
was frowned upon and labeled as a terrible sin.
So you can only imagine how I felt about anything remotely sexual.

For me the tickling fascination began at an early age. As early as
middle school I noticed I was obsessed with tickling. Any time I saw
tickling on T.V. or witnessed it happening I was completely absorbed
by it. I looked up the definition to the word thousands of times,
scoped out it's synonyms in the thesaurus, and did massive research
on the parapsychology of it.

As I grew into puberty, I knew that it held an intense sexual connection
for me. Anything tickling related was a big turn on. I figured this out
when the first sexual dream I ever had included me being tickled by the
girl that I had a crush on at the time.
All of these feelings were strangled by my environment, and I spent several
years of my life in stunted sexual development, believing that I was
a freak of nature for my tickling obsession.

I refused to speak of it to ANYONE. Just the mere thought of baring
my soul regarding my tickling fetish to anyone was enough to make me
go deathly pale (as if I wasn't pale enough, lol).
Exposure of that side of me rapidly became one of my worst fears in life.

But let me tell you that when I finally, in a heart-pounding moment,
told my girlfriend at that time about my tickling fixation, a sense of relief
sweeter than the purest mountain stream flowed through me.
I felt so much better not having to hold in the tide of feelings.

Bottom line: You're not being honest to yourself or your partner if you
aren't honest about your turn-ons and fetishes.
Tickling is not as uncommon as you think as a fetish in any case.
And most women I have told about it since that first exposure have
reactions ranging from curious to extremely positive!

I feel stupid now for having written a book about my life, but I genuinely
hope that my words give you confidence that you are not alone.

That's a good success story! Thank you for sharing it. 🙂

I felt wonderful when I finally started talking about it. Girls put their feet in my lap all the time now, just because they know it makes me happy. I have no regrets about letting it into the open. 🙂